How do you feel when you notice the tourists caressing the sand? What is an association?
Don't rush this process, it will make him feel insecure. Visitors may not have a clear theme at first, or even know what to wear. However, in the process of caressing the sand, some feelings came. Following your feelings means following your current consciousness, which can also be understood as following your recent problems. This situation is most easily associated with the subconscious.
Xiaoping doesn't know what he wants most. In the process of slowly stroking the sand, she accidentally found herself unconsciously pulling out human organs such as spine and uterus, which made her start to pay attention to her health, so she quickly entered the state and put out a sand table with health as the theme.
Observe every sequence of the pendulum, every time you nod, shake your head, sigh, pout, pick up the sand and put it down, hesitate, and remember the weight of your strength when you put it down. Try not to write with paper and pencil, even if you are worried about chaos, ask permission to visit. Tourists will feel unsafe.
If he doesn't answer, don't ask what this is and what it is, because he may not be thinking when he is posing, but he may be thinking now.
If in his direction, we find that the key points are prominent, the function division is perfect and the logic is clear, we can directly enter the sand table story. If you find it difficult to see yourself, you can invite him to enjoy it in other directions and let him talk.
What you want to talk about needs a screening process, because visitors have not fully trusted the consultant. Listening is the core of psychological counselors. In this process, we should instantly hear where he may turn, then guide him, and always pay attention to his current feelings and respond. Let visitors open their hearts in the process of being understood and solve their current confusion.
It doesn't matter if you don't grasp the core, stay firmly in the position of consultant and pay attention to his every feeling, because if his problems are not solved, he will always talk about his own problems. Grab it again.
Xiaoli saw the consultant for the first time and had a lot of precautions in her heart. When the counselor asked her to explain the sand table story, she said she didn't know what to say. The consultant asked her how she felt after wearing it, and she said she didn't feel anything; Obviously there is resistance to the consultant.
The counselor looked at her and said, "I'm curious. How many times have I just seen you put this bird in this position? Can you tell me what happened here? "
Visiting felt the care and intention of the consultant, and involuntarily opened his own topic, making the consultation develop in the direction of solving problems.
This will allow visitors to review their own consultation process and their own gains in this process.
Xiao Xia named her sand table the corner. She said that she especially needed such a space where she could relax and really belong to herself. Because, at ordinary times are involuntarily, very tired, but can't get rid of it. I hope I can study more in the future, so that I can better deal with my family, work and individuals and really relax myself.
Sand table, do you want to take a picture? Did you put the sand away by yourself? Or should I put it away at my convenience? This should be consulted by the spectators. Avoid unfinished events that make tourists feel uncomfortable and cause the next entanglement.
The above is the complete process of a sand table game, but this procedure is not always followed. If the two sides negotiate more than once, some problems can be improvised and flexible.
But the general premise is that the consultant should have all-round feelings, unconditional attention, positive response, and stand on the feelings of the visitors, so as to better solve problems for the visitors.