A healthy life is actually living in the present, so how can we really live in the present? The following is what I recommend to you, what is really living in the present, I hope I can help you.
First of all, have a dream.
As the saying goes:? Sadness in the heart is greater than death, and there is hope in the dream. ? Dreams are beautiful, and people are excited every time they think about them. Life without dreams is as dull as grinding donkeys. Some people say that too many dreams can't be realized, and it will be very painful. Actually, a firm dream is enough. Dreaming in good times can make you more confident in the future, and dreaming in bad times can keep you going for a while. Some people say that dreams are like a private lighthouse. He knows where you want to go and how to guide you there. As long as you follow his instructions and keep working hard. So, no matter what age you are, no matter what situation you face, please remember to keep a dream for yourself, which will bring you more happiness.
Second, pamper yourself
From a psychological point of view, no matter what age we are, there is an inner child in our hearts. The child is pure and simple, hoping to get more care. When you put more hope on this caring behavior of others, your heart will feel insecure and often feel unhappy in disappointment. Therefore, learning to love yourself is also one of the lessons that make you happy. This kind of love includes both internal and external. You should learn to communicate with yourself in your heart, affirm yourself, understand your helplessness and worries, and meet some material and consumption needs that make you happy externally. If we compare ourselves to a flower, we should not only learn to make ourselves beautiful, but also know how to love and appreciate ourselves.
Third, learn to release.
In daily life, even people with the best psychological quality will encounter bad emotional influence. It's time to test our self-regulation ability. Self-regulation requires certain skills and methods, and the specific needs vary from person to person. Some people like to keep a diary, some people like high-intensity exercise, and some people like to talk to someone. In short, what suits you is the best, and the most successful way is to adjust yourself to the best state in the shortest time. For example, when I am in a bad state, I will go to the bookstore alone to read some autobiographical books. When I see that other people's experiences are much greater than the difficulties I have encountered at present, I think others can survive strongly and believe that I can do well. The bookstore is such a magical place for me. I can go in with my head down, stay for an hour or two, and then come out with a smile and a bright look. I believe everyone can find such a magical way or place, and what suits them is the best.
Fourth, interest is king.
Interest is a wonderful thing. Everyone can find an interest that suits them. Happy are those who can find their interests as soon as possible. People who haven't really found interest can try more activities within the scope that they don't dislike until they find something that really interests them. Doing what you are interested in can make you happy, develop your own specialties and make some like-minded friends. At present, many career planning experts are trying to find out your interest direction through career evaluation, and then help you plan to develop your interest into a career or career. Think about how happy your whole life would be if you spent most of your day doing things that interest you.
Fifth, feel happy.
Happiness, to a great extent, is very close to the meaning of happiness. There is a popular saying now: we don't lack happiness, what we really lack is the ability to perceive happiness. ? If we can't hear the sound, then any beautiful music is just as pale and powerless; If we can't see the picture, then the beautiful scenery is just as useless; Similarly, if we lack the ability to perceive happiness, then even the perfect relationship is full of holes. Happiness needs empathy and feelings, tolerance and gratitude, and a little stupidity and innocence. While enjoying the happiness brought by others, please remember to pass and circulate this happiness.
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