Unreasonable suspicion, so it doesn't help; If you are too suspicious, you will hurt yourself and others.
Doubt is to make something out of nothing, to be uneasy about people and things, and to be too cautious. With doubt, we can't make logical judgments and inferences from the objective reality, but rely on a little superficial phenomenon to make subjective assumptions, exaggerate and distort things at will, and draw an unrealistic conclusion, or preconceived, first set the framework, then observe what people say, and even make things out of nothing, taking hallucinations seriously and treating some irrelevant phenomena as factual materials, which will lead to tension.
Suspicion makes a small knot in one's heart develop into a long-term disagreement in adult communication. Since ancient times, I don't know how many people have alienated their friends, interrupted their friendship and even ruined their country because of suspicion. Doubt is really hurting others and yourself.
Doubt is torturing yourself. The allusion to the shadow of a bow and snake is a good example. The bow shadow is reflected in the glass, like a small snake swimming. The drinker thought he had really swallowed the little "snake", and the more he thought about it, the more disgusting he became. As a result, he was very ill. There is nothing in this world, people doubt themselves, doubt others too much, and finally ask for it.
Unreasonable doubts about others, seemingly unprovoked, actually have an end, and doubts stem from trivial selfishness. "Take the heart of a villain as the belly of a gentleman". People who are too suspicious are always afraid that others will compete for what they love, ask for and get, and that others will harm their own interests. They are always suspicious and have many worries. You don't trust others, can others trust you? Although you have to guard against people, you should always be on your guard and be suspicious everywhere. Will you have intimate friends?
Everyone has doubts sometimes. Doubt is a normal psychological activity that people protect themselves in society and prevent themselves, but the degree of doubt is serious. It is not normal to be too suspicious and sensitive.
Sensitive and suspicious, usually not only about external things, but also about their own state of doubt and anxiety. Some people are introverted, not cheerful and open-minded, and haggle over everything, resulting in imperfect and flawed personalities. Although it can't be considered as a mental symptom, the incidence of most fine diseases is inextricably linked with personality defects. It can be said that in most mental patients, excessive doubt is the main performance.
They are often involved in things around them that have nothing to do with them. For example, when they see others spitting everywhere, they feel that they look down on themselves; When they hear others mention their surnames, they think they are talking, even mocking and cursing themselves.
Although excessive doubt is not equal to mental illness, it may lead to mental illness, and its harm is obvious. Of course, moderate vigilance is naturally beneficial to protect yourself, but if you are too suspicious, any action against others will be regarded as unfavorable to yourself and will certainly be of no benefit.
Doubt stems from mental health. Suspicious people are narrow-minded, haggle over every ounce, be swayed by considerations of gain and loss and get along with others. There are always more bad people than good people in their eyes, so they have fewer friends and no intimate friends. Suspicious people are erratic in their thoughts, indecisive in their hearts, easily angered, out of thin air and suspicious of everything. Because of unhealthy psychology, you will often have a lot of troubles, find trouble for yourself, and often regret it afterwards. Hua Tuo, a famous doctor in ancient China, famously said, "Doubt is also a disease." Doubt is a mental illness and a "hidden killer" of physical and mental health.
To abandon suspicion, we must first strengthen our ideological cultivation and open our minds. We should be more peaceful and indifferent, think more about the benefits of others, be more kind and tolerant, and communicate more with the outside world. Be open-minded when something goes wrong, but don't get into trouble. "The mind and vision should be particularly broad."
Instead of being suspicious, we should be good at "opening the skylight" for ourselves and increasing the "transparency" in our hearts. When you have doubts about yourself, whether outside or at home, don't take them to heart. We should open our hearts to family members or related people in time, communicate more and talk more, boldly expose our doubts and resolve them in time. This not only lightens the burden in my heart, but also makes my relationship with Didi's family closer and closer, and naturally makes me farther and farther away from the ghosts.
The root of paranoia lies in oneself, and only by constantly defeating oneself can psychological paranoia be eliminated. If you overcome your own narrowness, you will be open-minded and cheerful; If you overcome your own extremes, you will act rationally; If you overcome your shallowness, you will be more tolerant; If you overcome loneliness, you will have more friendships. Even if you treat a disease, you must first overcome the fear of avoiding medical treatment, so that you can face up to the disease and overcome it ... Only by constantly defeating yourself can you usher in a beautiful, harmonious, comfortable and smooth life.
Someone said, "If we all know what others say about us behind our backs, I'm afraid we don't even have a friend." This is not a word that denies friendship between people. On the contrary, it can tell us that we don't have to seriously inquire about and care about the gossip behind it.
You know, people will talk about your shortcomings and shortcomings, and they will speak ill of you on impulse. This is human nature. Even if he is your friend, it doesn't prove that he is not a friend.
If you don't know, it's like you never happened.
However, if you are always worried about what others say about you behind your back, and you have to try your best to understand it, the messenger may exaggerate or distort things. In this way, an unintentional chat will turn into a serious intentional slander, which will definitely affect the feelings between friends.
I don't think it is necessary to be too serious in this respect; If you like your friend, you should defend him or whitewash him in front of the messenger. Because this is the best way to gain the trust of friends and put an end to gossip. Feelings between friends can't be built in a short time. In the process of communication with each other, regardless of minor grievances, properly eliminate minor misunderstandings and forgive each other's intentional or unintentional mistakes. , is the best way to consolidate and enhance friendship. Many people can't make a friend all their lives, because they are too haggle over every ounce. You know, how many people in the world have no shortcomings and are not careless? If others also care about our mistakes, then don't we also become helpless poor people?
Be considerate, appreciate the benefits of others, remember the benefits of others, forget your own mistakes, forgive your own shortcomings, and not deliberately criticize others, so that you can get a kind of peace of mind.
Having a considerate heart is like getting a key that can open the closed door.
Many years ago, a famous poet asked himself, "What can anyone in this world do to satisfy all the needs and desires of this world?" He thought about it all night, and then answered himself, "No one can do it."
Even the closest relatives can't do exactly as we ask. Even the closest and closest people can't be as perfect as we think and satisfy us. If you can realize this fact, it is part of the wisdom of life. Ignoring this point, or not seeing it clearly, we will not be satisfied with the status quo, so we hope to get more and ask for more. In this way, life is even more boring.
Humans are smart and shy. If you are inconsiderate, the other person will notice and close the door immediately, avoiding us like a clam shell.
So we often ask for more light, more love and more understanding.
You can't forgive yourself, but forgive others. That is, people often say, be strict with yourself, be lenient with others, and most importantly, never take revenge.
In life, we feel that some people seem to be somewhat cloudy; Some people always make you shudder and always want to stay away from him or her; Some people, even if you want to convince yourself to accept them, feel that you are always wary of them. The reason is simple: normal people can't accept people with distorted mentality and unbalanced mentality. They don't like such people, despise them and don't want to associate with them at all.
In fact, people with strong revenge sometimes want to communicate with others easily, but the revenge leaked from time to time in their bones is daunting. When revenge controls a person's soul, he can't control himself. From this moment on, Nemesis sentenced herself to life imprisonment. In this case, the Avengers have only one choice, and that is to choose loneliness.
Looking at any case about revenge, we will find that revenge is a terrible thing, which seems to be a pleasure on the surface, but revenge is often a double-edged sword, which hurts the other person's body and mind as well as himself. In life, more people may not have excessive words and deeds, but they will bury hatred for each other in their hearts. Although it has not caused great disaster because of strong self-control, the buried hatred bites his heart like a wild animal, which is very bitter and tired. Hatred is not the only way to solve the problem. Forgive others more and life may be better.
Forgiving others is not weakness, and a person who knows the usage of the word forgiveness will become his invisible weapon; On the negative side, you can avoid being involved in the whirlpool of useless revenge because of hatred. On the positive side, you can defeat the enemy who is unfavorable to him and further turn the enemy into a friend.
This article is true and reflects the adjustment of our psychological thoughts and mentality. In fact, we are born ordinary people, let ourselves be happy. Happiness is our goal. More understanding, tolerance, consideration and care are prerequisites for us to achieve our goals.
May the person you love love you more, and the person you miss miss you more!
Second, it is also a disease that "the suspect steals the axe".
Doubt is an excessive worry about one's health and psychological feelings, worrying or convinced that one's body and life have undergone serious changes, and stubbornly making a pathological explanation of one's feelings or signs of life that is inconsistent with reality, so that the whole body and mind are occupied by the resulting doubts, troubles and fears. The characteristics of this mental illness are: others' explanations and objective reality are not enough to eliminate their doubts.
Generally, such patients were severely disciplined or suffered misfortune in childhood, alienated from others and lacked emotional communication, and gradually developed into distrust of everyone. Such people tend to think highly of themselves, narrow-minded, neurotic, and love to think the worst when things go wrong. They always think that others are keeping everything from themselves, even catching shadows, listening to the wind is rain, and lacking communication skills with family and colleagues, which leads to tension in interpersonal relationships around them.
Modern psychological research shows that paranoia is a paranoid personality defect. Suspected patients are mostly timid and introverted people, especially white-collar workers. Doubt is a character defect. Suspicious people are narrow-minded, extreme in behavior, surly in character and incompatible with others. Sometimes they lead themselves into a blind alley of subjective imagination, exclude others and isolate themselves, which adds a lot of trouble to their study life, and some even affect their normal study life.
Suspicious people should do a certain intensity of physical exercise, get a sense of relaxation after fatigue, accelerate blood circulation, increase aerobic metabolism, and help patients get rid of doubts and relax their emotions. Running, skipping rope, swimming and fitness dancing are all ideal choices, but you should do what you can according to your physical condition.
Lack of B vitamins and certain amino acids in the diet can also induce or aggravate hypochondria. Therefore, foods rich in trace elements, such as coarse grains, carrots, fish, animal liver and seafood, can enhance physical fitness, stabilize physical function and be beneficial to mental health.
Family members should help hypochondriac patients to have a comprehensive, meticulous and authoritative physical examination, and exclude physical diseases according to the examination results. If the suspicion affects your life and work, you should go to a professional psychotherapy institution for supportive psychotherapy.