"Smelly, did someone fart?"
"ah! This faucet sounds like peeing! "
Many parents have had similar experiences. At a certain age, the baby will say "shit and fart" all day and take it as fun. Lovely children's voices are like uncontrolled loudspeakers, spreading these indecent words everywhere. At this time, the adults around us are often in a very embarrassing situation and don't know what to do. In fact, parents first need to understand that it is normal for babies to say "shit and fart". Babies of different ages are keen to say "shit fart" for different reasons.
0 1 This is their special "exploration way"
When parents hear "shit and fart", the embarrassing reaction that parents can't hide can arouse their curiosity and make them happy to continue saying these words, and use them as a tool to explore language boundaries and know which words will cause what kind of reactions.
Coping style:
Eliminate the particularity of shit and fart with a normal heart
Adults are afraid to say these words because they have been labeled as "filthy", "uncivilized" and "dirty" in their minds, and they think it is "impolite" to say these words. But in the world of babies, these words don't have any colored labels. They regard "shit and fart" as their own "hands and feet", so they blurt it out without hesitation. This is the so-called "children's words are boundless".
For babies who love to say "shit and fart", parents need to treat them with a normal heart and don't have to specifically respond to these words. Especially when the baby says these words in public, don't express strong emotions. He should tell the baby calmly, which is not appropriate. In addition, you can also use some popular science books, such as Rabbah and Who's on My Head, to introduce the knowledge about excrement to your baby and answer your baby's doubts positively. Over time, when the baby really understands the meaning and applicable context of these words, he will not deliberately say these words at inappropriate times.
This is their "game and social way"
Generally speaking, the indecent words that parents hear from older children are usually different from those of babbling babies. Older children's "farts" are often more creative. They will adapt such words into various catchy children's songs and jokes and sing them among classmates and playmates.
This is because children aged 2.5-6 are in the critical period of the development of social norms, and they begin to like making friends and participating in group activities. Through socialization, children's language expression ability has improved compared with childhood. Their daily farce entertainment is not limited to body movements, but extends to language.
At this time, languages such as "shit and fart" are a very suitable social tool for them. Adapting and "spoofing" and even saying some indecent words to each other are mainly fun for children. We can understand it as a farce game in language.
Coping style:
Integrate into children's language games and guide them positively.
Politeness and upbringing are of course important. However, children at a certain stage are happy to say these words, which does not mean impolite. Just like adults, they are polite in public, but in private at home, or with good friends, it is inevitable to make jokes.
In fact, most children will also consider situations and objects when playing such games, and will not completely ignore the occasion. For example, parents will find that when children are keen to say "shit", many playmates of the same age around Ta like to play like this, but children rarely say these words in front of teachers. At this time, the rude stop has hindered their normal social interaction and hit their "creative desire."
In the process of "verbal slapstick", the main purpose of most children is not to attack others, but to show their creativity. Based on this, what parents should do is to mention some children at appropriate times, so that they can talk to them positively, and at the same time, let them not use these words to maliciously humiliate others. Parents can even try to join their children's "shit and fart" forum, which can better guide them and tell them when they are joking. It can be said that it is inappropriate to say these things on any occasion.
In addition, children around the age of 6 have a general concept of the rules of this world. Even if they occasionally use inappropriate words on certain occasions, they will often understand them after being calmly stopped and criticized. This process is also an opportunity for children to further understand social norms and adjust their behavior, which is a very good learning experience.
"Write at the end"—
As mentioned earlier, words like "shit and fart" have completely different cultural meanings and specific functions from adults in the world of children. Therefore, if parents want to guide their babies, they need to understand their language style, accept and admit this difference, and then try to understand the reasons and significance behind it.
Not only that, for all seemingly "incomprehensible" behaviors of children, parents need to find the source first, instead of simply and rudely denying children, so as to become close partners on the road of children's growth and accompany them to "better themselves."