From the above analysis, we can find that the pressure faced by college students is largely due to unclear self-planning. Therefore, it is easy to cast a wide net, without focus, lack of energy and aimlessness. It is also easier to be sensitive, bound by peers, and has too much execution.
With the external environment and our own demands, and through continuous trial and understanding, we know more about the outside world and ourselves, and our goal definition is also a gradual and dynamic process. Self-awareness often needs to be deepened in the constant friction, collision and contrast of external environment and experience events. Therefore, what we need to do more is to try. And keep thinking in the process. First of all, you need to believe that you have the ability to think and answer your own questions. Secondly, bravely talk with the outside world, surroundings and self with an open mind, and improve and develop yourself through expression and listening. At the same time, in the process of these attempts, we should also establish our own core, that is, independent and spontaneous self-judgment and rejection of sensitivity. Broaden your horizons, don't care about the gains and losses of one place at a time, but pay attention to the long-term development in five years and ten years.
2.？ Technical scheme, self-discipline implementation
In the process of planning, we can often describe the general direction, but the ideal peak is on the other side, with a river in the middle and fog on it. We don't know where the bridge is and where the road is. Everything is difficult at the beginning, so are the choices of universities. In confusion, besides the encouragement of family and the support of friends, affirmation of oneself is as important as patience. Self-affirmation, self-acceptance, self-forgiveness, digestion of emotions, and firm belief that the gap can be filled with time. There is no royal road, and the road is to be found.
At the same time, as mentioned above, the search for direction is inseparable from practice, and the landing of direction is also inseparable from practice. Corresponding to execution, procrastination, and the resulting lack of self-control. What follows is not only the loss of control of one's schedule, the decline of state, physical and mental discomfort, but also the decline of output quality, thus forming a vicious circle.
3.？ Reject "lemon" and be sincerely delighted.
The online phrase "I am a lemon", that is, "I am very sour", comes from ridicule and envy. In a relatively lovely tone, it more or less expresses the inner imbalance, even the distortion under peer pressure. University is a fast iterative period, and the situation of differentiated competition is too common, which also brings secret competition and even misconduct under the conflict of interests. In this regard, students think that the "lemon" mentality is very undesirable. This will amplify the opposition and differences between us and the people around us. No matter whether there are big or small interest disputes, this will not only bring stronger comparison or even comparison to each individual, but also lose many precious friendships. Only by treating each other sincerely and applauding sincerely can we gain more sincere friendship and a broader world.