Think about really admire their courage, how to put a person who has never met called mom.
So, for me, there is no such thing as changing your mouth, the first time you see your in-laws, you call them mom and dad.
My mother-in-law is very good to me, once I arrived home to do good food, dinner time, let me eat more, then silly, in order to please them, eat hard, eat their own very difficult.
I remember one dinner ate especially much, I drank some medicine, the results of my stomach can not stand, in and out of the mother-in-law, squatting on the side of the road on the vomit. And let others think I'm pregnant.
The mother-in-law often take me to buy clothes, in my family, my mother in my high school after, almost did not take me to buy clothes, because the family's financial situation does not allow.
The better my mother-in-law treated me, the better I felt than my mom.
My mom told me that even the best mother-in-law-daughter-in-law relationship will have problems, I don't believe it, I believe I can handle the relationship with my mother-in-law.
In fact, there is no difference between before and after marriage, my mother-in-law is as good to me as ever, and I have not changed much, the same as before I got married, and it is not in order to please my in-laws, pretending.
I used to go out and say how my mom is, and this mom refers to my mother-in-law, and they all thought it was my maiden mother.
I use this to show that we have a good relationship, and the more I do this, the more I feel that something is wrong, and that I am pretending to be good.
My mother-in-law is a particularly strong woman, said to do what you have to do, I am pretending to listen to her, in catering to her, I feel uncomfortable, there is aggression.
When I was pregnant, my mother-in-law worked in Beijing, and came back only two months before the birth, and the first seven months have been at home, cooking for themselves, remembering the time when I was just pregnant, the reaction of pregnancy, smelling fumes and wanting to vomit, or insisting on cooking.
My mother-in-law asked me if I could stay at home by myself. I'm not sure if I'm going to be able to do that.
In fact, I can't, but I'm used to the days when my mother-in-law is not around, free and easy.
In the evening, my mother-in-law went to the square to dance, called on me, I was embarrassed to refuse, and as a result, I made myself very uncomfortable.
I feel that there is something between me and my in-laws!
After the birth of my child, it made me have to start expressing my needs, because of the different concepts of parenting, I can't accept it, I have to say it.
The baby was just over ten days old, and my mother-in-law had to pick it up and put it in the diaper, which of course I didn't agree with, and had to say so or I would have gone crazy. I can't say anything if the food is not good, but as soon as the baby is involved, I am full of energy and have to say it.
It's only now that my baby is over a year old that I've stopped pretending to have a good relationship with my mother-in-law, stopped pretending to be a good girl, and let the energy flow freely between the two.
The biggest difference is that before I pretended to be happy, pretended not to care, and now I can think for my mother-in-law.
Recently, my mother-in-law has been working in the peach tree field. If it were before, I would have thought, "Go ahead, don't bring your grandchildren with you, and see if your children are still with you, I want to make your heart full of guilt. The first thing you need to do is to get your hands on some of the most popular products and services in the world, and then you can get your hands on some of the most popular ones.
But now it's not the same, I can now think of my mother-in-law's point of view, instead of harboring resentment and false feelings.
It's so hot in the ground, and my mother-in-law works so hard, I can cook for her and let her rest early at night.
In front of outsiders, I can also frankly say, my mother-in-law how so and so.
A real energy flows between the two, so the relationship is comfortable.
The mother-in-law is not a mother, the mother-in-law is also a mother, if you do not think she is your mother, then do not force, real than anything else, so that the relationship can be long.
Flattery to please, such a relationship is not equal, over time, it will hinder the flow of energy between the two, and eventually things will go wrong.
We need a sensible mother-in-law, and a reasonable daughter-in-law, both are indispensable.
If your mother-in-law is not good to you, you need to be clear, is it really bad, or you think it's not good, feel it with your heart, and stand in her point of view.
Not to be humble, is the relationship, the best state.