Generally, if there is a contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, neither of them will live together, or rarely meet each other. In serious cases, there may be arguments and differences on the issue of child support.
If a child lives with his grandmother for a long time, but lacks the companionship and care of his mother, he will often feel anxious or depressed when he is young. In addition, when he often sees his peers with his mother, he will wonder, "Why do other children have their mothers to pick them up after school, but I don't?" . With the growth of children's age, they will even gradually realize that they have been "abandoned" by their mothers, which will lead them to complain and alienate their mothers, and even treat their mothers critically, thus making the feelings between mother and child or mother and daughter indifferent.
If children seldom get along with grandma, they will not feel grandma's affection when they are young, and they will also lack feelings for grandma when they grow up. Therefore, if the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not good, and one of them gets along with the children too much, it may make the children indifferent to the family.
Injury 2: the "mother-in-law-daughter relationship" is not good, which is not conducive to children to establish a good family concept;
If the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not good, there will inevitably be daily quarrels. But children's education is ultimately the words and deeds of family members, so the words and deeds of family members will have a subtle influence on children.
Many people will say, "Eh, children are too young to know anything", but the reality is often the opposite. Children are often the most sensitive. You think he doesn't understand, but in fact he can feel everything.
If mother and grandmother often quarrel, it will make children feel the tension of family atmosphere. Children live in an unfriendly, disharmonious and fragile family since childhood. The disharmony between mother and grandmother will make children feel that it will be very hard to stay in this family, which will make them fear and resist the family. Naturally, children are not so concerned and filial to their elders, and have a vague concept of family and no family feelings.
Injury 3: The "mother-in-law-daughter relationship" is not good, which will also affect the formation of children's sound personality.
The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is one of the important factors for the success of children's family education.
If mother-in-law and daughter-in-law live in harmony, then children will receive more than two kinds of care and consideration. In addition, children have a strong ability to learn to imitate, and mothers are also very respectful, considerate and filial to their grandmothers. Children will respect their parents and elders, be considerate, be filial and be grateful.
And grandma's concern and understanding of her mother will also let her children know how to get along with people younger than themselves and how to take care of and forgive others.
On the other hand, if the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not harmonious, then the child may have a heavy psychological burden and pressure, and may look at everything with hatred. Over time, it will form an unhealthy or even dark psychology, transfer the unhappiness in your heart to others, and even have dangerous thoughts and behaviors to retaliate against society.
Therefore, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law plays an important role in the formation of children's sound personality.