Sexual life is an effective way to maintain the relationship between husband and wife. However, due to the pressure of work and life, many couples often ignore sex life in their lives. I don't know that long-term non-sexual life of husband and wife will not only lead to low quality of sexual life, but the following are the disadvantages of husband and wife's sexual life.
The harm of asexual marriage between husband and wife 1 1, and the quality of sexual life is low.
If there is no sexual life between husband and wife for a long time, the body will lack spirituality and sensitivity because of lack of sexual stimulation, which will lead to the estrangement between husband and wife and the tacit cooperation in sexual life, which will greatly reduce the quality of husband and wife's sexual life.
2, the body is slow
Because there is no stimulation and lubrication of sexual life for a long time, both husband and wife's bodies will gradually become dull, and even if they want to have sex at a certain moment, they will not reach the ideal sexual intercourse state because of dullness.
3. Destroy the affection between husband and wife
Long-term sexual inactivity will greatly damage the relationship between husband and wife, and may also lead to a long-term breakdown of the relationship between husband and wife.
4. Feelings are strange
Because there is no sexual life for a long time, both husband and wife will form a life state of mutual respect and respect. Many couples give people a feeling of elegance, restraint and respect for each other. In fact, the establishment of this kind of marriage atmosphere usually indicates that their sexual life has problems.
To sum up, I believe all couples know what are the hazards of long-term asexuality after reading it. In addition to the above four hazards, long-term sexual inactivity will also affect the health of both men and women. This is because long-term abstinence will cause local congestion and swelling.
When it is serious, it will cause inflammation and then damage your health. Therefore, I hope that everyone can pay attention to sex life and arrange sex life reasonably. Only regular sexual life can effectively safeguard one's own health and the feelings between husband and wife, which is also very helpful to reduce the occurrence of various adverse consequences. I hope couples can attach great importance to it.
The harm of asexual marriage between husband and wife is 2 1, causing various physical and mental diseases.
Make her full of resentment and lose control of her emotions. In her own words, she is "extremely irritable and easily loses her temper." In fact, some women tortured by asexual marriage are not only troubled by negative emotions such as anxiety and depression, but also prone to insomnia, loss of appetite, premature aging of sexual organs and hormonal instability, which in turn leads to various physical and mental diseases.
2, seriously affect the relationship between husband and wife.
Sex is the most exciting and core content in marriage, and it is the lubricant of harmonious relationship between husband and wife. The normal sexual needs of the broken wing are not met, and the husband has no reasonable explanation. She vented her anger by "calling him impotent and telling both families about it", which not only damaged her husband's face and feelings, but also made the relationship between husband and wife more tense and fell into a vicious circle.
3. Affect the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
Because of the "inner grievance" of asexual marriage, negative emotions were angered and passed on to her mother-in-law. "When there was a conflict with his mother, he chose to be tough and never gave in." In the end, it was incompatible with her mother-in-law, which made her a promoter of divorce and an insurmountable obstacle when she wanted to remarry.
4. Threatening family and social stability.
Asexual marriage directly leads to the decline of happiness index of husband and wife, which indirectly threatens the stability of family and society. It can be said that no sexual life is a silent harm to life.
Harm of asexual marriage between husband and wife 3 How to refuse asexual marriage
1, kind.
Have you ever misunderstood your partner's goodness? If so, then don't do it again. Husband and wife must interpret the other half in the most friendly way, not judge it from the most despicable angle. Looking at each other's behavior from another angle can improve the marriage relationship.
2. Don't make any negative comments.
How many days in a month can you do without saying anything or doing anything that hurts your partner? Experts suggest that both husband and wife may wish to try the challenge of "zero negative evaluation", try not to make negative comments on the other half, and don't be cynical, because irony will devour intimacy.
3. Exercise together and sweat.
Exercise can not only improve endurance, physical strength and flexibility, but also bring dopamine and enhance sexual desire.
4. ignore her shortcomings.
Douglas, a psychologist in Washington, USA, said: "Learn to ignore the shortcomings of your wife that make you bored or unhappy. Responding to her best personality will make her best side more prominent. "
5. Leave the child 15 minutes.
Dr. William Dougherty, a professor of family social science at the University of Minnesota in the United States, said that it may only take 15 minutes for couples to strengthen their emotional connection without interference and add passion to their lives. Families with children may wish to leave their children 15 minutes and enjoy the two-person world.
6. Try to change "I" to "we".
Dr Gary, a psychologist at monmouth University, said that the more partners you meet, the more perfect your marriage will be. After two people get married, they should talk more about "we" and less about "I", think more about the whole family and less about themselves.
7. Respond positively to your partner's good news.
If the wife takes on new job responsibilities, how should the husband respond? No answer: "Yes. What's for dinner? " Destructive response: "Do I have less time left?" Respond positively and constructively: "Wow, let's celebrate!" Dr Shirley Gable, a psychologist at the University of California, Santa Barbara, said that a positive response will convince your wife that you will still support her when she tells you bad news, while a negative response will only disappoint people.
8. Learn to listen.
Dr. Shri Cohen, an American marriage therapist and Harvard University teacher, said: "Men are used to solving problems and protecting their beloved women. But when the wife really wants to listen, it will be counterproductive. " She suggested that when a partner wants to talk or complain, he might as well listen quietly, without putting forward a solution immediately, and make suggestions at another time.
9, often watch movies together.
Dr. Rogge, a professor at the University of Rochester in the United States, conducted a three-year follow-up study of 174 couples, and found that watching movies about married life once a week and then communicating with them can reduce the divorce rate by half.
10, stop hurting each other.
Psychologists have coined the term "marital normalization abuse" to describe the various ways in which couples consciously hurt each other. Stop intentional injury in time, and the other party will "like you, want to have sex with you, and hope you are good."