Therefore, parents should create a warm and happy life atmosphere for their children. Getting along with children at ordinary times is the key to determining whether children are confident or not. When parents often quarrel and the family atmosphere is tense, children are easily influenced by the environment, feeling inferior, sensitive and unhappy. Therefore, the relationship between husband and wife is harmonious, family members respect and care for each other, and children will grow up confidently and optimistically in this loving environment.
Cultivate children's sense of accomplishment and value. Don't compare children with other children and make them feel cared for. This is a sense of value. Parents can ask their children to do what they can, such as pouring a glass of water for their mother, taking out the garbage and folding clothes. Don't underestimate these small things to let children know that they are needed, which is also the best way to improve their self-confidence. Appropriate "tasks" can make children feel responsible, contribute, and have a high sense of accomplishment and happiness.
Some parents like to say, look how well other children are doing. This kind of comparison easily hurts children's self-esteem. Even if children are really different from other children, comparison will hurt them and make them very anxious and have no self-confidence. If you want to compare, you should also compare your child's today and yesterday. Even if the child has made a little progress, it is also a reason worthy of parents' affirmation. Remember never to laugh at the child, and never say that it hurts to let the child go. Hurting a child will keep the child in a sad mood.
Parents should not think that their children will be sensible if they pay, and parents should tolerate their children unconditionally. Some parents think that children will get the same reward if they pay. Parents should not say "how much I have paid for you" to their children. They should know that home is unconditional, and don't ask their children to be obedient and sensible with how much suffering they have paid. Even if it is really the child's fault, don't criticize and accuse the child in public. Protect children's self-esteem. These things are privately communicated with children, telling them what is wrong and what to do, and teaching them to distinguish right from wrong.
It is also a particularly effective way to cultivate children's self-confidence, that is, to cultivate children's skills, to have the opportunity to show themselves when participating in some activities and competitions, and to get satisfaction from them. People's happiness depends largely on being valued by others. If people's attention and praise will increase people's happiness, children will become more and more confident, optimistic and sunny.
Parents should praise their children properly and don't cling to their shortcomings. Now many parents understand the importance of praise to their children, so some parents often praise their children and never miss any opportunity to praise them. Parents usually encourage their children to be recognized and become very happy. However, it should be noted that we should not praise the results, but the process, and praise the children's efforts and persistence in achieving their goals, not just the results themselves.
If you want children to be confident and optimistic, you must first appreciate and recognize them from the heart, constantly give them positive psychological hints, and gradually let them recognize themselves, so that self-confidence will be established. We should encourage children to be optimistic instead of praising them. No matter what happens to them, even if they do not do well in the exam, we should encourage them to be strong and make persistent efforts.
Parents should trust their children and show their love and respect. Every child wants his parents to believe in themselves and treat themselves as adults. Therefore, some things should be decided by children themselves, and some decisions about life and study should be given to children, and we should believe that children can handle it well and give them appropriate help when they need it, instead of doing everything.
At the same time, parents should also give their children a sense of security, understand their difficulties, and recognize and accept their feelings. Even if their children fail or do something wrong, don't throw cold water on them or blame them directly, let alone complain about them. Accept children's emotions and feelings to help them solve problems and give them love and security, so that they will be confident and optimistic. At the same time, we should speak out bravely, let them feel our love with actions and words, and let them believe that parents will unconditionally trust and trust their children no matter what happens.
Parents should not think that their children don't know anything, treat them as friends and don't put on airs. Only by letting children feel the love and respect of their parents can they cultivate their optimistic character. Every child has a different personality. Positive and optimistic children will have a smoother life and a brighter future.