Both of them lost their parents, but Daiyu at least enjoyed the happiness of being held in the palm of her parents' hands for more than ten years. Xiangyun was directly an infant, and her parents died. Xiangyun has basically never enjoyed the love of her parents. Daiyu has Baoyu and a miserable grandmother, so Xiangyun lives alone with her uncle menstruation, who is also a sponsor. Daiyu is much happier than Xiangyun.
In terms of these two points alone, Daiyu is much happier than Xiangyun, but she seldom feels sorry for Xiangyun. There are roughly three reasons.
One is that Xiangyun and Daiyu live in different environments, and the other is that their elders are different, so are their growing environments. Since her mother died, Daiyu has lived in Jia's house. In the middle, Lin Ruhai died, and Daiyu went back for a year. The rest of the time, Daiyu basically grew up in Jiafu. Daiyu has been with Grandmother Jia, who is Daiyu's grandmother. She loves Daiyu more than Baoyu, which is very lucky for Daiyu.
Xiangyun lived with Jia Mu for a period of time when she was very young, because historians still have elders. Later, she lived with the historian's aunt and uncle. Uncle and aunt have their own children, and the situation of historians is not as good as before, so their love for Xiangyun is very limited. Even to save face, Xiangyun was allowed to wear a lot of clothes in summer before coming to Jiafu. In fact, they didn't really love Xiangyun.
Because Daiyu and Xiangyun grew up in different environments from their elders, they received different care.
Second, they have different personalities. Daiyu is weak and loves to cry, and Xiangyun is strong and independent. Daiyu and Xiangyun have completely different personalities. Daiyu is a weak and crying type, and Xiangyun is as careless as a boy. Everyone will love Daiyu more than them. This may also be because "crying children have candy to eat."
Xiangyun is that kind of super cheerful and free personality. Obviously, she had to do needlework in the middle of the night in The Historian, but if Baochai hadn't inadvertently mentioned it, I'm afraid no one would have known about Xiangyun. Xiangyun is always in a hurry and twittering. People will not only think that she is troubled, but also think that she is happy, so people will pay less attention to her.
Fireworks are set off on the Lantern Festival. Mrs. Wang holds Baoyu and the old lady holds Daiyu. Aunt Xue said she wanted to protect Xiangyun, but Xiangyun said she was not afraid. There are many such things, and everyone really thinks that Xiangyun doesn't need protection, so naturally she doesn't care so much about her.
Xiangyun thinks Baochai is very kind to her, because Baochai held a "crab banquet" for her and took some care of her. She even said, "If you have a sister like Baochai, even if you don't have parents, it will hinder you." This shows that Xiangyun is quite loveless, just because she doesn't talk, everyone ignores her.
Third, Xiangyun will find her own happiness. Daiyu is in poor health and needs more care. Although Xiangyun was miserable and had a bad life, she never took these things to heart. She will find her own happiness in a small space, because she can always maintain an optimistic personality. These are all places where everyone likes Xiang Yun, but they will forget that she also needs protection and love because of her.
Daiyu was born weak, and she just learned to eat and took medicine. Every spring and autumn, Daiyu will have a relapse, so Daiyu has always grown up eating bitter Chinese medicine, and Daiyu is that kind of sentimental character, so it will appear that Daiyu is weak.
In this way, everyone will involuntarily care and take care of Daiyu. Even Baochai, although she always envied Daiyu in her heart, could not help but turn her enemies into friends.
Generally speaking, Xiang Yun's life is obviously not as good as Dai Yu's, but people seldom sympathize with her. The main reason is that everyone didn't see Xiangyun's predicament, because Xiangyun has been very happy, so everyone will think that she is very happy, because she doesn't know that Xiangyun's life is not easy, and she is as lively and fun as a boy. People will really like Xiangyun, but they won't care much about her.
This is also the reason why Xiangyun will not "show weakness". Xiangyun is very competitive, and besides, the historian's uncle and aunt have no time to love and take care of her, so Xiangyun has developed a strong character, never showing it to everyone, and has been slowly repairing her injuries in the corner. Therefore, we also need to give more love to those careless, lively and cheerful people around us. They don't say anything, they just need more care and care.
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