I think it's true that remarriage for the elderly can be a real problem.
I agree with this statement. There may be people who oppose my point of view, because remarried elderly people united together is not just the problem of two people, it is the union of two families, and there will be conflicts in the long run.
A column beside me. The old man is a retired cadres, the old lady is a worker, in the friends of the marriage. The children of the old man's family are very high quality, over the New Year's holidays to see their fathers, can not be as often as before to see their fathers, because the old lady will be unhappy, and people's children are in good condition to take things and money . But the old lady always do not know enough, all these years with the old man in the past, the sky and the north and south of the world everywhere travel, are spending the old man's salary, that is not satisfied, want to control the old man's salary. Even so the children have not intervened in their lives, they have been living in a foreign girl's house. One day the old man fell down the stairs slippery feet fell, hospitalized diagnosed hip fracture, can not move, need someone to take care of, the old lady to see that their health is not good to go home to see a doctor, packing and packing things to take the plane to go, the old man to take the money for the plane ticket, and also give 10,000 yuan to see a doctor. The girl in the family took the plane to take care of their old man, such a scenario, but where a little blood will be anxious, the old man is good when followed by the enjoyment of the blessings of travel everywhere, the old man lying in bed, you have a disease, how cruel reality. Finally, the old man in the girl's care, miraculous recovery, can walk on the ground, during this period of time the old man to see the cost of medical treatment are children take, because the old man's paycheck card is no money, these years are spent. The old lady to see the old man stood up, want to come back, they also feel embarrassed, looking for a variety of friends to persuade, the old man is agreed to come back ah! But people's children do not do,
The world has no free lunch, want to come to want to go, not that good, resolutely resisted the old lady again into the home 。。。。。。
People themselves must have a certain quality, not to see the benefit of forgetting, not too selfish, not always think of themselves, and finally move up a stone stone their feet.
The elderly want to remarry is actually the elderly do not want to give their children trouble by choosing the practice, but because of the remarriage of the family relationship is very complex, the property issue is difficult to deal with, so the form seems to add a lot of annoyance to the children. This is mainly the children are afraid of the old man's life savings and house into the hands of a halfway house. There are also elderly people who really want to find a source of financial resources and choose to remarry. Therefore, I agree that the elderly remarriage beforehand to deal with pre-marital property, get the blessing of the children before getting married or partner life. This is to avoid future problems, no one will step in to take care of it.
Disagree. Many older people remarry to ease the burden on their children. If the children are afraid of other people to spend their parents' money, do not let their parents remarried, that is what the title said.
People who think this way are not a little selfish, although people have reached a certain age, into the old age, should also enjoy their married life. Can not because the children will not agree, trouble such a statement, to be alone in the end of life ......
Do not say, people are old, the soil buried half of the son, regardless of the men and women, do not pursue their favorite people, want to find an old partner of the *** degree of the rest of his life, perhaps twilight love is more happy it?
Neighbor Auntie Chen's old age, remarriage is recognized by the children, was full of blessings!
Auntie Chen is 75 years old, she married her first husband at the age of 22, and the couple raised three children. Her husband is good at everything else, making money to support the family is also considered a family, but is a drunkard, love to make friends, three days drunk back to find Auntie Chen's business, the family wife and children suffered, hit the wife crying children called ......
So the noise over to the, Auntie Chen was 56 years old, her husband one night up! Sudden cerebral hemorrhage, sent to the hospital also did not rescue, the next day at dawn, people are gone! Auntie Chen cried out to let herself how to live?
Because Auntie Chen has always been a family member, decades of life is to serve her husband's children, but also rely on her husband in the unit as a small leader, nothing else will be outside to earn extra money, the money is also handed over to Auntie Chen to take care of.
Auntie Chen herself does not have a pension, in addition to the occasional domestic violence by her husband, usually live a good life, at least not worry about food and clothing.
After her husband's death, Auntie Chen's two sons and one daughter have gotten married, and her oldest grandson is already one and a half years old.
Auntie Chen often a few of her children's homes around the life, to help with the children, do some housework, and sometimes with the neighbors old sister out to dance to the square to entertain a little, but most of their own home to keep the few bungalows to live.
As time goes by, some people persuade Auntie Chen to remarry, and her children have their own homes, so she can find a better partner and live her own life. Auntie Chen always said, old age is not good to find, a person's home is too lonely, there is no way to live like this day by day! The words are all bleak and a bit pitiful!
But suddenly, for a while, Auntie Chen began to pay attention to dress themselves, face is white, clothes are more and more through the bright colors!
Then later, I heard the neighboring aunts chatting in front of the door, saying that Auntie Chen was outside and an old man turning the street, probably looking for a companion.
Once Auntie Chen's youngest daughter-in-law came over, the enthusiastic neighbors began to ask questions, as if they did not want to get a water fall out of it. ......
Auntie Chen's daughter-in-law is also very open-minded, said: "As long as the mother-in-law is happy, living well, our sister has no opinion. sisters have no problem with it."
Once, Auntie Chen wore a flamboyant home, met the neighbors asked, she took the initiative to say: "remarried, looking for an old partner is to consider, do not give their children trouble, looking for this old man than their own six years old, the old man died a few years ago. Salary of more than 7000, is a retired school principal, I just figure he has a good temper, so that the two of us have to take care of each other, quite good."
At the end of the year, Auntie Chen got married. Many neighbors were invited to the wedding, Auntie Chen in a fuchsia dress, wearing a graceful, full of smiles. Both children support the two old people remarried, together look very lively it!
Auntie Chen sold several bungalows and bought a second-hand house in partnership with her old man, which is on the first floor, and simply decorated it as a home for the old couple.
The children on both sides of the fence go over to eat with the old man, help each other cook, and chat together, which is very harmonious. Now that Auntie Chen has been remarried for twenty years, I can see that she is doing very well. The first thing you need to do is to get your hands on a new car, and then you'll be able to get your hands on a new car.
Some people ask Auntie Chen, this old man is good, or the ex-husband is good? Auntie Chen always smiled and said, "It must be this after the old man is good, he does not scold and do not beat, every month to give me 2,000 yuan, to buy things will also take the initiative to give me, although his money is not like the first ex-husband are handed over to me, but I am also satisfied!"
So it's said, "A young couple grows old together." If the elderly want to remarry, the children had better stay out of the way, they are not as young people in love, sincere and passionate, but the remarriage of the elderly should also be blessed.
It is said that remarriage is difficult and will cause trouble for the children, but as long as we uphold the "sincerity for sincerity." More respect, understanding and tolerance for both parents, I believe that remarriage can be as happy as the elderly!
I agree, because you remarried is just to give your children trouble, and finally you have a sick people to send you back, not sick to feed others sick to let your children to feed you, I am also about to enter the old age of life, so I think that unless you don't remarried, if you remarried, don't look for children!
Not exactly! Remarriage of the elderly not only just to the children to add to the trouble, in fact, more or to find trouble for themselves. Because the old man remarried first of all no emotional basis, and secondly, the two sides of the habits of life hobbies are difficult to adapt to, these problems would have let the older people on the exhaustion plus the two children due to the old man's property belonging to the middle of the churning, resulting in the two people are exhausted and ultimately each mind depressed and unhappy.
So I think the best thing for the elderly is to be left alone, to be free, not to bother anyone, not to cause trouble for others and not to find trouble for themselves.
I don't agree, the elderly should have their own life, should not be the children's subsidiary. When I was young, I was surrounded by my family and my children for a lifetime, and my children were old enough to have their own families, so I couldn't be with them from time to time, and I was very lonely, and I had no one to keep me company when I was sick, and I didn't have anyone to know what was going on, so I had to be brave enough to look for my own happiness.
There are two sides to everything, and you can't generalize.
Not true! Remarrying and taking care of each other is a way to ease the burden on your children.