The most painful thing in the world is life and death. The death of a loved one was originally a sad event; but now, some old people have just driven west, body temperature is still alive. After the children squeezed out a few tears and howled, everything was back to normal.
The strange phenomenon of "joyful mourning" is normal for simple old farmers not to understand. In our tradition, death is the most important thing. It's all very sad. It is for this reason that funerals have an irreversible solemnity. This solemnity is not a disrespect for the dead, but a great honor. As a so-called red, white and happy event, people call it a "happy event", referring to the death of an elderly person who died a normal death and lived a long life. However, this phrase does not mean that the descendants of the old man are no longer sad, that their hearts are no longer heavy, or that the funeral can be regarded as a "joyous event". In rural areas, the dying elderly are called "happy and sad". People always try to create the concept of a happy event. They express this mood through big movements, firecrackers, gongs, drums, suona, songs and dances. This is not normal, and one should not express grief for the elderly and children in this way.
It is important to change those bad social customs, not to "celebrate" the deaths of the elderly or to hold big funerals, and to concentrate on serving the elderly while they are still alive, so as not to breed bad customs. In the final analysis, funerals and mourning in rural areas are all about face-saving and competition. This is because some people have psychological problems. I think we can take good care of the elderly as long as they are still alive, even if they are still alive. After death, a simple operation will leave a good reputation. The Chinese nation has a fine tradition of filial piety and respect for parents, honoring the elderly and loving the young. Moreover, supporting the elderly is a kind of good deed to accumulate virtues and good deeds. It also sets a good example for our children, killing two birds with one stone.
As a child, you need to go home more often, call the elderly more often, and provide them with better living conditions. This is not only a good thing for the elderly to spend their twilight years in peace, but also a good thing to do. Children are role models. Families that support their elderly are generally happier, everything is going well and their children are successful in their careers.