With the increase of second-child families, we will find that many families have such a strange phenomenon: obviously, the children of the same family live under the same roof, but their personalities are quite different, and their performances are sometimes good and sometimes bad. This makes many parents feel very distressed.
Are both children really blessed? Since we gave birth to our son a few years ago, my husband and I still particularly hope to have a little girl, so that the girls can dress her up beautifully every day, especially my husband, who has been longing for a little girl who can always surround him with the softness of Jiao Jiao and make him bursting with protection, and is an out-and-out "daughter slave".
Since the opening of the national second child policy, many couples are actively preparing to have a second child in response to the national policy. Many of them, like us, want to have a daughter and always hope that both children can write good words. But did these families who gave birth to daughters really get the happiness they expected?
Actually, not necessarily. Many families with two children will find that the difference between the two children is still very big. I thought that with the experience of raising children, Bauer would be completely comfortable when he arrived, but because of the different personalities of children, parents should adopt different educational methods, which is by no means easy to copy and paste.
So why are children born to the same parents so different in personality? 1. Children's personality differences come from the existing growth environment.
Children who feel the same parents and families should grow up in the same environment. In fact, when Dabao was born, there were no other children at home, and all the care of the elders at home was concentrated on this child.
However, when Bauer came, perhaps because of his experience in raising children, he was not so fresh and paid less attention to this child. Or the girl was expected, and the second child just met the wishes of the family, then the family will pay more attention to this child and love this child.
2. Respect children's personality differences and teach students in accordance with their aptitude.
There are no two identical leaves in the world. Similarly, there are no two identical people in the world. Even children raised by the same parents and the same background will have great differences in personality.
Some children are naturally active and sociable, while others are introverted and timid, so parents should not use the same standard to ask for two children, but give appropriate family education according to each child's personality differences. The so-called "one monkey and one tie", education in line with children's personality is the most conducive to children's growth.
Parents should treat their two children equally.
In families with two or more children, parents usually have a habit of letting older children take care of modest children or boys take care of girls. This provision is made because it has been decided by our tradition for many years.
Parents have such requirements for their children, which does not mean that parents are biased against their children, and children are their own children. I believe that parents treat every child with the same love. Then parents should show this equality in their daily life and let their children feel the same love from their parents. For example, when two children have an argument, parents should treat things rather than people, instead of letting the older one give way to the younger one, or the boy give way to the girl.
In fact, every family has its own mode of getting along. Whether it is the first child or the second child, boys or girls, as long as the family lives together, it is happiness to feel comfortable together!