Of course you can, supporting the elderly is the responsibility and obligation of every child, the great aunt even if she married, that also has the obligation to support, so you help your mother-in-law to call the great aunt to take care of the elderly, which is also reasonable. But sometimes, their own things their own know, even if you can do this, can not do that, many times said are angry words, can not be counted.
Taking the matter of "whose parents are in charge" as an example, is there anything wrong with saying this? From the distribution of the main obligation to support the elderly, their direct children have the obligation to support their parents, then their own support for their parents, which is very normal, "tube" their parents is filial piety, is the performance of the obligation, I think your mother-in-law is not wrong.
But the problem is, now that your mother-in-law is sick, you don't want to take care of her because you think your mother-in-law was right, and then you want to ask your sister-in-law to take care of her. But the question is, if your mother is sick, are you going to take care of her or not? If you go to take care of her, or if you pay for her care, do you take your own money or your husband's? If you take your own money, it makes sense, but if you take your husband's money, then that's a bit of a misnomer.
While according to your mother-in-law's words, your mother is sick, you can manage, but the problem is that you have to manage by yourself, not with your husband's income, if you can do this, then go to your great aunt, if you can't do this, then you can also look for your great aunt, but as a daughter-in-law, in the period of conjugal relationship with your husband, you are assisted in the support obligation, that is, there is an obligation to care for your mother-in-law. The fact that you have a duty to take care of your mother-in-law has nothing to do with what she has said.
The other way around is the same, although the mother-in-law said some ruthless, but you have to know that you are married to her son, and you **** life is your husband, not your mother-in-law, your mother-in-law so talk is to favor your husband, so what is the problem? Unless it's because you yourself consider yourself an outsider and think you never fit into the family. If that's the case, you are advised to change your mind, unless it's because you don't want to move on with your current husband or want to fight.
The reason why I would say this is to tell you a truth, you and your husband formed a family, many things to seek your husband's advice, and then only to do things, and a lot of things are not said to be counted, the mother-in-law, although so, but the law is there, you can go to the great aunt, but you can not prevent your husband to do filial piety, and you also have to assist in the support of the This is to say where you do not take advantage of the place.
And the day is to live for yourself, mother-in-law said this is hard to hear, but it will not cause you any substantial damage. You can refuse to take care of your mother-in-law, but you can't not do your duty, you can not take the initiative to take care of your mother-in-law, but you can't prevent your husband from taking care of your mother-in-law, but no matter what, you go to your great-aunt, and that's surely no problem. Family and husband and wife relationship is to be managed, think about it, if because of anger with the mother-in-law, let the husband difficult, then the family will never have peace.