In fact, interpersonal communication is also about skills and methods. In our life, as we all know, it is often more comfortable to get along with people with high emotional intelligence. The following is a summary of the words on the high emotional intelligence wine table.
Emotional intelligence is high on the wine table 1 First, learn to propose a toast on the wine table.
Introverts don't like toasting others, but they know everything in their hearts and are just embarrassed to do these things; However, introverts are very rational. Since you choose to participate in the workplace wine bureau, you must participate in something meaningful, otherwise it will affect your performance;
You can try toasting each other to show respect for others. Even if you say little, people present will understand that you are a polite colleague. Most importantly, if you are embarrassed to speak loudly, you can stand up and propose a toast to your colleagues to avoid leaving a casual impression on everyone; As long as you are sincere enough on the wine table, you can befriend your colleagues.
Second, don't push others when toasting.
Some people don't like drinking, and naturally some people especially like drinking. Such people not only like talking loudly, but also like toasting everywhere and even forcing others to accompany them; Usually when they propose a toast to their colleagues, they will finish the wine directly. In order to avoid embarrassment, the toasted can only crustily skin of head to accompany them to drink. To understand the workplace dinner, you can't have this kind of behavior.
It will not only affect the relationship between colleagues, but also disrupt the leader's plan; Fighting for wine on the workplace wine table will turn the company dinner into an ordinary wine bar for eating, drinking and having fun, and will not achieve the purpose of bringing friendship closer. Moreover, this kind of toast is to force others to drink hot.
Third, don't drink or toast.
Although some people don't like drinking, they don't want to be rude. They will think of using tea and wine to respect their leaders, who don't like it. Some people really can't drink on the wine table because of physical reasons, but they feel embarrassed and have to use tea instead of wine; This toast, although it won't embarrass you, is a sign of low emotional intelligence. If you want to show your high emotional intelligence.
If you don't drink, you should know how to leave a way out for yourself, instead of replacing wine with tea; When people toast each other, as long as you don't hiss and take care of everyone's food and drink on the wine table, you can leave a good impression on others.
Fourth, learn to say some words of blessing.
Leaders and organizations have dinner after work, and naturally they are in a good mood, and naturally toast each other on the wine table; Especially newcomers who have just entered the workplace, when toasting the leaders, they should say more words of blessing and thanks, such as wishing the company better and better development and thanking the leaders for giving them the opportunity to join the big family. Subordinates who know how to say these words can naturally leave an impression of high emotional intelligence on the leaders. Subordinates know how to be a man, even if their working ability is not very strong, leaders are more at ease with such subordinates;
Therefore, friends who work hard in the workplace must learn to make more efforts in toasting in order to show their manners on the wine table.
5. Learn to laugh at yourself in front of colleagues.
In order to enliven the atmosphere on the wine table, young people need to learn to laugh at themselves. People who know how to laugh at themselves not only have high emotional intelligence, but also pay attention to their discretion. Especially when colleagues or leaders say that they have poor ability or poor performance, they might as well find a reason to laugh at themselves and let the leaders see other abilities; Understand that subordinates who know how to cope with everything are very popular in the workplace. Not only can they become the confidant of the leader, but the leader may also take his subordinates to entertain customers. After all, having such subordinates can ease the embarrassment on the wine table.
If the emotional intelligence on the wine table is high, 2. Speaking skills with high emotional intelligence on the wine table.
Everyone is happy together, remember to whisper.
Most banquets have more guests, so try to talk about topics that most people can participate in and get the approval of most people. Because of personal, endless, off-topic, everyone ignores it.
In particular, try not to whisper to others and give others a sense of mystery, which will often cause jealousy only for the two of you and affect the drinking effect.
Aim at the subject and object and grasp the overall situation.
Most banquets have a theme, that is, the purpose of drinking. When you go to eat, you should first look at the expressions around you and make clear your priorities. Don't drink just for the sake of drinking, lose a good opportunity to make friends, and don't let some grandstanding drinkers disturb the host's meaning.
Appropriate language, humor.
On the wine table, a person's talent, common sense, self-cultivation and communication etiquette can be reflected. Sometimes a humorous language will leave a deep impression on the guests and make people feel good about you invisibly. Therefore, it is very important for you to know when to say something, and to use appropriate language and be humorous.
Moderate persuasion, don't force it.
On the wine table, we often encounter the phenomenon of persuading wine. Some people always like to regard the wine field as a battlefield and try their best to persuade others to drink more, thinking that it is unrealistic to drink enough.
Talking about heroes with wine is ok for people who drink too much, but it is difficult to drink a little. Sometimes excessive persuasion will completely destroy the feelings of the original friends.
Toast is orderly and has clear priorities.
When toasting, you must grasp the order of toasting. When you invite a guest to a table, you should naturally show him more respect. However, it should be noted that if there are people with higher status or elders present, we should not only respect those who can help, but also propose a toast to the respected elders first, otherwise everyone will be embarrassed.
Read words, feel and understand people's hearts.
If you want to be appreciated at the wine table, you don't have to learn to read and read. Because you have to be intentional to play the role on the wine table when interacting with people.
Sharp-edged, sit firmly on Mount Tai.
At the banquet, you should distinguish the occasion, correctly evaluate your own strength, don't be too impulsive, try to keep some alcohol and talk, that is, don't let others underestimate you and don't expose yourself too much, choose the right time and gradually radiate your own edge, so that you can sit firmly on Mount Tai, don't give others the idea of this ability, and let everyone dare not underestimate your strength.
Speaking skills of high emotional intelligence on the wine table II
In China, there is a saying that wine depends on character. I want to know how this person's personality can be seen on the wine table, because really smart people are also very helpful on the wine table, and some words made everyone feel very comfortable. Generally, such people are smarter and have higher EQ.
What should I say when I propose a toast to the leader? If you are a subordinate, you should take the initiative to propose a toast to the leader. Even for some people who really don't like or want to cooperate, you have to be wronged for a while. When you meet such a leader, you always have to drink the first meeting wine. Even if you can't drink it, this cup of wine is indispensable, which shows respect for the leaders. So when you have the first meeting wine with the leader, you can say something like, "I did it, whatever."
Secondly, sometimes when chatting with good friends, I will have a drink to entertain myself. So in fact, whether it's drinking with leaders or drinking with friends around you, it's actually a very predestined thing. At this time, the mouth will become very sweet. For everyone, they like to listen to some compliments or nice words very much. Therefore, as a person with high emotional intelligence, I will definitely say "I propose a toast to you" on the wine table.
In fact, everyone will find a very active atmosphere at the dinner table, that is, everyone will eat and drink together. Sometimes, he will say more things like "Let's have a drink together". For some people who don't eat together often, they will feel very harmonious and close the relationship. In fact, such people are very smart and have very high emotional intelligence.
Speaking skills with high emotional intelligence on the wine table 3
1. Toast the leader, not only to be grateful, but also to show respect and blessing for the cause. For example, "Miss Wang, I grew up today because of your concern and cultivation. My words of gratitude are in the wine. I will continue to work hard in the future, hoping that our company will get better and better and strive for more brilliant achievements next year. I'll go first! Lead you at will! " Your glass is lower than the boss's glass. Touch it and then drink it off, which will be sincere. If you don't drink much, you can choose a small glass of white wine. In principle, you should kill the wine in the glass to show the sincerity of "respect first"
2. When toasting the elderly or elders, we should emphasize the blessing of health and longevity. For example, I wish you happiness in your later years, such as the flow of the East China Sea, and you will live longer than Nanshan! Or: I wish you good health and live longer than Peng Zu, 80 this year, next year 18 and so on. In addition, it should be noted that most old people are conservative, so as a younger generation, they should talk less and joke less with their elders at the wine table and be a quiet and obedient audience.
When toasting the newlyweds and attending the wedding banquet, as friends, we should show our sincere wishes to the newlyweds. For example, I wish the young couple a happy wedding, a happy life, a kiss on the neck and eternal love. Most wedding banquets are peer-to-peer toasts and greetings, which are much easier than workplace and birthday parties, but it should also be noted that the more relaxed, the easier it is to drink, so it is also basic etiquette to control alcohol consumption and avoid excessive drinking!
4. When toasting the customer, I wish him plenty of money. For example, Yang Zong, I wish you a prosperous business and rich financial resources in Kyushu. Make a lot of money every day, and your career is booming. On this occasion, in addition to causing more accidents to customers, we should also pay attention to the appropriateness of polite language. Too much politeness will inevitably lead to falsehood, so we should pay attention to avoid leaving an "unrealistic" impression on customers.
5. Meet someone who says he can't drink well. When toasting, people say that you can't drink well if you drink too much. At this time, don't force it. It should be said that you should eat enough and drink less. As long as you have deep feelings, it is true that you don't drink. Ok, I'll do it. Please eat more.
6. If you propose a toast to someone who drinks tea but doesn't drink, someone will pick up the teacup. Don't be reluctant at this time. Properly speaking, as long as there is affection, everything is wine. I will do it. Suit yourself.
If you are on a wine table with high EQ, 3 OL must know the tricks of the eight wine tables.
First, if you anticipate the wine market in advance.
Tell your colleagues in advance what is wrong and look for opportunities to "moisten your feet". And turn off your cell phone when you are most likely to find you. It is not surprising that people who don't know this. The leader asked, explained the reason, and said that the mobile phone was dead and could be covered. This is called "the best policy is to take the thirty-six measures"
Having notice in advance and improvising will make the leaders feel that you are ignoring the overall situation.
Second, the leadership specifically charged.
Having notice in advance and improvising will make the leaders feel that you are ignoring the overall situation. Maybe it will annoy the leader. At this time, you can readily agree first. Call your family or playmates behind your back, and let them call before the banquet to say that there is something urgent at home, so that the leaders can know what is going on in front of the leaders and guests. Then, I urgently asked to leave. This is called "intimacy".
Spit it out with a very uncomfortable mouth, dirty tables and chairs, and say that I have been extremely uncomfortable recently.
Three, in case you can't escape.
Then sit down and pretend to be uncomfortable, but don't look like you're leaving. Take a big sip when you start drinking, and then pretend to be uncomfortable and spit it out. Dirty tables and chairs, and said that he was extremely uncomfortable recently. Leaders will naturally be disappointed when they see dirty desks and chairs, but they can't blame you. At this time, you proposed to see a doctor, and solemnly told the leaders about this "inflammation" and that "disease" and explained why you can't touch alcohol.
Fourth, in case there is no other way.
If the hostess has a heart-to-heart male colleague, you can find a reason to pretend to be a couple and get angry. Speaking of excitement, I got up and left angrily. That's it, the leader said. It's hard to say. At best, you have a bad temper. You have to go. This is a kind of "distraction".
You didn't drink too much, so you pretended to be drunk and fell to the ground, scaring the leader half to death.
The first time I asked you to accompany me, you said you were allergic to alcohol.
You were forced to go. You didn't drink much, so you pretended to be drunk and scared the leader to death. If you are an administrative official, you are really drunk, and the leaders are really afraid that the Commission for Discipline Inspection will come to you! Or they began to play the fool by drinking, making trouble, talking nonsense or hitting people, making the banquet a mess. Naturally it won't happen again. This is "to attack and defend".
Pretending not to understand the things at the scene makes the leaders and guests feel boring. The leader sees that you have no future on the wine table.
Sixth, "false infatuation"
Go, anyway, one-track mind, stubborn to the end, don't drink with anyone, regardless of etiquette on the wine table, pretend not to understand the things on the spot, so that leaders and guests feel boring. Leaders see that you have no future on the wine table, so naturally they won't call you again, so as to protect themselves. In front of the leader, he said that he hated eating and drinking.
Seven, preemptive strike
Usually in front of the leaders, they say that they hate eating and drinking the most, and they show disdain for eating and drinking in other units, so that the leaders will not ask you to accompany them when they think of your attitude and appearance. This is called "preemptive strike". I arranged for my sister to call me as soon as she got off the phone, pretending to be in a hurry and asking her for help.
Eight, usually prepare the medical certificate.
Whoever owns it, change it to your own name. As long as it is about this "inflammation" and that "disease", this "high" and that "low", take it out seriously in front of the leaders and explain why you can't touch alcohol. If the leader says you don't have to drink, the key is to get the atmosphere together. All you have to do is firmly say that your colleagues are in better health. Leaders naturally have nothing to say. This is called "making something out of nothing".
You can find a reason to pretend to be a couple and get angry. Speaking of excitement, I got up and left angrily.