After Angie married Jiang Defu, life has been going smoothly:
Although she gave birth to five children, her eldest sister-in-law, Dehua, can help her wholeheartedly, and Jiang Defu also has the strength to spoil his wife and be considerate. Life is endless, and she enters old age happily and calmly.
The only unhappiness after retirement comes from this old man who has worked for the people. Other children want to be successful, and married children don't need their parents to worry about them. They all have their own families and careers, and they all get along well.
Jiang Yafei, in particular, has always been by his parents' side, taking care of his family in his career. He has both filial piety and the ability to solve various problems for his aging parents.
Only the third Wei Min went to the countryside to return to his father's hometown and became a farmer. Later, despite his parents' obstacles, he joined the factory in the local county, became a worker, and married Xu Hong, a woman from an ordinary local family.
After giving birth, she confidently sent her starving daughter to her parents for her mother to take care of.
Angie's children were not so annoyed when they were young, but when they were old, they were trapped at home, holding bottles and diapers with their granddaughters.
On the contrary, Mr. Ge, who is married to Wang as his second wife, can easily take his wife out for square dance every day.
For the sake of my little granddaughter, Angie can only endure these years of suffering despite her complaints.
Who knows that it is not easy to bring up a granddaughter and send her to kindergarten, and both Jiang Weimin and his wife have been laid off, and their source of livelihood has been broken, and they have returned to their parents' home in Qingdao to support the elderly.
Angie, this trouble is really a wave after wave.
I saw my youngest son and daughter-in-law sleeping until midnight every day, not cooking, not cleaning, not caring about children, not looking for a job. Angie can't fight.
But I can't leave them alone. I have to pay attention to helping them find suitable jobs everywhere.
On this day, I happened to see a small advertisement posted on the roadside telephone pole: transfer of dry cleaners.
An Jie couldn't help but move his heart. He called again to raise money to help the Weimin couple put down the shop and start a business.
Who knows that he is anxious, and the Weimin couple said that people don't want to do it. Washing clothes is tiring and humiliating. Daughter-in-law Xu Hong directly refuted her mother-in-law Anjie sentence by sentence.
Yafei, who was outside, stopped listening and went straight in to meet the Weimin couple. He hit the nail on the head and pointed out that Weimin's mixing to this point was not the scapegoat of Gu Jiang at all, but the result of his own willfulness and wrong choice.
Jiang Weimin and Jiang Yafei are twins, and the opportunity to be a soldier of the right age is to be arranged to be a soldier on the island. Jiang Yafei gladly obeyed and became an operator on the island.
Jiang Weimin suspects that he has lived on the island since he was born. He tried to resist being a soldier under the eyes of his parents, refused to obey, and missed the opportunity to be a soldier.
The next year, he caught up with the countryside. When his father told him, Weimin reluctantly agreed, so he returned to his hometown and became a farmer.
The situation of Weimin has always been Angie's heart disease. Angie repeatedly warned Weimin to stay in the country and wait for a chance to return to the city.
I can't stand it for the people. He only stayed in the country for a year, just in time for the county tractor factory to recruit people, and Weimin was called into the factory.
This life direction has been set, and you can only get married and have children in the local area, even if your father is Commander Jiang.
It's really a mistake, a mistake, and finally the fate of brothers and sisters is hanging in the sky.
However, Jiang Weimin has reached this point. As Jiang Yafei said, it has nothing to do with his parents, but is it all his own fault?
In fact, this is not entirely correct. Jiang Weimin's insistence on taking his own path before major life choices is absolutely inseparable from his parents.
Jiang Weimin and Jiang Yafei are a natural couple, but their popularity is quite different.
Jiang Yafei is the first daughter of his parents because he was the third son of the Jiang family when he was born.
Jiang Yafei was brought up by her parents, so that she was fearless and wilder than the boys on the island:
Agile, often chasing boys all over the island;
In a fight, neither boy was her opponent, but she beat her to death;
Wang Haiyang, who is several years older than her, has great prestige in front of other children, but she often makes her speechless.
Jiang Weimin is not that popular. There are two naughty brothers in the world, which makes Anjie spend most of his energy.
There are two other baby girls who need pain. Weimin was caught in the middle, and his parents left him little love and patience.
If Weimin wants to brush his sense of existence, he can only cry, make noise and complain, be passive in Nuo Nuo, be a parent's yes-man, or say it in a surprising or shocking way to attract others' attention.
Brother Weiguo wants to be a soldier and wants to go to the front line of the Sino-Soviet border. His parents pity his youth and don't want him to go. Big brother went on a hunger strike for this matter. In those days, the whole family was worried about Big Brother.
Later, my parents couldn't beat my eldest brother, and agreed that he would watch the family ceremony, hold a farewell party and take a family photo after joining the army. My dad also specially took a day off to film with my eldest brother, let him enjoy himself and make him crazy.
The second brother Weidong became a paratrooper, because the pilot didn't choose his parents and took care of his feelings in all aspects.
Although my father didn't promise to take my second brother to shoot the target and my mother didn't promise to take a family photo, when I saw my second brother hiding in the cabin at the dock, my mother immediately burst into tears and regretted something, and promised to take her to take a family photo when my second brother came back.
It's my turn to go to the countryside. Mom doesn't like to let dad come back, but she doesn't force dad to find another way out for herself. She's just waiting for goodbye.
Mother kept pouting on the dock, unable to tell whether she felt sorry for herself or was ashamed of being a farmer. Anyway, her attitude is very embarrassing, and she has to say some wisecracks to make her happy.
Three brothers, farewell treatment is not as good as one, and parents are less concerned about each other.
It is because of being neglected and neglected by his parents since childhood that Weimin insisted on choosing not to be a soldier on the island. He just wants to leave his parents as far away as possible, even if he is a farmer.
Parents not only ignore the people, but also often let him take the blame.
At the dinner table, my daughter snorted. Jiang Defu lost his temper, and Weimin snorted. It didn't take long, but my father knocked heavily on his head with chopsticks.
Weimin refuses to accept:
It makes sense, but it hurts.
Dehua was rejected by Mrding, and the pressure at the dinner table was very low. Dehua was in a bad mood, so he put down his chopsticks and left after dinner. The others were busy eating rice and didn't speak.
Asia and Africa spat out their tongues, and Yaning followed tacitly. At this time, Weimin suddenly said: "You are all foodies!"
He thinks he's funny, so it's inappropriate. Angie was in a complicated mood and had nowhere to vent, so she knocked on Weimin with chopsticks.
It turns out that not only the father is eccentric, but also the mother is eccentric. In Weimin's view.
The children miss the peach cake locked by their mother and aunt. Weidong is greedy but clever. He pried the lock with wire early in the morning and ate several bags by himself.
Finally, my conscience found that when I left the last bag, I gave it to my eldest brother Weiguo, but it was discovered by Yafei and Yaning. In order to draw them into their own camp, the brothers also gave them a piece.
Only these Weimin who share a room with their aunt don't know.
Yafei is smart and bold, and also follows suit. It was the same when my mother went to the service agency, poking the lock with wire and asking for peach crisp.
Unexpectedly, Wei Min met her this time. Seeing her familiar posture, Wei Min knew that this was not the first crime and was filled with indignation. She shouted, "Stop thief!"
Yafei grabbed him and pinned him to the ground until he begged for mercy and made him swear not to report him.
Yafei solemnly took out a piece of peach cake and handed it to Weimin. On second thought, he gave it to Yaning and said, "Yaning is young, you eat first."
Unexpectedly, this is the last piece. Weimin has been drooling for a long time.
So he was furious and shouted, "Stop the thief." It was not until her mother heard voices coming from outside that Afyanin wisely hid in her room.
Angie looked at the empty peach cake and didn't resist. He turned his head and hit Weimin, who was waiting for the result.
In the process of growing up for the people, there are countless such examples. No wonder Weimin insists that he is the only scapegoat in this family when he grows up.
Wei Guo and Wei Dong shared a room since childhood, and their feelings were as good as conjoined babies. They are inseparable all day.
Whether stealing meat for dogs or eating peach cakes at home, you can't cheat the other person who lives in the same room, so you have to develop the other person into your own ally and share weal and woe.
Weiguo was beaten by his father and refused to eat in a rage. Weidong got up in the middle of the night and secretly made poached eggs for his brother. Even if he looks at the saliva, he will swallow it.
It is impossible to win the brotherhood cultivated over time and defend the people.
He shares a room with his aunt at night, although she takes good care of him.
But at this age, he needs playmates to make trouble with, allies to share secrets with, and confidants to vent grievances with. He doesn't have any of these.
At home, apart from the relationship between the eldest brother and the second brother, Yafei and Yaning live together and have a unique relationship.
They go to school together, do their homework together and whisper together every day. When they are in trouble, someone helps them, and someone covers them when they make mistakes.
In addition, Weimin is not as strong and weak as his brother. He likes to cry like a girl, and it is common to be bullied outside.
Either my brother needs to make a decision or Yafei needs help, so everyone thinks he is a burden and doesn't want to take him to play.
As a result, he was left out, isolated, rejected by his parents, and rejected by his brothers and sisters. He had to attract the attention of his parents by doing things and telling stories, and get their help by pleasing his brothers and sisters. Who knows, the more he does, the less he likes his parents and the more he is despised by his brothers and sisters.
When Jiang Weimin grew up, his first thought was to escape.
The first thought is to leave home. There are wind knives or frost swords outside. He hasn't experienced it, but his intuition tells him that it is good to leave home and go anywhere.
So whatever, I'd rather go to the countryside as a farmer than stay on the island as a soldier.
The second is distrust of parents.
His parents told him to wait for an opportunity to return to the city, but he didn't listen at all.
Subconsciously, I feel that my parents left him in the country and may have forgotten his worthless son.
So as long as there is a little chance, he is like grasping a straw, and it doesn't matter whether this straw can hang over his head for a lifetime.
Then there are personality defects.
Weimin's character, cowardice is born, and inferiority is gradually developed.
Due to being neglected, suppressed and isolated at home for a long time, Weimin's self-identity is very low.
On the issue of finding a partner, Guo Wei brought back the handsome and talented singer Bai Hongmei. Angie is picky when she sees her nose, and always feels that she is not worthy of her excellent eldest son.
Wei Minju was confined to the county tractor factory as a worker. Although he has a family background in Gao Qian, in his heart, he only feels that he is the most neglected and worthless youngest son in the commander's family.
So I met an ordinary citizen's family who wanted to be talented but not talented. I want to be ugly, and I am willing to marry and be crushed.
As Yafei said, there are many people who go to the countryside to mix with human beings. What she wants to say in her heart is Wang Haiyang, but Jiang Weimin can't compare with her.
When Jiang Weimin was a child, he was not sensible, but Wang Haiyang always loved reading.
Wang Haiyang, an only child, definitely grew up in a wealthy family. Unlike Weimin, he has a depressed trauma and inferiority complex, and has no confidence in what he is doing.
Because the living environment was comfortable and rich, and he didn't have the strong desire and drive like Changyi Jiang, and was pushed to the bottom by fate, he went out. As for starting a career, it is tantamount to wishful thinking. He has neither courage nor ability.
Of course, it is biased to blame the failure of a person's life on his family background, but every child is an independent individual. In another way of education, children's life experiences may be very different.
As far as Jiang Weimin is concerned, as long as Anjie and his wife give him the same respect, fairness and trust as other children, his life may be much smoother.
I hope that every parent can make continuous progress and growth on the road of raising children, and become a better self with their children and rely on each other strongly.