If you don't compromise, you will be completely confiscated.
After that, I began to slowly reduce the time spent with my children doing some outdoor activities.
How should parents guide children who are addicted to mobile phones? Let me say a few things [laughs].
1. Understand and accept children correctly.
It is difficult to understand the world of children from the perspective of adults. Therefore, parents may wish to know more about their children and explore what they like. On the one hand, we can listen to children's opinions, on the other hand, we can communicate with children.
As parents, we should also tell our children that electronic products are tools and we can't let them "kidnap" our lives. In daily life, we should give children a good demonstration. As long as it is not addictive, children can control the time of playing mobile phones.
2. Agree to the same rules.
Tell your child that you understand his normal needs of playing mobile phones, but don't be too addicted. In order to better limit the excessive use of mobile phones, parents can jointly make a rule that they should abide by. This rule should not restrict children unilaterally, but should be observed by the whole family.
Good rules are inseparable from strict implementation. The rules set by parents and children can become good habits if they persist. Let children develop good behavior habits and cognition from childhood and benefit for life.
3. Enrich children's lives
The cultivation of children's good behavior habits needs the guidance and education of parents. In order to prevent children from indulging in mobile phones, parents can cultivate their children's hobbies and enrich their daily life experience.
Parents can cultivate their children's interest in musical instruments and calligraphy, or play games, read books and exercise with their children. In addition, children can be encouraged to communicate more with others and devote their attention to more meaningful things.
Children are addicted to mobile phones, so we can't ignore them or control them. Grasping this scale requires parents to make good use of their wisdom. As parents, while creating a good family environment for their children, they should also give them enough love and acceptance.
I am a writer in the field of education. Let me talk about my suggestions and experiences.
First of all, we have to face this era of technological development. It is impossible to leave the mobile phone. The key is how to make good use of it. Since they are inseparable, they should be distinguished and guided, and children should not be allowed to play by themselves. In fact, the mobile phone has not only its harmful side, but also its beneficial side, which can provide great help whether it is looking for information or studying.
Second, in addition to the ideological acceptance of mobile phones, the following are the actual implementation details. You can also stipulate the length of time for children to use mobile phones, such as 20 minutes at a time, and they must stop using them every time, thus forming a continuous habit. After forming a fixed pattern, when you take your mobile phone away from him, there will be no great psychological resistance.
Third, the use of mobile phones is best guided by parents. Because learning is a boring thing, the developers of learning software also take this into account. You will find that both English learning software on the market, Chinese Pinyin learning and stroke learning will make learning software very entertaining, just like a small game, helping children learn when they are interested. This kind of entertainment is to attract boring children, but it will also bring some negative effects, because he is more addicted to learning like a little game child, so even learning software needs the supervision and guidance of his parents.
In short, in order not to let children indulge, parents need to take certain actions in time and spirit. If parents themselves are attracted by mobile phones and keep playing with them, this wrong example will inevitably be passed on to their children. It is too difficult to correct the child's behavior.
I think:
At present, children use a lot of mobile phones during the epidemic, and many children secretly play mobile phones to make avatars and play games during recess. There are many people, but at this time, parents really need more company and care. But you can't stay with your children all the time, so at this time, you should give your children some free space and tell them when to do something. It is ok to play mobile phone, but it should be limited to one degree! Secondly, tell children that the harm of playing mobile phones for a long time will lead to poor eyesight, and wearing glasses for a long time in the future will be harmful to children's physical and mental health. I want to guide them in this way, and I think the children will accept it slowly.
A few days ago, I read an article written by President Heng Zhong, which was well written. He said, "Mobile phones are stealing children's college dreams." I am very upset after reading it, because there are also children in high school at home, especially during the epidemic, and I always have to go to class online, which is very worrying.
I share this article with parents and children, so that children who are addicted to mobile phones can wake up early.
Mobile phones consume children's brains invisibly! Steal children's high school/college dreams!
A high school head teacher who has been in charge of the class for many years found a phenomenon by analyzing the class report card:
The frequency of using a mobile phone is inversely proportional to your grades, which means that using a mobile phone more often will affect your grades more or less. At present, the performance has deteriorated seriously. Almost all the students in the lower rankings have mobile phones, and most of them will play games with their mobile phones. One of the boys is heavily dependent.
After years of observation, he also found that:
In the possession rate of mobile phones, key classes are far lower than ordinary classes. Moreover, the students who play mobile phones the most fiercely in the class are often not the "rich children" in the eyes of ordinary people, but some children with relatively ordinary families.
Children with good family conditions have stronger self-control, or parents have a clearer understanding of the control of their children's mobile phones. On the contrary, families with low economic level are so fond of their children that they take out their mobile phones from time to time to glance at them in class, play games against time in class, and even stare at the screen when talking to the teacher.
This proves once again that using mobile phones has a great influence on children's learning.
However, almost all parents know that playing mobile phones will affect their children's grades, but there is nothing they can do:
To put it mildly, the child will go in one ear and out the other, pick up the phone and continue to play;
To put it bluntly, the mobile phone slamming out of the door will not only affect the parent-child relationship, but also affect the child's next learning state.
What should parents do? It is suggested that children read Zhang's speech "Don't let your mobile phone steal your college dream".
He pointed out that if you want to succeed in your studies, you should understand what is most important to you and pay attention to self-discipline. Ask your child: Your self-discipline is so fragile in front of a mobile phone. What are you talking about?
Let our children wake up early, how to use the mobile phone reasonably and correctly in the future, everything is still there, and we can't waste it like this. It's not too late to work hard now.
First of all, we must distinguish the age of the child. If the child is only 3 to 6 years old, then the mobile phone can be directly confiscated, severely criticized or even beaten (if the child is crying). If the child is 6 years old 12, he has already had a certain cognition, and a meal can't solve the problem. At this time, it is necessary to analyze the harm of indulging in mobile phones with him, how to use mobile phones reasonably, and formulate some rules and time periods for using mobile phones. If the child has reached 12 years old, it is impossible to play at this age. When scolding becomes more useless, it needs the cooperation of internal and external forces at this time. Internal parents strictly control mobile phones, and don't buy mobile phones for their children unless necessary. If they really think it is necessary to buy a mobile phone for their children, they should make clear the time limit for using the mobile phone with their children before buying a mobile phone and the corresponding handling methods after violating the regulations, and parents should strictly enforce them. Children's schools are required to strictly control mobile phones, and mobile phones are not allowed during school. Of course, there are also many external forces that can help parents solve their children's mobile phone addiction problem. However, I want to mention the most important point here. No matter how old your child is, it is most important for parents to set an example. A parent who is addicted to mobile phones and always shakes them in front of his children, how can children not want to know about mobile phones and play with them?
Children have poor self-control, and it is normal to have Internet addiction and love to play games. Parents should do a good job of supervision, arrange their time reasonably, and can't give their mobile phones to their children completely, which will make them more and more inseparable from mobile phones.
Children themselves feel pessimistic in advance, thinking that the pressure of social work in the future will be too great and their inner anxiety will not be alleviated, so they are immersed in the online world. How to help children establish the boundary of mobile computer network within 30 days? You can talk to me.
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So how to make children addicted? Personally, our parents should set an example. Now many parents come home, often holding mobile phones in their hands, and women visit Taobao and watch TV dramas. Men play games and watch movies. Children just look in their eyes and do it. It's okay to play with their mobile phones in your hands. So parents should take the lead. r
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In addition, children can play appropriate games. Not all games are bad and cannot be completely erased. So our parents should keep an open attitude. Let the children play games, and at the same time, our parents can also participate together and have fun with the children in the game. In addition, parents not only play the role of playmates, but also act as supervisors of their children. Parents' concept of time can effectively influence children and make them play reasonably. r
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Besides, our parents should not be busy making money all day. We should take time out and spend more time with our children. For example, you can play badminton, run or walk with your children at night. You can take your children to the park and climb mountains on weekends. Let children get close to nature. You can take your children to parent-child activities. r
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Therefore, when children are addicted to games, our parents should not only severely criticize them, but also give full play to their initiative, start from themselves, influence them and bring them out of the environment where they are addicted to games.
If you want to break its "malice", you must first shrink its power!
1. Parents are forbidden to provide their children with sufficient funds (for example, in exchange for high-end mobile phones or computers). Once a child has a sense of superiority (not worrying about food and clothing), he will change his mind and waste time. ...
2. A few schools have taken strict control measures: students are forbidden to bring mobile phones into campus. If the doorman finds out, he will be detained ... tell his parents to come to school and get him back!
3. When children are at home (except finishing homework in time), parents should arrange enough housework for their children, urge them to finish it and enrich their lives! ! Don't spoil those knowledgeable and reasonable people into ignorant "miss childe" and enjoy "illusory" fun in the nihilistic network world all day …