Personality is a complex structural system, which includes many components, including temperament, personality, cognitive style, self-regulation and so on. Self-regulation is an internal control system in personality, which has three subsystems: self-cognition, self-experience and self-control.
Freud's "Three Ones" Structure of Personality
Freud divided the personality structure into three levels: id, ego and superego.
1, ID: Located at the bottom of personality structure, it is an energy system composed of innate instinct and desire, including various physiological needs. Id is unconscious and irrational. Follow the happy principle.
2. Ego: located in the middle layer of personality structure, it is different from ID, and its function is to adjust the contradiction between ID and superego. Follow the principle of reality.
3. superego: located at the highest level of personality structure. This is a moral self. Its function is: to suppress the impulse of the id; Monitor yourself; Pursuing perfection. Follow moral principles
1. Realistic attitude
A mentally sound adult will face the reality, whether it is pleasant for him or not. For example, he may like driving.
When driving, he realized that he would encounter various dangers when driving, so he often checked the brakes, tires, lights and other parts. first
An unrealistic person may think, "I will never have an accident." Thus ignoring any preventive measures. Or he might.
People belonging to another type, who check their brakes during the day and lose sleep at night, are always worried that something will happen to them.
2. Independence and self-reliance
A sane person is rational and steady, and listens to reasonable advice properly. He can make a decision when necessary.
And is willing to bear the possible consequences of its decision. And an immature person, often when things happen, it is difficult to make up his mind. He hopes
Others (such as relatives, friends, colleagues, etc. ) to point out how he should act. When he has to make decisions for himself, he may change.
Impatience, fear Many immature people refuse to take responsibility for their own decisions and pass the buck when they make mistakes.
Ren, complaining about others; When they get grades, they often ask for praise excessively.
3. The ability to love others
A mature and healthy person can get pleasure from loving his spouse, children, relatives and friends. On the contrary, people don't
Mature people are stingy when they love others, but they often expect a lot of love from others. They always want people to take care of themselves and hope they are.
The center of people's attention. This kind of psychology is understandable for children, but if it is still like this in adulthood, it will be difficult for him to communicate with others.
Establish normal relations.
4. Depend on others appropriately
A mature person can not only love others, but also accept love. A reasonable relationship in marriage should be that both parties can fall in love.
Give and receive the happiness brought by love. Sharing, giving and receiving love and friendship is a person's flexibility and adaptability.
Strong and mature performance.
5. Be able to control your anger.
It is natural that any normal and healthy person gets angry sometimes. But he can grasp the discretion and not lose his mind. He will.
For some long-term benefits, we don't care about the trivial things in front of us. He may lose his temper sometimes, but never because
I flew into a rage when I didn't buy what I wanted in the shop.
6. Have a long-term plan
A person with a sound personality will give up immediate interests for long-term interests, even if the immediate interests are attractive. For example,
When a mature student reviews before the exam, he will refuse all social activities and sacrifice his own vital interests in order to go all out to take the exam.
Have fun socializing after the exam. Another example is a pair of mature lovers, in order to complete their studies or other reasons.
If necessary, they will postpone the wedding for the time being. Even if they love each other very much, they will not rush to attend because they think they will postpone it for the time being.
Letting go may bring greater and longer-term happiness.
7. Be good at rest
A normal and healthy person needs and is good at enjoying leisure and rest while doing his job well. On the contrary, I am not in a good mood.
Stable people feel forced to do something and rarely enjoy happiness from work and leisure time; I still think about this problem on weekends and in my spare time.
How can things be done better, so he often doesn't get enough rest. A mature person is calm and relaxed at rest.
Loose, so energetic at work, but he does not see doing these things as more labor, but as a hobby and pastime.
8. Be careful when changing jobs.
People with mental health often like their jobs and will not change their minds. When he really wants to change jobs, there must be a reason.
After careful consideration, he won't change his job because of trivial matters, such as difficulties in getting along with individual bosses or colleagues.
9. Love and tolerance for children
A healthy adult loves children and is willing to take the time to understand their special requirements. No matter how busy he is, he can almost always
Take a few minutes to play with a three-year-old child or answer questions from an older child. What he gave the children.
Love is greater than what children can return.
Tolerance and understanding of others
For a person with a sound personality, this tolerance is not only for people of different sexes, but also for race, nationality and
People from different cultural backgrounds.
1 1. Keep learning and cultivate interest.
Increasing knowledge and cultivating interests extensively are the characteristics of healthy human nature. With this function, a person can
Take your time in this world. His wisdom and understanding of life should be constantly growing, and he will not be indifferent.
Frustrated by ignorance. It can be said that few people are completely healthy and mature in character, but these qualities are what we should pay attention to.
Intended to cultivate.