How a person views himself will have an extremely important impact on his later life.
If we look at ourselves and other people and things negatively, our hearts are full of inferiority, fear and powerlessness, which will become an obstacle for us to understand and explore new things, so that our internal potential is deeply locked and it will be difficult for us to break through our psychological "comfort zone" all our lives.
On the contrary, if a person has a positive view of himself, he will also have a positive, optimistic and enterprising attitude towards life, dare to explore unknown areas, constantly try to surpass himself, expand the width and depth of life, and strive to achieve perfection and success in life.
Created by the family
Today, everyone's looks are mainly shaped by their families. It is difficult for us to change our views on ourselves in the early years, and gradually form personal beliefs and values, and even form a person's life meaning, which directly affects the quality of life in the future.
In a way, parents are like a mirror for us. We can learn to know ourselves, others and the world through how our parents look at us and evaluate us, and through their teaching. This information will undoubtedly make us understand-whether I am liked and valued or ignored, and so on. And in the process of growing up in the future, we will constantly judge and determine what kind of person we are through various information of our parents: cute or annoying, capable or stupid, mediocre or unique, and so on.
And those original needs that we failed to meet in our early years will follow us all the time or even all our lives like shadows and become our "inner children." This "child" has powerful negative energy, which is often mixed in our hearts in the form of sadness, anxiety or fear, and always competes with our positive energy, thus weakening our sense of value and self-confidence, reducing our concentration, perseverance and endurance, forming a typical "internal friction" of self, seriously affecting our cognition of self-worth, and even no matter how hard we try or achieve, it is difficult to get rid of those hopelessness, helplessness or nothingness.
Parents do their best.
As parents, the most important duty is to help children find and realize their own value, which is the most easily overlooked. Only when a person feels valuable can he love, respect and have confidence in himself, and establish a good self-image to lay a solid foundation for the healthy development of body and mind in the future.
No one can teach others what they don't even know. As parents of children, if we want to promote the complete growth of children, then we must grow up first, so as to avoid repeating the bad effects we suffered in our early years to our children.
1. Clean yourself up first. Make yourself a person who can accept, respect and trust yourself and express yourself in a healthy way.
2. Love your children unconditionally. Let children feel unconditional love and acceptance, even if sometimes their behavior is poor.
3. Give children a sense of security and belonging. Meet children's basic physical and mental needs, and at the same time let children feel accepted and cared for by important people in life. When children have a sense of security and belonging, they have the courage to explore and try new things.
4. Respect children's feelings. Deterioration, humiliation and scolding will hurt children's self-esteem and self-confidence, and excessive criticism and punishment will make children feel more inferior. When children know that their thoughts, practices and feelings are important, they will build up respect for themselves and others.
5. Guide children to express their feelings in a healthy way. In this way, they will learn how to establish and develop good interpersonal relationships.
6. Let children know the rules and be responsible for their actions. When children know that their parents have adhered to the principle, it will always be their safe haven. When they know exactly what they need, their parents will help them immediately, which will make their children realize that I can trust them and myself at the same time.
7. It is also the most important duty of parents to let children know that they are unique. When teaching children to realize their own strengths, we should also teach them how to cherish them. Let children know that everyone is unique, only in different ways. Just because they have advantages doesn't mean they are superior to others.
8. Teach children to learn from their mistakes and be proud of their achievements. Support and praise for children should be recognition and affirmation of children themselves and their own abilities. When children are confident in their abilities, they will be more likely to create happiness and achieve the future.
Self-image is the basis of all future cognition, the basis of the formation of one's beliefs and values, and the first draft of one's life blueprint. Only by constantly improving and growing themselves can parents correctly guide their children to have a healthy view of themselves and a positive understanding of things, thus establishing a good self-image.