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Please introduce an engagement. In the proposal house, if you want to choose a woman to get married, please invite an introducer to entertain you at home first. Explain the significance of marriage proposal, so the introducer runs on both sides and plays the role of media.
With the consent of the introducer and the media, the couple agreed to meet at the man's or his relatives' home once, and after the conversation, they became engaged. No, the man should simply entertain, and the main relatives of both parties should attend and participate in the comments. After the conversation, the two will give each other gifts (the man gives the woman four gifts for her suit, and the woman gives the man a lighter gift). If the other party accepts the gift, it means agreement, otherwise there will be a problem.
In recent years, there have been regulations that women go to the man's house to see the house. When looking at the house, the woman's main relatives should accompany her, and the man should throw a decent banquet, give her a heavier gift than when he first met, and at least get dressed. If the man does not agree to see the house, he needs to convert the cost of seeing the house into cash, which is purely a gift.
After seeing the house, the introducer and both parties agreed on the quantity, color, time, place and the person who pulled the clothes for the woman. On this day, the man's priest and the introducer who went with the woman entered the county seat, generally pulling four or six bodies (2 for each body). Each piece of material (7-9 feet) ranges from 10 to 8 pieces, ranging from 200 to 2,800 yuan in 300 yuan. Bought Buduo at the beginning of liberation, but now it mainly uses wool and silk. Besides clothes, there are shoes, socks, scarves, wool, bags and so on. After finishing the clothes, the group went to a restaurant for dinner, ordered ten eight dishes and spent several hundred yuan. It is often difficult for rural people to pull their clothes.
Weibei people call it "eating feast", Weinan people call it "ceremony", and the people call it "copy, copy, copy", which means "eat, eat, eat". The etiquette of sitting and drinking is very grand. On this day, the man will kill pigs and sheep, prepare chicken, duck and fish, invite the kitchen to cook, set up tents to entertain guests, and put loudspeakers on the house to show off his wealth. The man's relatives were invited to bring gifts to the banquet, and the woman informed the clan, the township party and relatives to help the old and the young and eat the media seats to show their approval. They usually sit and drink and have seven or eight tables, many of which have reached more than 20 tables and served twenty or thirty dishes. The procedure is: 1, drink tea before entering the door, with cakes and dried fruits, four dishes and nine dishes, eleven flowers (nine dishes are put on the shelves) 2, eat the first meal, eat more minced meat noodles, and specially invite the clever women in the village to operate, so as to achieve: "Pu is as thin as paper, as thin as thread, and lotus flowers turn in the pot", and minced meat includes pork, mutton and shredded chicken. 3, two meals: drink first, then eat. When drinking, eight or four dishes are set, and then all kinds of delicious food are served while drinking. When drinking, the male object is toasted by the woman's family one by one, which is called recognizing the son-in-law, and the female object is toasted by the man to the man's family, so that they can recognize the daughter-in-law. After three rounds of drinking. The introducer puts the clothes prepared by the man for his daughter-in-law and the gifts given by the guests on a big plate, presents them in front of the wedding host of the woman (including the wedding cash agreed in advance, sealed with red paper), and delivers them face to face. If there is no opinion, the engagement (gift-giving) task is completed, and after drinking wine, dinner is usually a plate and nine dishes are steamed. At present, wedding arrangements can be roughly divided into "Renyi Pro" 240 yuan and "Ordinary Pro" 360 yuan. Those who exceed the above are "high-priced Pro". After the ceremony, every 4.8 days, the last married man and woman should give each other gifts, and the man's gift is more important than the woman's. The woman came to the man's house to send a farewell gift and was warmly received by the man.
Choosing an auspicious day means choosing an auspicious day to get married, and the countryside is called a wedding day. If the man wants to get married, the matchmaker persuades the woman and asks her husband to calculate the auspicious day. First of all, let's look at the male and female zodiac signs of "benefiting the moon" and "losing the moon". There is a ballad of "Huiyue": "There are five or seven chickens, two or eight tigers and monkeys, three or nine snakes and pigs, and four or seven dragons and dogs. Cattle and sheep five, ten, one, six, rats and horses go. " Secondly, when choosing an auspicious day, in addition to paying attention to it, widows are also afraid of being close to four-eyed people (pregnant women) when choosing an auspicious day, fearing "happiness" and the like. Nowadays, this bad habit is gradually decreasing.
"Marry" is also called marriage, and rural people call it marrying a wife. The old wedding is very complicated and exquisite. Its main items are:
1. Please welcome the deacon: the person who presided over the wedding ceremony. Please write a gift pen: that is, ask Mr. Li to write a wedding couplet the day before (at the door and at the door of the cave). The purpose of marriage is to write a gift list. Please be a guest: country people call guests. Men invite guests and women invite women (or maids). "Guest" should choose two married people of the same age as the groom, who have a good relationship and good family conditions (called blessed people). The task is to accompany the groom to the wedding. Invite chefs (including red chefs who cook and white chefs who steam steamed buns). Please run around: that is, invite people, relatives and friends to do housework, such as borrowing furniture, building a shed, shopping, boiling water, entertaining, etc. Invite people to entertain; It's called "Turtle" (a folk band), with three mouths, five mouths and eight mouths. Bell and drum music, playing music for entertainment. Sedan chair: There are two kinds of sedan chair (sedan chair) and green sedan chair (blue sedan chair), both of which are rectangular and have two poles, and the top is like a square cover. The sedan chair is 5 feet long, 3.5 feet wide and 5 feet high, with a flat top and bottom. There is a curtain at the front door and a seat in the sedan chair. The two poles are 65,438+0.2 feet long and can be carried by four people. The red sedan chair is covered with red cloth, the sedan chair is covered with carved colored curtains, and the green sedan chair is covered with green cloth or blue cloth. The top is conical, engraved with "Qi Li Ji Zi", with red hydrangeas hanging at four corners and eight immortals engraved on four arms.
As a man's family, it is the curtain of the program of "marriage" instrument; The women's home is a "farewell" ceremony. Early this morning, the bride and daughter were dressed by the maid (maid of honor) and waited for the man's wedding. The groom is wearing a robe (blue satin), a hat and a red flower arrangement. Accompanied by his uncle, aunt, Xiang Bin, bearers and musicians, he rode or sat in a sedan chair (in the old days, rich families also had grooms sitting in green sedan chairs and red sedan chairs to celebrate their wedding), and he took a "rockhopper crown", a pair of glasses, an umbrella and other gifts. The groom kowtowed to his father-in-law and entered the banquet. The bride's bridesmaids put on the crown, chardonnay, Hong Xiuxie and red silk veil for the bride, bid farewell to the ancestral shrine, and pay tribute to her parents, brothers and sisters. At this time, the bride's feeling of parting arises spontaneously, and the crying is touching, which is called "crying sedan chair" or "crying marriage". There is also a cry called "Crying Sedan Song": "Mom, mom, you support me. Today, if you get married and become a guest, leaving your siblings to take care of you is like a steel knife digging my heart ... ". In the music, the maid who combs her hair is put on the sedan chair. Door curtains. According to the charming mirror hanging on the pole, choose two children to help the car called "escort car" escort. Musicians play in front, followed by "clothes hangers" (a living wooden frame for putting the bride's makeup thread), followed by "stone baskets" (a suitcase for putting the bride's decorations and daily necessities). The groom rides in front of the sedan chair and combs the maid's car, followed by the guests of the bride's family, forming a long queue called "wedding guests". In every village where the sedan chair passed, the guns stopped, and the women in the village competed to watch and evaluate the bride's craftsmanship. When the sedan chair passes through the head of the sedan chair, intersections, streets and alleys, it is necessary to fire a gun, and some people even put red paper on it to show their willingness to exorcise evil spirits (whether the ceremony of sending a girl is grand or not depends on the rich and the poor). If you bump into relatives on the way (two sedan chairs meet), exchange gifts to make way, indicating that they will not interfere with each other and be safe. In case of a funeral. You have to change your route, or cover the sedan chair with HongLing and move forward in the gunfire.
Weddings are also called "worship the church" and "worship the heaven and earth", and are presided over by deacons, who are dressed in formal clothes (hats and robes). From the beginning of welcoming the sedan chair, the "deacon" held a bucket filled with licorice (representing gold) and bran (representing silver), sang "Song of Forage", welcomed the bride out of the sedan chair with firecrackers, entered the palace, and ordered the groom to take off the bride's hijab, symbolizing the mutual recognition of the couple. On the table in front of the main hall, there are incense, candles, offerings and memorial tablets dedicated to "heaven, earth, monarch, relatives and teachers"; The red carpet on the floor is for the bride and groom to kowtow; In addition, six objects are not placed on the table: buckets, scales, rulers, scissors, and abacus (the "six cards" symbolizing the legendary "three media and six cards"), which means "fairness and rationality, clear mind as a mirror".
Attached is a song "Song of Forage" circulated in the middle of the Republic of China and a memorial ceremony for the church;
"Song of Forage" was sung by the deacon to welcome the sedan chair: "When the sedan chair arrived at the door, the host and guest stood on both sides, beating drums to welcome guests and setting off firecrackers to celebrate the family banquet. Lu' an Feng Ming is happy, Lantian is planted with beautiful jade, and it is auspicious to live in happiness. A good daughter is matched with a good husband. " The words of getting off the sedan chair (read by the deacon when the bride gets off the sedan chair): "One scatters gold, the other scatters silver, and the third scatters newcomers into the door". Entrance words: "The scenery of the drawing room is splendid, the colorful clouds are auspicious, the qingluan dance has been going on for thousands of years, and the husband and wife sing together." Worship in the class: "Looking for Taoyuan to avoid Qin, peach blossom is another spring, and fairy fish in Taoyuan chase after the flow, just wait to pay attention." One worships the sun, the moon, the stars, the eastern fire, the western gold, the northern water and the central Ujitu. Eight brothers (great-grandfather, great-grandfather, great-grandmother, grandfather, grandmother, father, mother, uncle, aunt, aunt, uncle, uncle, uncle, uncle, uncle, uncle, uncle. Xie Yi's words: "Farewell: taxi drivers, sedan chairs, women's helpers and disguised guests. Know yourself; Look at the guests, receive gifts and congratulate them on all sides; Mat shop, felt clip, human hole drill; Cutting vegetables, mixing noodles, burning pots for firewood and smashing charcoal; Pick onions, garlic, garlic, water and donkey meat noodles; Sweep the floor, see the hospital, pour water to wipe the case; Holding a baby, collecting eggs, buying cigarettes and drinking in the county; There are also people standing at the door and peeking from the window; Those who have nothing to do and come out for a walk; End plates and, picked up the steamed buns, specially called sit; Also, the dog's chin was hurt by the dung heap ... "Salute together. Goodbye and finish your work.
After the bride and groom say goodbye, they drink a glass of wine with each other, which is called a "toast". The aunt sings: "The bride sees the basin and the horses and mules flock together". People specially put a porcelain basin on the pot, and my aunt sang, "The bride sees the basin. Mules and horses are in groups. " Let the bride stir the iron spoon in the pot, and the aunt will sing "The more the bride stirs the pot, the more it stirs." Someone threw a pair of chopsticks into the pot, and my aunt sang, "Next year, the bride will hug the prince when she sees chopsticks." Onlookers threw a porcelain tile into the new house, and the aunt sang, "There are porcelain tiles in the bridal chamber, and a baby will be born next year." Someone put a wooden pier on the four corners of the kang, and my aunt sang, "Put the pier on the pothole and have grandchildren the year after next." Some people put four kinds of dried fruits in the four corners of the kang: walnuts (harmonious bald head), red dates (see red happiness) and peanuts and chestnuts (meaning peanuts). When the spectators scrambled for food, the aunt sang: "Seven walnuts and eight dates are even more obscene than women. The wife eats walnuts and dates, and the couple never get bored." When the bride enters the bridal chamber, young men will ask the bride for a red seal (a coin wrapped in red paper) in the name of hanging door curtains and curtains, saying that they can see a nail seal as a joke. When holding a banquet, the person who carries the plate deliberately doesn't take chopsticks and asks the bride for a seal. Hide hip flask, teacups, dishes, etc. and even take them home when the female guests at home are not paying attention. When a son-in-law goes to his father-in-law's house for dinner, he will exchange handkerchiefs, sweets and other gifts. This is a joke, and people think it's funny.
It's called "hospitality", also called "sitting". Usually two meals, sir: one plate with nine bowls (four cold dishes and five hot dishes) and steamed buns. The second meal begins with drinking, with four or six dishes on the plate, while drinking, and then another dish with steamed bread after drinking. Tea is served before and after meals. The seats on the dining table can be divided into generations and generations, that is, the distinguished guests at home give up to the top seats (such as in-laws, uncles, aunts, etc.). During the dinner, the bride and groom will toast the guests one by one, and the main relatives will return a gift after receiving the wine. This gift is called "recognizing relatives" and that gift is called "meeting gifts". Guessing boxing is also a kind of enjoyment among banquet guests.
Playing with the house is also called "playing with the daughter-in-law" and "disturbing the new house". Three nights after marriage, people played house together, with rich and colorful contents, including singing songs (solve riddles on the lanterns), tongue twisters, singing, kissing, eating sweets, picking cherries and giving pillows to Yuanyang. The programs are all interesting, but there are also some unhealthy contents, such as putting a small gun in a cigarette, and the gun was scared when the bride lit a cigarette. Some teas contain Chili noodles or mustard powder, and the bride coughs when she drinks them. In addition, there are often some uncivilized programs with low taste.
The next morning after marriage, the bride's family and main relatives will deliver meals to their daughters. Jiaozi, noodles, a plate. It means that daughters should not expect their parents' kindness, but their husband's family should entertain guests.
On the third day after marriage (if every single day is postponed, it means double happiness), the guests will take a couple to Shiluo to move the woman to a banquet called Huimen, also called "please son-in-law". The Zhang Yue family will host a banquet, the son-in-law will kowtow to the elders of the Zhang Yue family, and the recipient will return a gift to show his recognition. On the day of returning home, people in the courtyard of the women's village will play with their son-in-law, who must be very kind and have a good mouth, and sometimes give red seals to pranksters and so on. I didn't go home until it was hey.
< Gift > is also called salute. When getting married, relatives should salute. My uncle, aunt, and adoptive father will all give a heavy gift-steam a pair of flowers of tiger's head and put HongLing on the groom. My uncle will buy a first-class lamp and a washbasin, and other relatives will decide the weight of the gift according to the distance. Although distant relatives don't have to steam tigers, they also have to pay tribute in cash. It's called "dry ceremony" When the son of a respected person gets married, many villagers sign how to "celebrate" (also called "stripes", which are made of red silk and satin) and write down congratulatory couplets, such as "natural marriage" and "magpie sedan chair". The host congratulates the villagers and holds a reception.
The engagement amount depends on your family's financial situation. 1000 1. 6600。 9999。 There are 2-65438+ ten thousand!