Chinese people are good face, no matter how much hurt inside, have to wear a smile, behind the back of the aggrieved all their own suffer, late at night tears. The first thing you need to do is to get your hands dirty.
Although "helpless" to endure, but also not lost for "harmony, growth" way, but in this way, our lives have been unknowingly by others around, bent over backwards, living in the eyes of others, do what others want us to do, become what others want us to be. The first thing that I want to do is to be the person that other people want us to be.
In reality, whether it is the family or society, often the more people feel aggrieved, because pay too much to get too little, there will inevitably be complaints, willing to pay for others, is a kind of goodness, but this kind of goodness to have a degree, if you do not grasp the degree of this life will be very tired; if you also do not know how to reject other people, will only be aggrieved, this kind of people will be living more tired. Life is not easy, it forces each of us into the Iron Man, but the strong shell can not hide the fragility of the heart.
Honestly, I am very rejected the "compromise" this practice, many times really have to compromise, such as "people under the eaves have to bow down", but my heart is not willing, so I told my children: learn to be a humble person, not to be overbearing. Be a humble person, no need to deliberately cater to anyone, no need to deliberately settle for anyone. Try not to condescend to make things difficult for yourself without making things difficult for others. I think it's the greatest respect in life to not condescend to yourself.
Not willing to do things, do not force yourself. The first thing you need to do is to get a good deal of money from the government. The first thing I'd like to do is to get out of the way and get out of the way.
Then in reality there are some people who do not condescend to themselves to the fullest, and do not make it difficult for others to leave behind. For example, early in the morning to put a trombone to sell things to dance in the square, in the need for quiet occasions to talk loudly -, some people take the help and care of others to you as a matter of course. I know a mother whose child is clearly different from healthy children - although she herself does not admit it, although the child is in a regular school class, but basically can not learn anything, if you enjoy yourself not to disturb the normal teaching and other students, so be it, but other people are in the classroom he ran all over the classroom, take out toys to play, dropping spit To classmates' books and clothes, teachers and other parents put up with a few years, but then the situation is getting more and more serious, had to persuade his parents to take him home or send him to a special school, but his parents are adamant that they do not agree, saying that the family is not available, that nine years of compulsory education must accept the child to study in school, that the other classmates do not have sympathy -, this Obviously has been not to condescend to their own but to make things difficult for others! Do not be too self-righteous, after all, no one owes you; this pair of parents is to build their own ease on top of other people's difficulties, did not consider, take into account other people's feelings, only think of themselves. And then there are those who always like to prove their superiority by making things difficult for others.
A while ago, a takeaway boy because of bad reviews of the news of suicide has attracted widespread attention, he was not well, delayed delivery time and even received three bad reviews. Worried that the bonus was deducted, lost his job he drank a bottle of rat poison ......
Bad reviews affect the wages of the little brother, so courier and takeaway boys often have the cheek to say to you: trouble to give a five-star - I'm sure if it's not for the sake of life no one will stoop to begging. But many people still give a star and a complaint, living the life of the day into "everyone to find fault", just to set off their own importance and sense of superiority. Some times it's fun to help others with a little bit of help.
I don't condescend to myself, but I also hope that I don't make things difficult for others!