After long-term research, psychologists believe that childhood is the golden age to cultivate healthy psychology, and all kinds of habits and behavior patterns are laid at this time. If there is a good start, children's morality and intelligence will develop healthily in the future. If the child's mental health is neglected at this time, it will be more difficult or even impossible to hope that the child will have a sound personality and healthy psychology when he grows up.
Therefore, parents should attach great importance to cultivating children's normal psychological principles. So, what should we pay attention to
First, be careful not to care too much about children.
It is easy for children to be too self-centered and think that everyone should respect him, and as a result, they become arrogant people.
Second, don't bribe children.
Let children know the relationship between rights and obligations from an early age, and they cannot enjoy rights without fulfilling their obligations.
Third, don't get too close to children.
Children should be encouraged to live, study and play with people of the same age, so as to learn how to get along with others.
Fourth, don't force children to do incompetent things.
Most of children's self-confidence comes from the success of doing things. Forcing them to do things they can't do will only hurt their self-confidence.
5. Don't be too strict with children, demanding too much, or even insulting them.
This will make children feel inferior, timid, escape and other unhealthy psychology, or lead to abnormal behaviors such as resistance, cruelty, lying and running away from home.
6. Don't cheat and frighten children unnecessarily.
Scaring children will lose the authority of parents in their children's minds, and children will not listen to all warnings in the future.
Seven, don't criticize or laugh at children in front of friends.
This will cause children to hold grudges and be shy, which will greatly damage their self-esteem.
Eight, don't praise children too much.
Children get achievements in doing things, but only a little praise. Excessive praise will make children infected with the bad psychology of fishing for fame and reputation.
Nine, don't be moody to children.
This will make children sensitive, suspicious, emotionally unstable and timid.
10. Help the child analyze his environment.
Help children solve difficulties, not replace them. Children should be taught how to analyze and solve problems.
There are also some secrets of children's mental health development:
(1) Emotional investment-let children be happy every day.
A relaxed and happy mood can enable children to carry out various activities smoothly, and parents should always keep their children in high spirits. Children's emotional development is characterized by susceptibility to infection. In order for children to have a good emotional experience, parents should:
1, set an example for children to imitate, and always use the optimistic children of emotional contagion.
2. Parents should establish a harmonious and tacit relationship, so as to exert a subtle influence on their children. The child's face is a barometer of the relationship between parents, which is the truth.
3. Make emotional investment in children. Campbell, an American psychologist, suggested that parents should make corresponding spiritual investments to make their children mentally healthy. Look at the child affectionately, have warm physical contact with the child, and care for the child wholeheartedly.
(2) Respect children-let children feel that their parents are amiable and respectable.
1. Respect children. Although young, she should be regarded as an independent member of the family, with her own feelings and needs. Putting down the shelf of parents and bending down to talk to children can reduce the sense of dignity, make children feel that their parents are equal to themselves, and maintain a happy mood and harmonious relationship with their families.
2. Parents should be polite to their children, and don't beat and scold them. No matter what good things or achievements children have done, parents should congratulate them and never be stingy with their appreciation. The correct attitude of parents towards their children should be to love but not to flatter, to be strict and amiable. Children who grow up in such a democratic, free, relaxed and gentle atmosphere will inevitably show good qualities such as enthusiasm, frankness, liveliness, cheerfulness, self-confidence, strong activity ability, friendliness to people and strong social adaptability.
(3) Persuasiveness-let children know themselves.
1. Whether children can correctly understand themselves and evaluate their abilities is an important indicator of their mental health. In order to help children form a good self-image, develop their self-esteem and improve their self-awareness level, parents should let their children realize that there is only one me in the world. I am unique, with a beautiful name, short black hair, small mouth and big eyes; I am very capable. I can eat, dress, cut paper, draw pictures and play the piano by myself. I can walk, run, jump and climb with my own feet. I can smell different smells with my nose and hear all kinds of wonderful sounds with my ears. I have many advantages, but I also have some shortcomings. However, through hard work, I can correct my shortcomings and be a good boy.
2. It is also important to shape children's good character. When cultivating children's independence, parents should educate them in daily life and let them do their own things; When cultivating children's self-control, parents should work with their children to formulate rules and regulations, encourage their children to be captains of family inspections, and take the lead in observing family rules and laws.
3. In order to make children adapt to collective life and get better survival and development, parents must also cultivate children's awareness of cooperation with others, train children's cooperative behavior and increase their cooperative ability. To make children realize the value of cooperation with others, they can play games. For example, parents and children play a game to help the blind cross the road, let the children dress up as blind first, and parents help them cross the road; Then parents pretend to be blind and let their children cross the road. The road to children's growth cannot be smooth sailing. Parents should pay attention to cultivate their children's skills to overcome failures and eliminate fears, hone their will and improve their ability to resist setbacks.
(d) The correct way to raise children-raise and educate children personally as much as possible.
On the one hand, children have a strong psychological need to be with their parents. If this need is not met, it is easy to produce unhealthy psychology such as emotional hunger, abandonment and so on. On the other hand, if children are brought up by grandparents, they are easily spoiled, and the gap between educational level and concept often leads to incorrect education. If children are raised by other relatives, they often feel nervous and anxious because they are afraid that their children will not be able to give up their education. These are all unfavorable factors.
(E) the impact of the environment-to create a good emotional environment
Family is the first environment that children come into contact with. Parents' correct attitude towards children, harmonious family atmosphere, strict and appropriate education methods and parents' exemplary role are the necessary conditions for children to form healthy personality and behavior. The relationship between family members should be harmonious, equal, caring and loving. Children living and growing in a good emotional environment will feel free, comfortable, warm and happy, thus forming a healthy personality. Parents should also pay more attention to their children's daily behaviors and psychological changes, especially when the environment changes, such as school transfer and family relocation, so that some bad emotions can be effectively controlled at the beginning.
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