The so-called "people who reach out and don't smile", the real strength is not rigidity, but softness. If you want to enter a door, your head must be lower than the door frame; If you want to reach the peak of success, you must bend down to prepare for climbing. If you can bow your head, things will be smoother and you can achieve your goal faster.
It is often those who can go down in history, be known by people and occupy a place in the society at that time. Combining rigidity with softness, combining rigidity with softness has never been considered as a man's bearing and grace. A temporary bow is not a permanent bow, but a long-term rise, just as a temporary concession is to move forward better. There are advances and retreats, and success must be flexible. The kind of people who walk the line and retreat if they don't advance are just villagers who are brave on the surface and actually have more than enough to do something. Therefore, people with great wisdom should stretch and bend in the world to be called people with great wisdom and successful capital.
Sun Bin, an ancient military strategist in China, was a successful man with flexibility.
Sun Bin studied the art of war with Ren Wei and Pang Juan when he was young. Pang Juan is a very selfish and jealous person. Sun Bin, on the other hand, is simple and honest, modest and prudent, and studies hard, which is highly valued by Guiguzi. Later, Guiguzi passed the Art of War 13 to Sun Bin.
Who knows, this matter was known by Pang Juan, a jealous and narrow-minded friend at the same school. How can Pang Juan tolerate that Sun Bin is better than him? But he is good at camouflage, and Sun Bin became brothers. Later, he went to Wei to look for a job. After being reused, Pang Juan failed to honor his promise to invite Sun Bin down the mountain. Later, Sun Bin's talent spread to Wei Huiwang, so King Hui asked Pang Juan to write and invite Sun Bin, and Pang Juan had to do so.
After receiving the letter, Sun Bin appreciated Pang Liu's recommendation and immediately packed his bags and went to Wei. After seeing Sun Bin, Pang Liu was insincere and warmly received. Soon, however, Pang Juan forged letters and designed to frame Sun Bin. Slander Sun Bin in front of him, saying that he was having an affair with Qi. King Hui was so angry that he wanted to put Sun Bin to death. In order to cheat Sun Bin's art of war, Pang Juan hypocritically pleaded with Wang Wei in the friendship of classmates and turned the death penalty into flogging. Sun Bin was extremely cruelly dug out his kneecap, pricked his face with a needle, and then painted it with ink, almost becoming a living dead man.
Sun Bin suddenly realized that he finally saw the true face of Pang Juan, and he really regretted it. Now under the control of Pang Juan, his knees are gone and his legs can't walk. Very sad. But Sun Bin is not a weak scholar. His will is admirable. He used his hatred of Pang Juan to motivate himself to live. On the one hand, he skillfully dealt with Pang Juan, on the other hand, he tried to find opportunities to get rid of Pang Juan's surveillance as soon as possible, waiting for one day to be free to ride and avenge himself. He began to pretend to be crazy, crying, laughing and making all kinds of silly expressions: either vomiting or screaming. Someone found Sun Bin's abnormality and was terrified, so they quickly told Pang Juan about it. Pang Juan personally looked at it and saw Sun Bin's face was full of phlegm and saliva. Sometimes he fell down and laughed, and sometimes he burst into tears. But how can this fool the cunning Pang Juan? So, when Pang Juan ordered his men to drag Sun Bin into the pigsty, Sun Bin appeared and lay in the dunghill. Pang Juan is still dubious, but the supervision is not as strict as before. In order to hide his eyes and ears, Sun Bin talks nonsense all day, crying and laughing, wandering in the streets, and belongs to the pigsty at night. Pang Juan finally believed that he was really crazy.
Later, the debater Chunyu Kun was sent to visit Wei. Sun Bin took advantage of people's unprepared, secretly met with Qi Shi, and made a generous speech as a criminal, which moved Qi Shi. So, Chunyu Kun secretly left Wei with Sun Bin and returned to Linzi, Qi, to display his talents, kill Pang Juan and avenge himself.
In a difficult situation, Sun Bin had to pretend to be crazy and paralyze Pang Juan in order to save his life, and finally got the chance to escape from Wei. Sun Bin's story tells us that in order to achieve our ultimate goal, we must bow our heads in front of the strong and be flexible.
Han Xin, a famous star in the Han Dynasty, walked on the road before becoming famous. A local ruffian thinks he is not pleasing to the eye and wants to play tricks on him. He said, "You look proud and have a sword, but you are just useless. If you have verve, you will kill me; If you don't dare, climb under my crotch. " Han Xin knew that he was deliberately finding fault. In order to stay out of trouble and realize his ideals and ambitions, Han Xin endured a moment of anger and climbed down from the leg of the local ruffian. It is this kind of person's low-key under the eaves that makes him the founding hero of the Han Dynasty.
It can be seen that life has to go through many obstacles, and the open door is not completely suitable for our bodies. Sometimes there are even artificial obstacles, and we may have to keep hitting the wall or crawl forward. If you talk about "backbone" blindly, in the end, you will not only be rejected, but also be hit hard. Only by learning to bow when you should, can you skillfully cross the thorns of life. This is the strategy and wisdom of life progress, and it is also an indispensable demeanor and accomplishment after China's entry into WTO.
At the end of the Sui Dynasty, the government was corrupt and the world was in chaos. Tang gaozu was appointed as the envoy of Shanxi and Hedong, and was ordered to crack down on thieves. With the strength of Tang Gaozu, ordinary bandits are not a problem. Only the Turks in the north often defeat Tang Gaozu. The Turks rely on fighters, and the people are good at riding and shooting, which makes Li Yuan a big headache. Turkic soldiers with their own advantages particularly arrogant, don't put Tang Gaozu's eyes. Tang Gaozu hated the Turks, and regarded them as sworn enemies.
Later, Li Yuan stayed in Taiyuan. The Turks are still in hot pursuit, and tens of thousands of military forces have repeatedly attacked Taiyuan City. Tang Gaozu sent Wang Kangda to lead the rest of the army, and almost all of them were wiped out. In the end, the clever use of the suspected soldiers barely scared off the Turkish soldiers. To Tang Gaozu's surprise, the thief Liu Wuzhou suddenly entered Fenyang Palace (one of the detached palaces of Emperor Yang Di) in charge of Tang Gaozu, plundered all the women in the palace and gave them to Turks, who also named Liu Wuzhou Yang Khan. In addition, with the support and protection of the Turks, there are many troublemakers, and internal and external troubles make Tang Gaozu unable to be two places at once. Not only that, he himself may be killed by Emperor Yang Di at any time.
In this case, everyone thinks that Tang Gaozu must hate the Turks and will fight them to the death. But Li Yuan's "Everyone is drunk, I wake up alone" made a decision that surprised everyone: surrender to the Turks and give them a "beauty treasure".
To outsiders, Ethan's actions are really outrageous. However, he has his own calculations. Although it is a shame on the surface, he believes that it is wisest to be a man and not to be impulsive. Because according to the general trend of the world, we have resolutely decided to attack Sui. Although Taiyuan is a military town, it is not an ideal base for making a fortune. It must enter the western customs before it can dominate the world. Westerners are in Guanzhong, and Taiyuan is the base area that Li Yuan must not lose. Therefore, we must try our best to hold Taiyuan in order to advance westward smoothly. At that time, there were only 30,000 to 40,000 soldiers in Tang Gaozu. Even if all the troops are stationed in Taiyuan, it is difficult to cope with the existence of Turks at any time, and it is also difficult to hunt down thieves and bandits around Turks. Now if you want to enter the Guanzhong, obviously you can't leave heavy guards. The only way is to make peace and let the Turks "sit on the treasure." Therefore, Tang Gaozu did not hesitate to bow his head and submit to humiliation and make peace. Tang Gaozu reached an agreement with the Turks that the capital would be * * *, the land would be owned by him, and all the beautiful women and silk would be dedicated to Khan.
As the saying goes: Take a step back and broaden the horizon. Short-sighted and mercenary, Khan really made up with Li Yuan. Because Li was a courtier, he also got a lot of support from Turks. Khan gave Li Yuan many horses, and Li Yuan took the opportunity to buy many horses. This laid the foundation for him to have a cavalry with strong combat effectiveness. Besides, the Han people are brave and good at fighting. At this time, Li Jiajun joined the Turkish cavalry, which naturally increased the momentum and created favorable conditions for him to establish the Tang Dynasty.
In order to achieve his ultimate goal, Li Yuan bowed to the Turks at a critical moment, which made him avoid many detours in the process of establishing the Tang Dynasty. Li Yuan's indomitable spirit is really worth learning from later generations.
Everyone has a weak side. When your own strength is not enough to subdue the other side, you should bow your head in time and strive for victory. Although society is constantly changing, it is impossible for society to adapt to you. Only you can adapt to society. If you can't face the social reality and always live in dissatisfaction with society, then you will be eliminated by society. This is not good for yourself and your family. This is the so-called truth that "the tiger falls in Pingyang and is bullied by dogs, and the dragon swims in shallow water and is played by shrimp".
Get rid of the courage of ordinary people, don't be a moth, learn to bow your head appropriately, or you can overcome this difficulty, bear setbacks and approach success all the way. Su Dongpo has such a passage in On Hou: "There are brave people in the world, but their faces are not surprised, and they are not angry for no reason." This is a great hostage and their ambitions are far away. " That's what I'm saying.
As the saying goes, "Nine times out of ten people are unhappy" and "a gentleman can bend and stretch". "Resilience" means that when the objective situation is unfavorable to you, you can bow your head and forbear, instead of trying to be brave; "Resilience" means that when the external environment is favorable to you, you can make timely use of the current situation to promote your success.
Flexibility is a virtue of human beings and a principle of people's life. In real life, it is easy to go with the flow, but difficult to sail against the current; Bending is more difficult than stretching. As long as you understand that temporary flexion is for better stretching and temporary elbow arch is for holding your head higher, then you are not far from success.