Love ABC: my choice
I. Guiding ideology and theoretical basis
1, activity experience teaching: senior high school students have good cognitive ability. If you just talk about knowledge, the effect is not good and students are not easy to accept. Therefore, it is necessary to improve their inner experience through activity experience without spending too much time teaching knowledge in class;
2, the new curriculum concept: let students take the initiative to participate, actively think and explore.
Second, the teaching background analysis
1, student situation analysis:
① The social environment in which students live is very complicated, and the floating population in Luqiao is large and complicated, so students can come into contact with people from all walks of life;
(2) The economy of Luqiao is developed, but the culture is relatively backward, and parents are relatively lacking in emotional education for students in adolescence;
(3) There are a lot of bad information in society, and students are deeply influenced by bad information; A few parents' disorderly behaviors (such as extramarital sex and extramarital affairs) have deeply influenced students' emotional values;
④ Today's society is a network society, and the influence of the network is everywhere, but our students lack the ability to discriminate and reject all kinds of network information;
Our school is a comprehensive high school, and the students' self-discipline ability is relatively poor. Facing the emotional confusion of adolescence, students have not learned how to deal with it;
⑥ A large number of students have had intimate relationships, some students have had marginal sexual behaviors in this process, and a few even had substantive sexual behaviors, which is worrying.
2, teaching methods and teaching means:
Description of teaching design: Taking my adolescent love story as the introduction, through my self-exposure, I can draw students closer to me, let them relax and let them speak in the next class; Let students play the leading role in the story and make choices in the process of love (set questions in the middle of the story for students to make choices), so that students can have an idea; By explaining the reasons for the choice, let the students further think about the love in adolescence, so as to make the right choice; Test the educational effect of this lesson by arranging to rewrite or continue to write this story.
3. Design reason: It is no longer a question of whether students in comprehensive high schools should fall in love, nor can it be solved by moral condemnation. It is useless to rely on blocking, pressing and scaring. After all, now they have entered the network society. As educators, they can only learn to make their own choices responsibly. Throughout the class, I tried not to evaluate the value of students' choices and gave them room to think. This is also a very important difference between psychological counseling and ideological and political courses. Psychology teachers should try their best to maintain value neutrality. )
Third, technology and material preparation.
Because this class requires students to make choices, there are no desks in the classroom, only chairs (chairs are divided into area A, area B and area C, and the number of chairs in each area exceeds two-thirds of the students), so that students can speak;
To encourage students to talk, prepare 20-30 pieces of chocolate candy.
Introduction with the music "Gardenia Blossoms"
Fourth, the teaching process and details
Cycle the music "Gardenia Blossoms". The music stopped when the students sat down.
1, Introduction: Students, listening to this romantic music and watching you full of vigor and vitality, my thoughts flew to my junior high school and I remembered that spiritual past that still feels good today. . . .
2. Self-exposure: (The most romantic thing is the background music of this issue) It was the spring of the second day of junior high school. In a music class, I still remember that the song I learned in that music class was "Leaving Roots". I sang and sang, my head turned carelessly and I accidentally touched my eyes. The moment my eyes met, I felt a wonderful thing. Strangely, those eyes actually came to meet me, and when they met again, my heart was pounding. Students, it was a wonderful time. If you have had similar experience, please smile at me. It seems that everyone has. Good. Later, eye contact often happened. I can't concentrate in class, and my eyes always look at her involuntarily. My mood changes with hers. One day, I received a little note from her, asking me to meet after studying at night. Should I go or not?
Students, please help me. If you were me, how should I choose? Those who choose to go please stay in area A, those who choose to go please go to area B, and those who have a third choice please go to area C.
Ok, thank you for your help. What is my choice? Please allow me to keep this secret for the time being. Seriously, I am very grateful for that emotional experience, which made me understand a lot. Love is great, happy and sweet. It is the highest emotion of human beings. There is no right or wrong in love, let alone good or bad. It depends on how people choose in this process. Different choices will have different results. Today, a girl met some difficulties. Please help her. If you were her, how would you choose? Please look at the big screen
3. Show the story: (Show with PPT)
Shi Ya, the Communist Youth League secretary of Class 18, Senior High School, is tall and fair-skinned, especially with watery eyes, which gives people a beautiful feeling. She is beautiful, cheerful and lively, not only that, but also her academic performance is excellent. However, the arrival of a boy disturbed Shiya's quiet life. In the first semester of senior high school, a tall, handsome and sunny boy named Yang Yang transferred to her class. He not only studies well, but also plays basketball well. He is the main force and coach of the class team. In a school basketball league, they started to get in touch. One is the cheerleader, and the other is the captain of the basketball team. As the game progressed, the two got to know each other better and had a good impression on each other, but neither of them broke the enough paper. Maybe it's the boy's encouragement, or maybe she really likes her. A month later, Yang Yang finally got up the courage to write a courtship letter to Shiya. "A stone stirs up a thousand waves". When Shiya received this letter of burning love, she was in a dilemma … ..
Students, if you are Shi Ya, how should you choose? Choose to accept to go to area A (the reason the students answered is: since both parties like it, let's experience it once), choose to refuse to go to area B, and please go to area C if you have other choices. Please choose ... OK, thank you for your choice. Now I want to hear the reasons for your choice. Please tell the truth. There are prizes for those who speak well (selected by each district 1 answered by students). Thank you for your reasons. I think everyone has his reasons for choosing.
(Setting questions) ① If you meet a passionate love now, how should you choose? Every stage of life has its main development task, and the previous stage paves the way for the development of the later stage. For example, the main tasks of early and middle adolescence are learning and personal development. If you can't surpass it, you can't control it. Then all other tasks should revolve around this main task. What is the choice of Shiites? Let's take a look at her choice.
4. The story continues: (PPT presentation) After two days of thinking, Shiya made a choice and decided to reject him because she could not hurt her parents. She is the hope of her family, and she believes that they will get better with time, so that night, in tears (after all, she still likes him), she wrote a rejection letter, the reason for which was to study hard. Yang Yang was stunned when he received this letter. He couldn't believe it was true. Under this blow, he began to sink, because he felt that Shi Ya looked down on him, felt useless and lost face among his classmates. So I gave up on myself, didn't finish my homework seriously, quarreled with my classmates, drank and smoked. Shia sees it in her eyes and hurts in her heart. She began to blame herself, feeling that it was all her own fault and blaming herself for being cruel. Just as she was blaming herself, she received a letter from Yang Yang, saying that he really liked her and couldn't live without her. As long as she is willing to associate with him, he is willing to encourage and support each other and study hard, and said that it will not affect her study. This letter puts Shia in a dilemma again. . . . . . .
Students, if you are Shi Ya, how should you choose? Choose the one who continues to associate with Yang Yang to go to area A, choose to stick to the original decision to go to area B, and go to area C if there are other options. Please select. . . . Ok, thank you for your choice. Now I want to hear the reasons for your choice. Please tell the truth. There will be prizes for those who speak well (each district chooses 1 students answer)
Thank you for your reasons,
(Setting questions) What should you do if the other person asks you to continue to make up with him or her by suicide or other means?
In the development of love, don't use alcohol, suicide, sex or money to keep love. Emotion can't go beyond the principle of being a man.
Advice: In the process of love development, if you encounter difficulties and problems, you should know how to ask for help, such as a psychological teacher.
I think everyone has his reasons for choosing. What is Shi Ya's choice? Let's take a look at her choice.
5. Story Continuation (PPT presentation): After reading the letter, Shiya thinks that if she can control it well, it won't affect her study, and it doesn't matter if she falls in love, so she agrees to associate with Yang Yang. Therefore, you can always see them on campus, parks and cinemas. The days are slowly spent in sweet happiness, and the temperature of love is gradually rising. Even so, their academic performance has not been adversely affected at all. On the contrary, they are getting better and better and become the envy of others, as if everything is fine. Yang Yang's parents divorced in the summer vacation of sophomore year, and the contradiction escalated. On that night filled with smoke, Yang Yang fled home and went to a bar. Because he felt lonely and helpless, he wanted to get drunk there. At 12 in the evening, he dialed Shiya's phone and asked her to accompany him. When Shi Ya received the phone call, her parents were not at home. Shi Ya felt that Yang Yang needed her most at this time, but she felt that it was too late, and she was once again in a dilemma. ...
Students, if you are Shi Ya, how should you choose? Please go to area A if you choose to go, to area B if you choose not to go, and to area C if you have other choices, please choose. . . . Ok, thank you for your choice. Now I want to hear the reasons for your choice. Please tell the truth. There will be prizes for those who speak well (each district chooses 1 students answer)
The reason for thanking these two students. I think everyone has his reasons for choosing. Here, I think most of the reasons for choosing to go are that friends should talk about friendship and go if necessary. What is the choice of Shiites? Let's look at her choice,
6. Story Continuation (PPT presentation): As expected, Shiya chose to leave, and she decided to comfort Yang Yang. In the bar, under the sad rendering, Shiya also drank wine to comfort Yang Yang. By the time the bar closed in the morning 1, Shiya was a little drunk, and Yang Yang was even more drunk. When Shiya said that she would send Yang Yang home, Yang Yang said that she was homeless, so they waddled to a hotel and checked in. When Shiya settled down in Yang Yang and decided to go home, Yang Yang cried and said, "Ya, please don't leave me.". At this time, Shiya once again fell into a dilemma. Staying is against the principle of being a girl, and leaving is unreasonable …
Students, if you are Shi Ya, how should you choose? Those who choose to stay please go to area A, those who choose to leave please go to area B, and those who have other choices please go to area C, please choose. . . . Ok, thank you for your choice. Now I want to hear the reasons for your choice. Please tell the truth. There will be prizes for those who speak well (each district chooses 1 students answer)
The reason for thanking these two students. I think everyone has his reasons for choosing. Here, I think the reason why most people choose to stay is that friends should talk about friendship and go when necessary. What is the choice of Shiites? Let's take a look at her choice.
7. Story Continuation (PPT presentation): Driven by emotion, Shiya chose to stay, but she insisted on the bottom line in her mind that she would not have sex with Yang Yang. Maybe it was influenced by alcohol, or maybe Shiya was so beautiful in her sleep. In Shiya's sleep, Yang Yang put Shiya under him. After being awakened, Shiya struggled to resist. After sitting up, Yang Yang clung to Shiya's leg and wouldn't let her go. She also said: "Shiya, I love you, I love you all my life, and I will be with you all my life." Don't you love me? " Is Shia going or staying at this moment?
Students, if you are Shi Ya, how should you choose? Those who choose to stay please go to area A, those who choose to leave please go to area B, and those who have other choices please go to area C, please choose. . . . Ok, thank you for your choice. Now I want to hear the reasons for your choice. Please tell the truth. There will be prizes for those who speak well (each district chooses 1 students answer)
The reason for thanking these two students. I think everyone has his reasons for choosing. Here, I think the reason why most people choose to stay is that friends should talk about friendship and go when necessary. What is the choice of Shiites? Let's take a look at her choice.
8. The story continues (PPT presentation): Maybe it is the role of love, or maybe Shiya really loves Yang Yang, but Shiya didn't refuse again. So she decided to stay with him, and in this way, the two had sex, and then Shiya shed tears. I don't know why, maybe it's for the end of my era, maybe it's uncertainty about the future, maybe it's fear of pregnancy. With Yang Yang's promise, Shiya's mood gradually calmed down. After school started, she devoted herself to the intense review of senior three. It seems that everything is developing in a good direction, but Shiya gradually finds that her good friend who is very punctual has been late, and she is worried. So, she went to the drugstore and bought a test paper. After testing, her worry became a fact. She knocked down Shiya and fell into a painful choice. .....
Students, if you are Shi Ya, how should you choose? Those who choose to have an abortion please go to area A, those who choose to have a baby please go to area B, and those who have other choices please go to area C, please choose. . . . Ok, thank you for your choice. Now I want to hear the reasons for your choice. Please tell the truth. There will be prizes for those who speak well (each district chooses 1 students answer)
Thank you for your reasons.
(Setting questions) If the other party asks for premarital sex, what is your choice?
In the process of love development, if you can't control yourself or bear the consequences of a certain choice, you should stop, delay or ask for help. I think everyone has his reasons for choosing. Here, I think the reason why most people choose abortion is the unbearable weight of life. What is the choice of Shiites? Let's take a look at her choice.
9. Story continues (PPT presentation): After a burst of heartbreaking pain, Shiya decided to have an abortion. At this point, the paper can no longer hold. When her parents knew about it, they were in pain. Her mother tried to kill herself and her father hit her. After cooling down, they decided to let Shiya have an abortion. The pain of abortion made Shiya cry again. What frightens her most is that Yang Yang doesn't know where it is at this time. Since this happened, Yang Yang's parents have taken him to study abroad. Although they are still dating, Yang Yang's enthusiasm has obviously declined. After half a year, I learned from my friends that Yang Yang had a girlfriend there (the news was not confirmed). Hearing the news, Shi Yayue became more and more angry. She never imagined that Yang Yang would betray him, so she was in a dilemma. I don't know if I should leave Yang Yang and end it.
Students, if you are Shi Ya, how should you choose? If you choose to get along with Yang Yang, please go to Area A; if you choose to break up with Yang Yang, please go to Area B; if you have other choices, please go to Area C, please choose. . . . Ok, thank you for your choice. Now I want to hear the reasons for your choice. Please tell the truth. There will be prizes for those who speak well (each district chooses 1 students answer)
Thank you for your reasons.
What will you do if your love encounters real problems in its development and he (she) wants to break up with you?
In the process of love development, we should fully consider the realistic factors. It is not a castle in the air and needs a certain reality as the foundation.
I think everyone has his reasons for choosing. Here, I think most of the reasons for choosing to leave are Yang Yang's irresponsibility, but can you leave if you leave? After all, they still have past grievances. What is the choice of Shiites? Let's take a look at her choice.
10, the story continues (PPT presentation): The more Shi Ya thinks about it, the angrier she gets. She felt that she had done too much for Yang Yang. For him, she miscarried; For him, she hurt her parents, and she couldn't break up with him, so she decided to talk to him, but when Shiya found Yang Yang, she couldn't control her emotions and grabbed a beer bottle next to her and threw it at Yang Yang. ...
Students, this is definitely not what we want to see, but it ends in tragedy. Please think about what brought things to this state. Whose fault is this? (Let the students think for 3 minutes)
Thank you for your speeches. Today, it is difficult for us to judge who is right and who is wrong. Some people say it's Yang Yang's fault, but Yang Yang doesn't have a girlfriend there at all. Some people say it's Shi Ya's fault. She shouldn't have sex with Yang Yang, and she shouldn't be so impulsive. But can stone buds happen alone? In that case, everyone will be impulsive, just different in weight. Some people say that love is wrong. There is no true love in the world, but love exists objectively. Some people love well, while others don't. I said it was the wrong choice, the wrong choice of people in the process of love development. Different choices have different results.
Advice: Students, here I give you two pieces of advice and suggestions:
1. In the development of love, please think carefully about two questions before each choice: ① Am I responsible for my choice? (2) I have the ability to be responsible;
2. In the process of love development, you should know how to ask for help when you encounter problems, such as your psychological teacher.
Verb (abbreviation of verb) conclusion
Love is sweet and happy. To make the flower of love bloom brilliantly, it must be opened in the right season, cared for with care, managed with wisdom and cultivated with time. Please rewrite the story according to this story when you go back, so that this love can have a happy ending. Finally, I wish you a bright and beautiful flower of love in the future.