First of all, Article 236 of the Criminal Law stipulates that "whoever rapes a girl under the age of 14 shall be punished as rape and given a heavier punishment". So this 12-year-old girl must have been sexually assaulted, no doubt. "According to the villagers, Yang Yang (a pseudonym) has a brother who works outside with his parents, while Yang Yang stays at home and lives with his grandparents." As a worker who pays attention to mental health education, I feel particularly sad every time I see such news. What's wrong with this society? Who is responsible for this child? A large number of left-behind children have not had an accident. Who should be responsible?
First, is it the responsibility of parents?
Parents euphemistically say that in order to live a better life, they go out to work and earn money. Does the result make life better or worse? It's just frequent news that left-behind children have various psychological problems or other accidents. It doesn't even rise to family education here (most parents of left-behind children don't have high academic qualifications), and children don't even have the minimum sense of security, let alone common sense of life. Children can't distinguish sexual assault well. After being violated, it is bound to be threatened. Even if I vaguely felt that something was wrong, I was too scared to say it. This is why "she is tall and usually wears loose clothes." Although she has gained weight recently, it is really difficult for Yi Lian to get pregnant if she doesn't talk about it. " Therefore, after being sexually assaulted, the person the child can talk to most is gone.
Second, is it the responsibility of directly supporting people (such as grandparents)?
The old couple are too old to support themselves. They can't even take care of their own lives, but also take care of their children's children. They have certain emotions (excluding elderly people who are particularly sensible and willing to sacrifice themselves). This is of great help to ensure the safety of their children. Moreover, in a small town like this, most people's reaction after discovering that a child aged 12 is pregnant is certainly shameful, not to mention the older generation with more traditional ideas, who are unwilling to advocate, let alone call the police to safeguard their own interests. So they chose to give birth to their children and then abandon them in the grass.
Third, is it the responsibility of the school?
Needless to say, the lack of sex education is not a specific school, but universal.
Fourth, is it the responsibility of the community?
For left-behind children, it is always necessary to wait until after the accident to attract the attention of all sectors of society. Why not do preventive work in advance? I only hope that each community can set up a special service point for left-behind children and give them safety education, life knowledge education and mental health education on a regular basis. Most left-behind children are sensitive, and they lack family support system, so society may replace some roles to ensure that they grow up in a relatively safe and healthy environment. Finally, I want to talk about the crisis intervention in this matter. At this point, it is said that the grandparents in this case refused to respond, so the appropriate approach is:
1, no one (including parents and brothers) should ask or even complain about the elderly, do a good job of appeasement, and avoid secondary incidents (it is not unheard of for the elderly to commit suicide in shame).
2. The media no longer visit the parties, their families and the people around them.
3, psychological counseling for the parties, sand table, painting and other expressive art therapy instead of hard digging. Wounds don't need to be opened again and again, just need time and love to heal.
4, appease the students in the school, don't create panic, safety education and sex education at regular intervals.
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