In the eyes of the world, what is the difference between the original spouse and the mistress?
What's the difference between the first and the second?
The former is old, the latter is young?
The former innocent, the latter all evil?
The former aggrieved, the latter arrogant?
Catching up on the show "30 is Only Thirty" recently has given me a whole new perspective on this question.
And the answer to this question is derived from the drama's Lin You You and Xu Fangshan eating a plate of crayfish together.
01, the original spouse to last, the junior to enjoy.
Gu Jia, the original wife of Xu Yushan, the hero of the drama, graduated from a prestigious university and used to be an elite in foreign enterprises. After marriage, she encouraged her husband to resign from the organization, and the couple started their own business together to have a better financial foundation.
After that, in order to give birth to a child, so that the child has quality companionship and healthy growth, but also in order to make her husband worry-free, she became a full-time wife, and did so for four years.
In these 4 years, she insisted on exercising because she wanted to stay healthy and be with her son and husband for a longer period of time;
She insisted on replacing the big high-grade house so that her son could go to a better kindergarten and have a better development in the future;
She was able to lower her head and pull down her face to apologize to her clients and go to the wife's circle to pull a single order, thus solving the company's predicament and making a long term development;
Children away from the hand, she had her own career pursuit, only to ease the financial burden on her husband, the family fireworks factory closed, no longer let the family risk, so that the family long peace;
When Xu Mirage Mountain physical examination of fatty liver, she immediately asked her husband to fast at night, and to convince her husband that fasting at night is today's Europe's most popular way of eating, you can clear the stomach and intestines, detoxification, and promote sleep!
When her husband was still screaming about this one decision of hers, she immediately decided to accompany him to fast ......
In short, no matter what decisions and choices the original spouse makes, she is doing it from the perspective of love for her husband, love for her children, love for her family, and it's for the sake of her children, husband, family's long term development and healthy and happy do efforts.
Lin Yau Yau in the drama is a quasi mistress with a deep heart.
As an employee of an amusement park, she has a crush on Xu Fanshan, who is mature, handsome, talented, and doesn't know how to refuse.
With the knowledge that the other party has a wife and children, she repeatedly teases and waits for an opportunity to make a move.
At the table where she ate crayfish with Xu Yushan, her words exposed not only her dietary views, but also her emotional views and values.
Before the meal, Xu Yushan had already made his position clear that he had quit dinner, but as soon as the crayfish were served, Lin Youyou advised Xu Yushan: "The crayfish in this season are the fattest, it's a pity not to eat them, and you'll have to wait until next year to eat them again."
When Xu Yanshan indicated that the reason for his fasting was because of the medical checkup of fatty liver, Lin Youyou didn't care at all, and still picked up the peeled crayfish and handed it to Xu Yanshan's mouth, tempting him with, "Are you really not hungry?"
When Xu Yanshan told Gu Jia about the benefits of fasting, Lin Youyou laughed at Xu Yanshan: these days, men who listen to their wives so much are rare.
Then Lin Yau-Yau brainwashed Xu Manshan with the story of the cicada on the 8th day:
The cicada breaks out of the ground and has only 7 days of life. She herself would rather be a cicada that chirps with abandon and lives a wonderful life for 7 days, than a lonely cicada that keeps its head down and saves its strength and is lucky enough to live until the 8th day.
At last she concludes that longevity is uninteresting and happiness is sinless.
So, only a plate of crayfish, the original match and junior to the man's attitude at a glance: the original match is always thinking of their own pay, sacrifice, planning and husband, children long and happy life; and junior always calculating is a moment of enjoyment and squandering.
02, the original always pay, the junior only want to possess.
The movie and TV dramas are higher than life, but they also come from life.
Real life, those who betrayed the marriage of the man, can also be everywhere to experience the original and junior different.
Mr. Chen, who divorced his wife after three years of marital infidelity, is now paying a high financial price to get rid of his mistress and return to singleness.
When talking about the difference between an original wife and a mistress, he cited several examples from his life that sounded chilling.
Mr. Chen and his wife are a poor couple, the two started from a small workshop in the countryside, starting from nothing, and then expanded until today's large-scale production, coupled with several correct investment, economic affluence.
But the original wife of a thrifty nature, the second is a long years as a housewife, no income, spend a penny to be well thought out, with the consent of Mr. Chen.
"I remember once, she hesitated for many days, said she wanted to buy a bag, I gave her a card, but the next day she gave it back to me without spending it, she said she spent 39.9 yuan on Jinduoduo to buy a very satisfactory bag; but the mistress of the house took my card, and on Valentine's Day, she bought a 38,000 bag." Mr. Chen recalled.
"When the child went to school, his wife to transport the child to pour once the bus, wind and rain is not convenient, I discussed to buy her a car, so that the child does not suffer, but his wife took into account that I am running around outside the hard, the factory there is the pressure of the bank loan, the future of the child spending a lot of money, refused to buy a car; but the mistress of the mouth to ask for a 200,000 yuan of the car, but also said to drive out Smack of shame, let me promise to give her a new car after two years." Mr. Chen said.
"In the past, I always scolded my wife for being poor and unproductive, only knowing how to save money. Family New Year's Eve to buy clothes, always the elderly, children and I are share, she does not buy; go to the restaurant to eat, as long as it is ordered by portion of the dishes, she urged less a portion, she does not eat; even in the home to boil an egg, lying a purse egg, she never want to give themselves also a; always calculating the future to buy a house, for children to go to college, find a job, get married, the elderly pension ... ...There are a lot of places to spend money. But what about the mistress? I raised her, almost raised her whole family, she a buy clothes is the whole family have a share; dinner are in high-end hotels, the whole family come; but also I borrow money to her sister to buy a house, to her brother to buy a car." Mr. Chen exclaimed.
When Mr. Chen was y impressed by the original spouse and junior when different, it was too late, seemingly incompetent, cowardly wife, insisted on divorce, the share of the house and money, old age is enough, the children have reached adulthood, there is no dispute.
Mr. Chen excused the company's economic problems, debt crisis, and even the risk of imprisonment, the junior took the opportunity to extort a sum of money, this and he broke contact.
A few days ago, Mr. Chen saw the original wife downstairs square dancing.
"Since the divorce, she seems to be younger, more comfortable, yes, now she does not have to take care of children, do not have to support the elderly (parents-in-law have passed away), do not have to wait for their husbands, she would have been a love of cleanliness, able to do a good job of the people, and now a person is quiet and comfortable, the most is a good time, I begged her to re-marriage three times, they were all rejected by her, and now it is the children hate me, the elderly complained about me, I both take care of the children hate me. The elderly blame me, I can not take care of the elderly, but also can not manage their own, junior is no longer dare to find, burn money only." Mr. Chen regrets.
03, the original mate wants your people, junior wants your money.
Mr. Li, four years after the marital infidelity, and the original spouse divorce, remarried a year ago.
"I was with the original spouse over enough to find a little three." Mr. Li described to.
Mr. Li's original spouse is a teacher, life attitude is rigorous and serious, meticulous, on what are required to be perfect, regular, and non-negotiable.
"I go out to socialize and drink, she will be furious, call the drinking buddies, blame people neither send me home, nor take into account my fatty liver, said a single I drink accident, she can not spare people, so that I am in front of my friends is very disgraceful." Mr. Li said.
"I play mahjong at night, press a mo, she will find mahjong parlor, foot massage parlor, bet me home, and set the rules, after 10:00 p.m., the door of the house is locked, do not want to go home again. At home, also before 10:00 must go to bed, but also like a monk chanting the benefits of going to bed early." Mr. Li recalled.
"Wake up a little late in the morning, she also chatter; after eating, lying on the sofa for a while, she is not used to; eat meat eat more, she is not allowed; drink more than a few words, she is also afraid that I offended, retaliation; home late, I am worried about accidents, and often life-threatening chain of buttons.... ..., in short, there is not a bit of freedom to speak of." Li shook his head.
"Occasionally, one day, if I go to bed early and get up early, I can still accompany her to play badminton for a while, three meals a day at home, fewer cigarettes, three days without alcohol, she will be smiling and ask me if I feel good, but also like treating students in general, I encourage me greatly and even no shortage of rewards, and also longing for two people old age, happy old age life, but I only feel to be disciplined and restricted, with no happiness to speak of." Mr. Li confessed.
Finally, Mr. Li cheated on his wife, which is not at all difficult for him who is financially rich, possesses status and is dashing and mature.
"After getting together with Xiao San, cigarettes were ordered for me by Xiao San, wine was bought for me by Xiao San's son, and when socializing, it was Xiao San who accompanied him, and when he drank too much, it was Xiao San who drove him to and from the car." Mr. Li recalled.
"As long as I pay, what I want to eat, the little three to buy; want to do, the little three are accompanied, she is also happy to enjoy the freedom with me, squandering life. Just 4 years, my beer belly up, bald head, legs and feet sink, more hot-tempered, every medical examination is a red light." Mr. Li lamented.
"In a drunkenness, I went to the trunk of the car to get something, open without paying attention, the trunk popped up, popped to my forehead, I fell to the ground in line, the back of the head on the ground, immediately fainted, the junior thought I hung up, gave me the original call and 120, then disappeared." Mr. Lee said.
Waking up the first look, Mr. Lee saw his ex-wife both angry and hard to hide the look of worry.
Not long after, the doctor came over to explain the condition, saying that the brain may be affected in the future, and that it is important to keep exercising for a long time, and gave a lot of rehabilitation advice based on Mr. Li's age and physical condition.
"My ex-wife recorded it all on her cell phone, organized it, printed it out and pasted it on my bedside, and comforted me with the words: 'It's okay, listen to me, everything will be as good as it was.'" Mr. Lee's eyes were moist.
It was also that moment that Mr. Lee made up his mind to get back together with his ex-wife, and a year later he got what he wanted.
I don't know whether the countless movies and TV dramas or the two examples in the article can make people who are still on the wrong path lose their way.
At the same time, I also hope that all people, can be compared to the article proposed in the three differences between the original spouse and the third party, their own judgment accompanied by the people, to bring their own is to ask the heart of the blessings of the sin or selfish desire.
May the above words, and my readers *** encouragement.
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