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Zhao Yukun, Executive Deputy Director of Positive Psychology Research Center of Tsinghua University Academy of Social Sciences.
The best growth is self-growth and the best control is self-control. As parents, the most important thing is to guide children to learn to think independently, make independent decisions, take responsibility for themselves, fully release the internal driving force of children's self-improvement, practice, experience the confusion of growth, and gain the courage to grow up. This is not chicken soup, but a guide translated by Ye Zhuang to guide parents and teachers to change their educational concepts and acquire educational skills. Based on more than 60 years' experience in children's education, the author combines theory with practice from general development theory to recent brain science research results, which is easy to understand, vivid and interesting, and worth recommending reading!
——
Gao, Professor of Psychology Department of Southwest University, Doctoral Supervisor.
As an American psychology professor and the mother of two children, I not only led the team to study children's psychology for many years, but also read a lot of Chinese and English books on family rearing and children's mental health education in my spare time. When I first read the English version of the book "Self-driven Growth" in the bookstore, I found that it was really a book I had been looking forward to for a long time, and it gave me the feeling that every sentence hit my heart.
With concise and fluent language and vivid and real cases, the book tells readers how to consciously cultivate children's inner drive in study and life, cultivate children's self-control and self-discipline, and cultivate children's ability to be responsible for their own decisions and behaviors. As the author said in the book, this does not mean that parents should do less. On the contrary, it requires parents and children to cooperate, do more, and do it strategically and wisely. So how to do it? At the end of each chapter, this book gives practical guidance to help parents improve their parenting ability more pertinently.
I am glad to see that Mr. Ye Zhuang has translated this book carefully. I recommend this book to all prospective parents, parents, grandparents and workers in the field of children's education. I believe this book will bring you a lot of new thoughts and greatly promote the practice of parenting. Perhaps, the child's life has also changed.
-Song Hairong, Associate Professor and Doctoral Supervisor of Psychology Department, University of Oklahoma.
This is a book with a clear point of view. The author reminds us that if we always want to arrange and plan our children and use carrots and sticks to drive them to act according to our wishes, then it is difficult for children to grow into self-driven self-disciplinarians. Parents need to hide behind the scenes if they want their children to go on stage.
This book fully explains how parents' excessive interference with their children undermines their enthusiasm and self-control. The author puts forward practical methods to improve children's internal drive and self-discipline from two aspects: family life and school study. This book can give us the courage and evidence for parents in China to resist the wind of excessive study.
—— Wang Yirui, registered clinical psychologist in Australia, Ph.D. in Psychology, University of Queensland.
Combining the research results of brain science, with a sense of control throughout the book, and paying attention to the cultivation of children's self-discipline and independence, Self-driven Growth is a good book for parents to let go of their anxiety, regain their sense of control, and let children develop their own sense of control, master self-discipline and achieve independence, which is worth recommending to every parent, educator and researcher in the field of development education.
—— Lin Sien, Ph.D. in Cognitive Neuroscience, Institute of Psychology, Chinese University of Hong Kong, co-founder and CEO of Talking Brain (Beijing) Co., Ltd.
When we control our children too tightly, we unconsciously become a standard problem-solving machine, taking away the opportunity for children to become strong, confident and brave. There are no passive requirements, no ratings, no rewards, but it is precisely this "self-driven time" that is an indispensable experience for children to succeed.
—— Fan Deng, founder and chief content officer of Fandeng Reading Club.
This is a parenting book that can relieve parents' anxiety. It has a list of tasks and questions and answers that can help parents cope with their children's growth problems. A curious, curious and self-disciplined child is a godsend. But probably, we will ignore his anxiety, stress and unhappiness. In fact, if parents are not in a state of excessive stress, anxiety, anger or fatigue, they can better comfort a baby, deal with a naughty child and better face a rebellious teenager.
We followed the two authors and learned to deal with the problems that worried us. At the same time, we should remember that parents' anxiety-free state is the best environment for their children, and this anxiety-free state cannot be disguised.
Writer Miao Wei
Self-driven children express themselves vividly in English, and the highest level of self-discipline is self-driving, just like putting a perpetual motion machine on life. I think Mr Ye Zhuang's translation is more vivid. There is an old saying in China that "when you are busy outside, you must settle down first." If you want to change the world with your own strength, you must first learn to control yourself. People who want to read this book not only know how to make their children more conscious, but also know how to make themselves more self-disciplined.
—— Guo'er Zhangyang, a famous program host and the founder of Jam Story, a children's audio reading platform.
Want to know how to make children more self-disciplined and active in learning? This is a good parenting book, with principles and methods, and full of dry goods. From the perspective of psychology and neuroscience, the two authors tell you the answer in simple terms with various real cases.
What is more commendable is that the translator's translation is popular and interesting, and even parents with zero foundation can easily understand it.
-Qin Yu Hui, an outstanding respondent in the field of psychology in Zhihu, a member of the Chinese Psychological Society, and a master's degree in education from the University of Pennsylvania.
Compared with the decision to trust their children, many parents insist on taking care of everything from homework to making friends. Stix Luther and Johnson had a simple suggestion for these parents: Stop. Don't think of yourself as your child's boss, try to be your child's consultant.
-National Radio * * *
What Stix Luther and Johnson are concerned about is that in today's era, children are always isolated from the sense of control over their personal lives, unable to do what they think is meaningful, pursuing success and experiencing failure on the premise of self-awareness. According to the two authors, although children nowadays love to stare at electronic screens, this is only a small problem, while parents and teachers who are eager for their children's success are just bigger problems. Adults unconsciously take away the opportunities that belong to their children-those that make them strong and confident and can achieve themselves.
-Scientific American
If you want to recommend books to parents of children of all ages, then I think this book is suitable for children from preschool to senior three.
-Atomic Mother Ellie North
When children are controlled too tightly, parents can easily become part of the problems they need to solve unconsciously. Through the deep combination of clinical practice and educational consultation, what Stix Ruud and Johnson wrote hit the nail on the head, exposing the long-term problems faced by many families now, and giving practical and targeted guidance to let parents solve the problems to a certain extent ... This is a must-read for all educators and parents.
-Sir Ken Robinson, an educator, was selected as a best-selling author in The New York Times and the author of Creative Schools.
Madeleine Levin
If you are still worried and don't know whether too much pressure and narrow understanding of success will really hurt your children, then Self-driven Growth must be your must-read. There are many books that illustrate the influence of stress on children's development through some anecdotes and clinical cases. However, in this book, Stix Ruud and Johnson rely on detailed research results to explain why children do not thrive as we expected.
A healthy child should have a healthy brain. On the one hand, the two authors prove that constant pressure of grades is a kind of poison to children; On the other hand, they also reveal the true colors of another way to guide children's healthy development. It is no exaggeration to say that Self-Driven Growth is one of the most original and authoritative books to cultivate children's health, tenacity and purpose.
-Dr. Madeleine Levin, author of "Giving Children Abundance That Money Can't Buy"
Self-driven growth is a fascinating, revolutionary and intelligent job, which enables parents to have the courage, methods and consciousness to reduce the toxic pressure faced by their children, thus realizing their perseverance, pursuit of success and positive development. Every parent needs to know something about books-we should trust children and let them have more control over their lives.
-Dr. Tina Payne Blethen, a whole-brain child and one of the brains.
Sometimes, the most helpful thing parents can do is to give their children less restraint. In this humanistic and thoughtful work, the author puts the latest brain science achievements into practical suggestions, telling parents how to let their children wander by themselves, when to intervene and when to let go. Read this book and your children will thank you.
-Paul Tough was selected as a best-selling author in The New York Times and wrote How Children Succeed.
This book has a rigorous and in-depth perspective, talking about how to let children correctly master the ability of self-reliance, and also showing us to what extent parents can intervene to ensure the best development of children. The book also talks about how to make children truly independent and at the same time keep themselves away from entanglement in this process.
-Andrew Solomon, the author of Away from the Tree.
Self-driven growth can guide parents to find the most suitable "degree" between ambition and laissez-faire. Based on years of work experience and cutting-edge research results, Stix Ruud and Johnson elaborated a series of concise and feasible suggestions in their books.
-Dr. Lisa Damour, author of Untying the Knot.
This book, like a fighter, has dealt a precise blow to the anxiety of destroying children and killing their talents. This unique book shines a light into the darkness, where there are weariness and fear of exams, long-term lack of sleep, showing off comparisons on social media all day, and various toxic pressures that endanger children. But Stix Luther and Johnson will not only find these "demons" in the dark, but also "hunt" them. The content of this book is humorous, profound and well-founded, which can help your children study efficiently and have fun. This is really required reading.
-Ron Suskind, Pulitzer Prize-winning journalist and author of the animated film Life.
Stix Luther and Johnson proved by reason that if parents restrict their children too tightly, their self-confidence, mental health and ability will be affected. Through a large number of easy-to-understand and informative studies, they revealed in Self-driven Growth that there is indeed a connection between the pressure of academic competition and the anxiety and depression that are common among children today. This work, which may bring changes to the way of education, is a timely rain for parents.
-Judith Warner, author of Perfect Madness: Mothers in Anxiety Times.
Do you remember some activities you have participated in before? They are not done in class, nor are they passive sports activities, but simply for you to enjoy. They are neither rated nor rewarded, but it is this "self-driven time" that is the necessary experience for children to succeed.
-Reno Skonaz, author of "Unleashing Angry Children"
The author of this book has observed the difficulties faced by many teenagers from both macro and micro perspectives. For contemporary education, this is an unparalleled reference book, which is enough to squeeze those worthless parenting books out of the bookshelf.
-"Reading School" (book list)
In order to help parents adapt their children to the fierce competition in school and life, Stix Luther and Johnson provided a series of resources-compassionate and well-founded suggestions and strategies. The authors give convincing examples to tell parents what to do to make their children feel love, trust and support from pressure.
-"Publishers Weekly"
For China parents who are generally anxious at present, self-driven growth is a good medicine to wake up in time. The book not only contains the principles of brain science, psychology and pedagogy, but also tells the author's decades of educational experience and demonstrates a fundamental truth in parenting: the most important thing for parents is not to make their children succeed, but to make their children work hard for a good life. Damage to children's long-term motivation for temporary achievements or performance will not be worth the loss or even endless troubles. Fortunately, this book also gives detailed operation methods and suggestions, which can help you find the motivation of life again.
—— Zhao Yunkun, executive deputy director of the Research Center for Positive Psychology of Tsinghua University Academy of Social Sciences.
The best growth is self-growth and the best control is self-control. As parents, the most important thing is to guide children to learn to think independently, make independent decisions, take responsibility for themselves, fully release the internal driving force of children's self-improvement, practice, experience the confusion of growth, and gain the courage to grow up. This is not chicken soup, but a guide translated by Ye Zhuang to guide parents and teachers to change their educational concepts and acquire educational skills. Based on more than 60 years' experience in children's education, the author combines theory with practice from general development theory to recent brain science research results, which is easy to understand, vivid and interesting, and worth recommending reading!
—— Gao, a professor and doctoral supervisor in the Department of Psychology of Southwest University.
As an American psychology professor and the mother of two children, I not only led the team to study children's psychology for many years, but also read a lot of Chinese and English books on family rearing and children's mental health education in my spare time. When I first read the English version of the book "Self-driven Growth" in the bookstore, I found that it was really a book I had been looking forward to for a long time, and it gave me the feeling that every sentence hit my heart.
With concise and fluent language and vivid and real cases, the book tells readers how to consciously cultivate children's inner drive in study and life, cultivate children's self-control and self-discipline, and cultivate children's ability to be responsible for their own decisions and behaviors. As the author said in the book, this does not mean that parents should do less. On the contrary, it requires parents and children to cooperate, do more, and do it strategically and wisely. So how to do it? At the end of each chapter, this book gives practical guidance to help parents improve their parenting ability more pertinently.
I am glad to see that Mr. Ye Zhuang has translated this book carefully. I recommend this book to all prospective parents, parents, grandparents and workers in the field of children's education. I believe this book will bring you a lot of new thoughts and greatly promote the practice of parenting. Perhaps, the child's life has also changed.
-Song Hairong, Associate Professor and Doctoral Supervisor of Psychology Department, University of Oklahoma.
This is a book with a clear view. The author reminds us that if we always want to arrange and plan our children and use carrots and sticks to drive them to act according to our wishes, then it is difficult for children to grow into self-driven self-disciplinarians. Parents need to hide behind the scenes if they want their children to go on stage.
This book fully explains how parents' excessive interference with their children undermines their enthusiasm and self-control. The author puts forward practical methods to improve children's internal drive and self-discipline from two aspects: family life and school study. This book can give us the courage and evidence for parents in China to resist the wind of excessive study.
—— Wang Yirui, registered clinical psychologist in Australia, Ph.D. in Psychology, University of Queensland.
Combining the research results of brain science, with a sense of control running through the book and focusing on the cultivation of children's self-discipline and independence, Self-driven Growth is a good book for parents to let go of their anxiety, regain their sense of control, and let children develop their sense of control, master self-discipline and achieve independence in an anxious environment, which is worth recommending to every parent, educator and researcher in the field of development education.
—— Lin Sien, Ph.D. in Cognitive Neuroscience, Institute of Psychology, Chinese University of Hong Kong, co-founder and CEO of Talking Brain (Beijing) Co., Ltd.
When we control our children too tightly, we unconsciously become a standard problem-solving machine, taking away the opportunity for children to become strong, confident and brave. There are no passive requirements, no ratings, no rewards, but it is precisely this "self-driven time" that is an indispensable experience for children to succeed.
—— Fan Deng, founder and chief content officer of Fandeng Reading Club.
This is a parenting book that can relieve parents' anxiety. It has a list of tasks and questions and answers that can help parents cope with their children's growth problems. A curious, curious and self-disciplined child is a godsend. But probably, we will ignore his anxiety, stress and unhappiness. In fact, if parents are not in a state of excessive stress, anxiety, anger or fatigue, they can better comfort a baby, deal with a naughty child and face a rebellious teenager better.
We followed the two authors and learned to deal with the problems that worried us. At the same time, we should remember that parents' anxiety-free state is the best environment for their children, and this anxiety-free state cannot be disguised.
Writer Miao Wei
Self-driven children express themselves vividly in English, and the highest level of self-discipline is self-driving, just like putting a perpetual motion machine on life. I think Mr Ye Zhuang's translation is more vivid. There is an old saying in China that "when you are busy outside, you must settle down first." If you want to change the world with your own strength, you must first learn to control yourself. People who want to read this book not only know how to make their children more conscious, but also know how to make themselves more self-disciplined.
—— Guo'er Zhangyang, a famous program host and the founder of Jam Story, a children's audio reading platform.
Want to know how to make children more self-disciplined and active in learning? This is a good parenting book, with principles and methods, and full of dry goods. From the perspective of psychology and neuroscience, the two authors combine various real cases to tell you the answer in simple terms.
What is more commendable is that the translator's translation is popular and interesting, and even parents with zero foundation can easily understand it.
-Qin Yu Hui, an outstanding respondent in the field of psychology in Zhihu, a member of the Chinese Psychological Society, and a master's degree in education from the University of Pennsylvania.
Compared with the decision to trust their children, many parents insist on taking care of everything from homework to making friends. Stix Luther and Johnson had a simple suggestion for these parents: Stop. Don't think of yourself as your child's boss, try to be your child's consultant.
-National Radio * * *
What Stix Luther and Johnson are concerned about is that in today's era, children are always isolated from the sense of control over their personal lives, unable to do what they think is meaningful, pursuing success and experiencing failure on the premise of self-awareness. According to the two authors, although children nowadays love to stare at electronic screens, this is only a small problem, while parents and teachers who are eager for their children's success are just bigger problems. Adults unconsciously take away the opportunities that belong to their children-those that make them strong and confident and can achieve themselves.
-Scientific American
If you want to recommend books to parents of children of all ages, then I think this book is suitable for children from preschool to senior three.
-Atomic Mother Ellie North
When children are controlled too tightly, parents can easily become part of the problems they need to solve unconsciously. Through the deep combination of clinical practice and educational consultation, what Stix Ruud and Johnson wrote hit the nail on the head, exposing the long-term problems faced by many families now, and giving practical and targeted guidance to let parents solve the problems to a certain extent ... This is a must-read for all educators and parents.
-Sir Ken Robinson, an educator, was selected as a best-selling author in The New York Times and the author of Creative Schools.
If you are still worried and don't know whether too much pressure and narrow understanding of success will really hurt your children, then Self-driven Growth must be your must-read. There are many books that illustrate the influence of stress on children's development through some anecdotes and clinical cases. However, in this book, Stix Ruud and Johnson rely on detailed research results to explain why children do not thrive as we expected.
A healthy child should have a healthy brain. On the one hand, the two authors prove that constant pressure of grades is a kind of poison to children; On the other hand, they also reveal the true colors of another way to guide children's healthy development. It is no exaggeration to say that Self-Driven Growth is one of the most original and authoritative books to cultivate children's health, tenacity and purpose.
-Dr. Madeleine Levin, author of "Giving Children Abundance That Money Can't Buy"
Self-driven growth is a fascinating, revolutionary and intelligent job, which enables parents to have the courage, methods and consciousness to reduce the toxic pressure faced by their children, thus realizing their perseverance, pursuit of success and positive development. Every parent needs to know something about books-we should trust children and let them have more control over their lives.
-Dr. Tina Payne Blethen, a whole-brain child and one of the brains.
Sometimes, the most helpful thing parents can do is to give their children less restraint. In this humanistic and thoughtful work, the author puts the latest brain science achievements into practical suggestions, telling parents how to let their children wander by themselves, when to intervene and when to let go. Read this book and your children will thank you.
-Paul Tough was selected as a best-selling author in The New York Times and wrote How Children Succeed.
This book has a rigorous and in-depth perspective, talking about how to let children correctly master the ability of self-reliance, and also showing us to what extent parents can intervene to ensure the best development of children. The book also talks about how to make children truly independent and at the same time keep themselves away from entanglement in this process.
-Andrew Solomon, the author of Away from the Tree.
Self-driven growth can guide parents to find the most suitable "degree" between ambition and laissez-faire. Based on years of work experience and cutting-edge research results, Stix Ruud and Johnson elaborated a series of concise and feasible suggestions in their books.
-Dr. Lisa Damour, author of Untying the Knot.
This book, like a fighter, has dealt a precise blow to the anxiety of destroying children and killing their talents. This unique book shines a light into the darkness, where there are weariness and fear of exams, long-term lack of sleep, showing off comparisons on social media all day, and various toxic pressures that endanger children. But Stix Luther and Johnson will not only find these "demons" in the dark, but also "hunt" them. The content of this book is humorous, profound and well-founded, which can help your children study efficiently and have fun. This is really required reading.
-Ron Suskind, Pulitzer Prize-winning journalist and author of the animated film Life.
Stix Luther and Johnson proved by reason that if parents restrict their children too tightly, their self-confidence, mental health and ability will be affected. Through a large number of easy-to-understand and informative studies, they revealed in Self-driven Growth that there is indeed a connection between the pressure of academic competition and the anxiety and depression that are common among children today. This work, which may bring changes to the way of education, is a timely rain for parents.
-Judith Warner, author of Perfect Madness: Mothers in Anxiety Times.
Do you remember some activities you have participated in before? They are not done in class, nor are they passive sports activities, but simply for you to enjoy. They are neither rated nor rewarded, but it is this "self-driven time" that is the necessary experience for children to succeed.
-Reno Skonaz, author of "Unleashing Angry Children"
The author of this book has observed the difficulties faced by many teenagers from both macro and micro perspectives. For contemporary education, this is an unparalleled reference book, which is enough to squeeze those worthless parenting books out of the bookshelf.
-"Reading School" (book list)
In order to help parents adapt their children to the fierce competition in school and life, Stix Luther and Johnson provided a series of resources-compassionate and well-founded suggestions and strategies. The authors give convincing examples to tell parents what to do to make their children feel love, trust and support from pressure.
-"Publishers Weekly"