Passion is a state of mind, not an emotion. It is a driving force in our hearts, so that all emotions are improved. If passion burns, we will be very excited, but it is also frightening. When jealousy and anger rise with passion, violence will follow, and even lead to "passion crime".
If the law is involved, the person who commits this crime will only make excuses for himself and his sense of responsibility will disappear. They are no longer their true selves, but are completely immersed in extreme emotions, which is a very unhealthy "passion". However, there are unhealthy passions and healthy passions. As long as the positive emotions of two people are strengthened, there will be healthy passion. When love and desire are driven by passion, feelings will be deeper and relationships will last longer.
Passion is mostly expressed in the form of sexual impulse. There are many similar programs in the human brain, which will start running when in danger. Let us either run away immediately or fight immediately and respond to the danger immediately. The impulse of passion, like the chemical reaction in our brain, will increase the secretion of hormones and help us cope with critical situations. When passion spreads in the body, the brain will secrete more hormones, and these chemicals form our high sense of happiness.
When passion gets the same response from the people we love, we can't help touching each other and keeping in touch with them. In the early days of love, the desire for sex is particularly strong. But with the maturity of the relationship between two people, the passion is decreasing, not as strong as in the early days of love.
However, this is not wrong. In a healthy relationship, passion can be recharged at any time. One of the most effective ways to restore passion is sex (on pages 52 to 53, we have a detailed description of sexual passion). In fact, as long as you can feel love or get closer to each other, any activity can rekindle the passion that has gone downhill.
Passion sometimes turns into unhealthy persistence, which may lead to inner emotional disorder and inability to be responsible for one's actions, so it is quite dangerous. When you miss what you want all day and can't extricate yourself, or have the behavior of forcing others, you have fallen into negative emotions. For example, in order to get along with the people you love, do you really want your agreement with others in work and other aspects to be changed? Would you be depressed if your long-awaited appointment was cancelled for just reasons? Are you often jealous? Are you possessive and even have irrational control over your partner's behavior?
If your answer to the above questions is "yes", then you should calm down and think about whether your passion for your lover has become a "passion addiction".
Passion addiction has its symptoms: you will feel desperate, always in a state of panic, have a high degree of insecurity, and can't concentrate at work. You may become absent-minded, or make a big mistake because of carelessness. If you have the above situation, maybe you should take some time to think about your obsession and what to do in the future.
You can sit comfortably in the rocking chair, put your hands straight on the armrest, palms up, fingers bent, and then gently hold them into fists. Let one hand speak for your persistence, and let the other hand speak for reason. Open your palm and let your two hands start a conversation. When both hands are "finished talking", slowly hold hands and ask yourself if there is room for compromise between rationality and persistence. Look at this persistence from the perspective of the future. If you find that this goal is not what you want, you must re-plan the blueprint for the future, so that you can move along the direction and not get lost. If other relationships are destroyed, please make up your mind and tell yourself that all the hardships will pass and you will move towards a smoother life journey.
Balancing passion with reason, although it may not seem romantic, can make the relationship between two people last for a long time, and its importance is self-evident. The feelings aroused by passion cannot be continued with the strong tension at the beginning of love. A successful relationship between two people must rely on "balance". In a close and respectful relationship, passion is a gift from God, so that we can maintain our desire for each other.
The balance between passion and friendship is the most effective prescription for permanent harmony.
Now, please take a pen and fill in the form below. Let's evaluate how many points your feelings scored in the passion index table.
A noble soul will never break its promise.
-French writer romain rolland (1866- 1944)
Passion index table
Passion index will help you and your lover measure the degree and type of passion.
Each question is assigned as follows:
Never = 1 min; Rarely = 2 points; Occasionally = 3 points; Often = 4 points; Forever = 5 points.
Do you miss your lover very much when you are separated from him?
Do you find some feelings in your relationship exciting?
Do you always want to touch each other and lean against each other?
Are you afraid of losing each other?
Are you excited when you are with each other?
Do you feel restless when you are with each other?
Can the other person arouse your sexual desire outside the dormitory?
If your score is between 1 and 16, then your passion level is not high. You can consider ways to rekindle the passion in the depths of love.
If your score is between 17 and 33, your passion is moderate and your relationship is mature.
If the score is between 34 and 35, it means that you are still in love, so you must cultivate intimate relationships so that your love can flourish and last.