Love health.

As for the emotional relationship, I find a sentence very reasonable: "When you don't need love, you will get healthy love." Because when you need love, you often want to escape the problem that you want to change through love. You want to fill the hole in your heart through another person. If the other person can't love you in the way you need and help you fill the hole in your heart, you will be dissatisfied with TA. However, it is hard to meet a person in the world who can treat you exactly the way you need, because no one exists to satisfy others, and everyone must satisfy himself first.

Actually, it's more than love. This is true of any relationship. When you want to prove your sense of value through others, you often can't get a healthy relationship. Because your sense of value is based on the attitude and evaluation of others, you will focus on catering to others in exchange for their goodwill and praise, and naturally you can't focus on improving yourself. At the same time, different people value different things, which means different attitudes and evaluations to you. If you want to get everyone's praise, you will spend a lot of energy to meet different requirements, and you will be exhausted at the end of the day. In the long run, you will feel more and more tired, but you will stand still, and even those who originally valued themselves will gradually despise themselves. This futile pain is simply hell.