How to avoid children's mental health problems
To prevent and reduce the occurrence of adolescent psychological problems, we must take comprehensive measures combining family, school and society. Bian Xiao gives you some advice on how to make children grow up healthily:
1. Keep close relationship with children.
Now many parents have a misunderstanding, that is, they pay too much attention to their children's education, but forget to maintain a good relationship with their children. In fact, it is meaningful to carry out education on the basis of maintaining good relations. Psychologists advocate that "relationship is greater than education, and relationship precedes education". If you find a problem with your child, you must first improve the parent-child relationship. Children are not satisfied with the intimate relationship between their parents and themselves, so they will have rebellious psychology. For example, if his parents ask him to study hard, the more he talks, the less he reads. Only by forming a relationship of mutual trust with children can parents' guidance be realized smoothly.
2. Don't compare with "other people's children"
Children's age and mind have the characteristics of their age. Don't overemphasize consistency. Parents and teachers should not always compare their children rigidly, but encourage them to become what they want to be.
3. It is better to use "reason" to impress children with "emotion"
Do parents put "emotion" first or "reason" first? Family is a place to talk about "love" rather than just "reason", especially for the education of children in the rebellious period of youth.
4. Tolerance and restraint should be balanced, and children should be allowed to make mistakes appropriately.
Parents and teachers should treat their children equally, and give them the necessary constraints while tolerating them. Excessive tolerance will lead to doting, while excessive harshness will destroy parent-child and teacher-student relationship. Children's happy character will not be cultivated in reprimand. There is no contradiction between tolerating children and restraining their bad behavior. The foundation of children's happiness begins with encouragement and praise.
Teenagers often have strong self-esteem. If a child is praised only for his good grades, he will feel that good grades are good children, and good grades are often not completely controlled by children's efforts, so children will be more easily irritated. If you can see your child's efforts and praise his process of doing things, it will often make your child more motivated to continue to work hard.
At the same time, teachers and parents should allow children to make mistakes that will be made at every age, which psychologists have slowly summed up in clinical practice, and the result of making such mistakes is often good. Those seemingly silly mistakes are resources for children's growth, not obstacles. Children who have never experienced pain are easily knocked down by pain. Only when they have experienced pain can they learn to manage and release their emotions.
5. Pay more attention to children.
Observe the child's mind in communication with the child. Family should be a place where children can fully express themselves. Parents should give their children more opportunities to express themselves, so that they can open their hearts and express themselves without making too many judgments. When a child speaks, listening is the most beautiful and warm touch.
If we want our children to be unprepared for us, teachers and parents usually need to pay more attention to their children and ask themselves these questions:
Do I know what the child is thinking?
What are children afraid of?
Am I overreacting?
Do I know my child's social circle?
Did I communicate with my children equally?
6. Let children get closer to nature and participate in practical activities.
Children should be encouraged to contact nature and society. After school, let the children stretch their bodies and minds in the open space. On the rest day, let the children bask in the sun under the blue sky and on the grass and get close to nature. Encourage children to participate in social practice activities, experience different school roles, family roles and social roles, and experience colorful life, so that students can often hone in activities, actively overcome difficulties in activities, and cultivate perfect personality through self-discipline, self-discipline and self-education.
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Teachers and parents should know which abnormal signals are children seeking help.
Teenagers themselves are in a rebellious period, and academic pressure and parent-child contradiction can easily lead to some psychological problems. If schools and families adopt radical education methods instead of timely guidance, it is more likely to be counterproductive. Searching for information, online venting, abnormal mood, pessimistic tendency, decreased interest, frequent recent major crises, sorting things out, long-term high pressure. If such a signal appears in teenagers, it may be a distress signal.
Teachers and parents can observe children's changes from these five aspects:
1. Physiological changes: found that children do not want to eat, overeating, vomiting after meals, insomnia and early awakening, endocrine disorders, etc.
2. Emotional changes: I found that children changed from lively and cheerful to sentimental.
3. Behavior change: It is found that the child's behavior is significantly different from before.
4. Academic changes: I found that children are not focused in class and can't listen.
5. Changes in interpersonal relationships: When you find that your child has no friends, or the relationship between classmates has changed significantly, you should focus on it. Generally speaking, if a child has emotional problems for more than two weeks, teachers and parents should face up to the possibility of psychological problems.