Destiny is sometimes really a test of humanity, the oldest, desperately trying to make money, to a better life for the child, the house, the car, the ticket, the child is not to worry, you work hard to busy a whole, all the best to him, he does not know enough, do not know how to be grateful, no requirements for their own, the heart fluttering dance, what can not listen to it, the family encountered a sudden change like a person who has nothing to do with, still I'm not sure if I'm going to be able to do that.
Because we give more time to the work, feel material is the best love for the child, but the child did not feel. The book Dr. Helan's imperfection is beautiful, a case in point, a father's life hard work, you can manage thousands of employees, while the child is a stranger to his line, not willing to give him communication, I earned so much money, how not nagging good, the child's answer is who cares about the money you earn . This shows that the child in the critical moment of life is most in need of companionship, the need for the father to face the difficulties with themselves, more with him, the father's answer is almost zero, no scene with the child together.
Where is the way back in life, and what is true happiness?
? Many people spend their lives chasing fame, chasing wealth, chasing careers, chasing dreams, but let's try to ask ourselves if we are happy?
Now there are two, every day almost all efforts to help children to create all possible conditions to help children grow, but it is not satisfactory, God is like a ghost always test the human nature, black swan event almost let a lot of traditional enterprises are experiencing a huge trauma, we are not an exception, the staff's wages, outside the loan, mortgage, expenses almost forced people to the line of life and death, the feeling of a sudden catastrophe let himself almost to the death, the feeling of a sudden catastrophe let himself to the death, the feeling of a sudden catastrophe let himself to the death, the feeling of a sudden disaster. Sudden disaster to make their own almost suffocated, where the road, where the heart should return. The first thing you need to do is to get your hands on a new one, and you'll be able to do that.
Every day in the repayment and make money on the road hard running, the son does not understand the hard work of parents, not clear why parents will be angry, do not understand why parents can not accompany him, do not feel the warmth of the home and happiness, asked me to study the significance of what I know in order to responsibility, I let my own value, in order to live with dignity.
Looking back, I'm really okay, and never so nervous, but a word from others, a word of complaint at home, will take themselves into the abyss of doom. Make you feel guilty, make you uneasy, make you feel are your own fault, I suddenly feel myself in self-blame and guilt is very difficult to make rational thinking and judgment, often the more you want to get what the more you can't get, the conscious and subconscious have been fighting. Let me summarize, how is the life I want? Where is the way back to happiness? What is the real meaning of our living?
? Home can not feel the warmth, busy every day, home is not like home, the child is not like a child, affection and friendship to go where, the heart of the way back in where. We should be quiet and think about what we are pursuing in the end , in the end where the road?
Dr. Hyland's "Imperfection is Beauty" says that happiness needs to be learned, happiness needs to be practiced, which kind of happiness do you have? Prof. Seligman of Positive Psychology puts forward five elements of happiness
The first is the feeling of pleasure, from the entertainment of the senses .
The first is the pleasure of feeling, from the entertainment of the senses.
But the entertainment of the senses can be seen and then want to have, after having no feeling, all the material will start to fall once you have.
The second is the sense of accomplishment
The third is to do what you like best and what you are good at.
What people need most is the kind of life they want. True happiness is to do what you like and good at, people will feel the happiness of life. Do you like and good at things every day will have forgotten the joy, from the bottom of the heart of the fulfillment. Doing what you like and are good at has two main characteristics
The first is that you will be immersed in the joy of forgetting yourself for a long time, and you will have a sense of solidity and fulfillment from the bottom of your heart.
The fourth happiness is warm and lasting intimate relationships, relationships are life, the best practice dojo.
Where does the pressure come from, tens of millions of surveys say, regret the past, worry about the future, compare today is the three sources of pain in life, we are too much want to get what we want people, things, environment, today became regret yesterday, tomorrow's worry is more urgent, intense into anxiety, anxiety will become fear, insomnia, stomach pains and so on do not know with this is the internal attrition is also a vicious circle, you worry about losing, fear of the future will make you with their own. Fear of the future will make you lose one more minute with your own life link, the way out is to let go of the past, face today, create the future everyone has enough resources, wisdom to solve their own dilemmas.
What we can do, let's do it first!
? From today onwards Try to say every word, do everything well, treat everyone well do the process of the middle of the road naturally open, naturally have no time to worry about the past and worry about the future.
Fifth will regret things written down
A chose the wrong job into the wrong line
B chose the wrong love the wrong person
C said the wrong thing
D did the wrong thing
We do not dwell on the past without changing the future, each of our past choices are made by our resources, wisdom, environment, ability and other various factors decided. No one wants to make a mistake and no one can predict the future, no matter what happened in the past, let yourself go, you must correct the right and wrong, every step is a knowledge that leads to wisdom.
? Life is a single journey, there is no turning back can start over possible. Seeing too many lives full of regrets and regrets does not make any sense for your own life, but also plays a destructive role. All of the past, learn to accept yourself, cherish yourself, need to ask yourself is, in this matter I gained what, how can I do better in the future, go forward, do not look back. People regret not doing things in life than regret to do the wrong thing more, life either in fear of exhaustion, or in the risk of blooming, most people in fear of missing the opportunity of life, wandering in regret, a few people are brave enough to bear the risks that life must experience, enjoy a wonderful life without regrets.
? We have to give ourselves than, better than their own yesterday, do not give others than, other people's wonderful and you have nothing to do, the biggest benefit of comparison is to find an example for themselves, to inspire their own growth. Otherwise it is a disservice to yourself. Worry about the future is because of the present insecurity, the sense of inadequacy is to avoid the methods and excuses for effort, rather than worrying about spending time to find a job, worry about the other half of the other half of the people to run away, worry about natural and man-made disasters befalling your head, it is better to use the time and experience to create a fullness of their own lives. No one can predict the future.
The most effective way to deal with the future is to think about it every day, to do it, to grasp the present on things related to the goal, you can grasp the future. Worrying about your past, fearing your future, comparing today's people are not likely to have an abundant life likewise will not have their peace and happiness. What you spend your time doing is what you will become.
Last night, I said to my eldest son, "No matter what happened in the past, we can't go back to the present, all we can do is to live every moment of the present, and you can help your mom to take care of your brother, and you can help your mom to do more chores, because you're going to have a home and a child, and you need to bring him a better education and influence. Today you do not have the concept of home in your head, then you will have a home in the future will not think of dedication and pay for the family, so in order to make themselves better, each of us need to add bricks and mortar to the family, for the better development of the family to screw together, the force to a make, because we are the family destiny of the combination. Everyone should contribute.
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