Accept yourself: whether you like or hate yourself is another criterion to measure mental health. Mental health requires not only that you can truly know yourself, but also that you can accept yourself happily. Accepting yourself happily doesn't mean tolerating or appreciating your own shortcomings and mistakes, but you can still like yourself, don't hate yourself, and don't deceive yourself. Even though there are some shortcomings, you should strive to make yourself develop better.
Adjust yourself: personal behavior is always constrained by social norms and environment, and needs often do not conform to norms and environment, resulting in conflicts. Therefore, individuals must constantly adjust themselves to maintain a harmonious relationship between individuals and the environment. People who can't or can't self-regulate often have psychological problems, and only those who often self-regulate are psychologically healthy.
The above three aspects of mental health standards are often reflected in everyone's emotions in daily life.
—— Selected from "TCM Health Preservation"
The analytical language of critical forest;
It is easy to know others, but difficult to know yourself. Just as everyone knows that listening is false and seeing is true, the fact is that our eyes often deceive ourselves. In this world, we should be the people who are most familiar with ourselves, but we often lose ourselves because we are too familiar. Don't take it for granted that you know yourself. It takes a long time to know your truest self. The longer we immerse ourselves in society, the easier it is to lose ourselves, so we will keep looking for goals, people, things or things that make us feel at ease and satisfied, but we will always fall into anxiety again after a short period of satisfaction. Because we have lost the most important self. Why do you always say that a baby's eyes are the cleanest and brightest? Because as a baby, I am the purest myself. Apart from the desire to eat and sleep, there is no complicated desire to pollute those clear eyes. Taoist practice says: can it be as soft as a baby? The return to nature pursued by Taoism also refers to this! You may find it difficult, but what is easy in this world?
It is not easy to accept yourself frankly, whether it is good or bad, let alone happily. You may think, it is not easy to accept yourself, who will hate yourself! Accepting yourself completely happily and being completely self-centered are two completely different concepts. Accepting yourself means being able to know yourself correctly. Both advantages and disadvantages include the willingness to actively improve and perfect oneself while facing up to one's shortcomings and mistakes-that is, to constantly improve one's personal cultivation. And completely self-centered, they are the best, and they are all right. Anyone who doubts himself has either a low IQ or a low EQ. This is a morbid psychology. The actual psychology of this kind of person is often: demand others by the standards of saints and demand yourself by the standards of bitches! In fact, it is precisely because their hearts do not recognize themselves and accept themselves that they need the outside world to constantly ask others to accept themselves to strengthen their sense of self-acceptance.
A mature adult should have enough self-regulating mind in the face of changes in life. It is understandable and acceptable to lose control of emotions for a while, but the time of losing control should be shortened as far as possible and the scope of injury should be as small as possible. People with extreme emotions in life are often people with poor self-regulation ability. Self-psychological adjustment is an active and passive mechanism. Initiative is the embodiment of individual will control, while passivity is forcibly adjusted by reality. There is an old saying in China, do your best and listen to your destiny. On the other hand, this sentence is no problem. Listen to destiny and do your best! China people accept it, but never accept it! That's why there is a Taoist saying that I am the master of my life! Melody. Environmental external factors cannot be changed by manpower, so start by changing yourself! All cultures in China are based on seeking inward rather than outward. In terms of personnel, people should learn to adjust themselves in time to adapt to different time and environment! Let yourself adapt to each other and live in harmony with your time, space and environment as much as possible. -this is the most basic cognition of the unity of man and nature!