1. Traditional Marriage
This kind of marriage is the marriage of the parents. When a young man or woman grows up, the man's parents take the initiative to give their son a match, they think it is appropriate to marry the daughter of a certain family, the man's family will ask the matchmaker to go to the woman's home to talk about marriage, and if the woman's family also thinks that the two are the right match, they will gladly agree to do so.
There are also women who don't know much about men's families, and often make two gestures, neither categorically reject, nor immediately agree, but leave a certain amount of time to investigate. This situation is generally recognized as an intention, the man's family will choose an auspicious date for the second time to invite the matchmaker to go to the marriage, the woman's family if you agree, and then by the two sides of the elderly consultation, to decide the date of the marriage and to confirm the amount of money and gifts and other matters.
There are also female parents who do not think it is appropriate, in the second marriage, it is categorically rejected, the marriage will not be, only to choose another family. This kind of marriage, most of the married can live happily ever after, but there are also a few and not as good as the divorce.
2, cock-eyed marriage
This is living in Lei Shan County bridge port, palm batch, palm Lei, Taogang and other places of the Hmong wedding customs. Young men and women grow into adulthood, although by the matchmaker to betrothal, but does not count, but also to eat "cock-eyed wine" to finalize the decision. After choosing an auspicious day, the man's family to carry a rooster, prepare some rice wine, glutinous rice, meat and other gifts, invited uncles and brothers, such as the woman's home, the night to kill the rooster sent to be cooked on the table, by an elder to look at the chicken's eye.
If the chicken's eyes are open is considered auspicious, then the elders will be immediately blessed: "chicken eyes, good two, rich and powerful on both sides, the descendants are also developed, full of blessings in two homes, congratulations on your two in-laws great luck," and other words. Then we raise a cup *** drink mutual congratulations, this marriage will be accomplished.
If the chicken eyes an open, a closed, or both closed, it is considered inauspicious, look at the chicken eyes of the elders will say some round words to persuade the two sides to choose a better spouse. Everyone then hastily eat, after the meal, each dispersed, the marriage will not be. However, sometimes both sides belong to the old relatives, each other and know each other very well, both sides of the children are also compatible, then by both parents agreed to marriage can also be accomplished.
3, but also the head of the marriage
This is the aunt cousin married to uncle cousin that blood cousin marriage. Auntie born after the girl grew up, first went to ask the uncle's family whether to marry the girl as a daughter-in-law, the uncle replied not to marry, the aunt dared to marry the girl to the outside.
If the uncle decides to marry the aunt's daughter as his daughter-in-law, he considers it to be the right thing to do, and the aunt does not dare to refuse. Blood cousin marriage, rarely get happy, most are very painful. With the popularization of scientific knowledge, people's awareness has improved, and now, blood cousin marriage is rare or no longer.
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Taboos of the Hmong People
(1) Dietary Taboos
1. When dining, the head of the chicken should be honored to the older people, the chicken liver and chicken mash should be honored to the older women, hand over the wings to young men and women, wishing them unlimited prospects, chicken legs should be left to children. Children are not allowed to eat chicken blood, that if you eat after growing up to do things to speak, speak will be blushing.
2, avoid cooking and eating snake meat in the house.
(2) holiday taboos
1, during the holidays (especially the Spring Festival), can not fight, can not say unlucky words.
2, the first day of the Spring Festival, do not move the knife, do not pick the water, do not sweep the floor, do not knock the board wall, not barefoot must wear shoes, do not eat poop, wash water shall not be poured outside the house, women can not go to other people's homes.
3, the first three days of the Spring Festival may not be in the Walled City drying clothes, that did, the year will hit the ferocious thunder, blowing gales blowing houses. Women can not take the needle and thread at home, can be used outside. Women outside the needle and thread that some people say "sitting year" (Chinese phonetic meaning).
People's Daily Online - Interesting Guizhou Miao Wedding Customs
Yinjiang People's Government - Taboo Customs of the Miao People