Comparing with others is the psychology that most of us have. Simply put, others have it and they want it. Individuals who usually have the psychology of keeping up with the joneses are very similar to those who are selected as reference, which leads to exaggerated needs for respect, enhanced vanity motivation, and even extreme psychological obstacles and behaviors. Serious comparison often leads to extreme psychology of blindly climbing higher than one's own actual situation.
For example, the comparison of material life, work and study, the comparison of requirements for the other half and so on. The long-term existence of this negative emotional process will have a great impact on people's body, mind and life.
Why do people have the psychology of keeping up with the joneses?
In fact, everyone will have a psychology of comparison and comparison, especially when they see their own state and compare with others, they will find that their life is far worse than others. From the perspective of mental health, such blind comparison will only reduce happiness. Alexander, a psychologist at Stanford University, found that most people often can't see the "bad" of others, so they always feel inferior to others.
Everyone yearns for beauty and pursues perfection. Of course, I hope my children, husband and wife are no worse than others. Therefore, sometimes it is inevitable to seek perfection and blame, hoping to urge people around us to move closer to "perfection." Everyone has worldly desires, and it is normal to be jealous occasionally. But if this is always the case, over time, it is easy to go into a misunderstanding, which is what psychology calls "psychological blindness." At this time, you will always remember and judge the people and things around you selectively, just like wearing colored glasses. Finally, I became fond of comparing with others, competing with others, and thinking the worst of everything; Turn a blind eye to the advantages of people around you and turn a blind eye to the gains in life.
In addition, the heart of comparison will also appear because of the ambiguity of values. When your values are clear and you have clear evaluation criteria, you can evaluate, attitude and reflect on things according to your own evaluation criteria. In other words, people who know what they want and what their goals are are not satisfied. Such people focus on their own lives. Without clear values and clear evaluation criteria, we need to look outward. By comparing with others, we can make an evaluation, an attitude and a reflection. In other words, I don't know what I want, what my goal is, I'm not satisfied, and I need to stare at others all day. It's like shopping. If you know nothing about a thing and don't know which is good or bad after reading it, you need to shop around and distinguish between good and bad. There is a saying that you are not afraid of not knowing the goods, and you are afraid to shop around. That's the truth.
Classification of comparative psychology
Positive comparison
Positive comparison refers to positive comparison, which is a legitimate competition driven by rational consciousness, and can often trigger an individual's positive desire for competition and generate motivation to overcome difficulties.
Negative comparison
Negative comparison refers to those negative comparisons accompanied by emotional and psychological obstacles, which will make individuals fall into a dead corner of thinking and produce great mental pressure and extreme self-affirmation or negation. The biggest problem of passive comparison lies in the lack of rational analysis of oneself and the surrounding environment. It is not good for people to indulge in comparison blindly.