People often say: children are the shadows of parents, and parents are the mirrors of children. It can be seen that family education is very important for a child's healthy growth. The following is what I learned from the open class of family education. I hope you like it!
Parents are children's first teachers, and good family education is of vital significance to children's growth, even determining their development direction and affecting their life. Family education is to gradually cultivate children's good habits, especially those that help self-education. The dissemination and transmission of knowledge mainly depends on books, and the cultivation of habits mainly depends on parents and teachers. Let me talk about my educational experience, mainly from the following aspects to cultivate children.
First, create a harmonious and democratic family atmosphere for children.
In family education, while educating children to respect their parents and others, parents should also respect their children and treat them as independent individuals. When talking with children, we should fully respect and understand them, be good at observing their needs from their standpoint, have a childlike heart to communicate with their parents, and reason with them no matter how big their mistakes are, instead of oppressing others for generations with our paternalistic style. Parents are both educators and friends of children. Emotional integration with children can make children happy to be close, feel that they are a member of the family and are loved and valued by their families. This relaxed and harmonious family environment can make children lively and active and develop actively. It is very important for family members to live in harmony, especially for husband and wife to respect, love, understand and make concessions. Parents' words and deeds have a subtle influence on their children. Even if there are contradictions between parents, both sides should be calm and reasonable, and handle them properly, instead of making a scene in front of the children. Let children live in a stable, happy and harmonious environment, and children will be greatly influenced, learn to appreciate others and get along well with classmates.
Second, words and deeds influence children subtly.
What we ask our children to do is to do it first, try to give them the best influence, and let them develop good living habits and study habits. If children are required to be hygienic, they love learning. Then we must do it first. At the same time, as long as the child does well, we should not be stingy with his praise. Bad habits are slowly corrected, and good behavior habits are gradually formed. The year before my children went to primary school, I began to pay attention to the cultivation of children's study habits. At that time, I saw that many children were literate and could study independently. I am in a hurry, too. I searched the internet for information and went to a literacy audition class. Later, under the recommendation of my friends, I bought some famous Chinese classics, such as San Zi Jing, Di Zi Gui, Hundred Family Names, Poetry Enlightenment and so on, and read them with my children at home. When I first started reading, the three-character classics were catchy and enthusiastic. After a week or two, no matter how encouraged, the children didn't want to read any more. They felt bored. I readjusted my strategy, persisted for a few days, and stopped reading. I can't help it He doesn't read. I am determined to follow the tape and infect him with my own actions. The TV and computer at home are all turned off, only the sound of me reading. He plays with his toys, and I read books. Occasionally, he will come to see what I am reading and where I have read. Start reading with me slowly. We set an example by ourselves and do nothing. Children are influenced by adults and naturally form habits. He thinks they must do it every day. Good habits are formed in the subtle influence of adults. Literacy has also improved during this year, so that after school, I took up all the time because of my great literacy and became the teacher's little assistant.
Third, cultivate children's independent ability.
You can't ignore it, let alone care about it. Since children are born very young and are still in an independent embryonic stage, they cannot be restrained too much. In fact, there are many things in life that children can do by themselves, but they don't do it because there are people around them who can rely on them. Let children know that life is their own business, and they should face it themselves. It is common for children to fall, and many parents will help them sadly. But I never do that. I just looked at him encouragingly, hoping that he could get up by himself. In learning, when encountering some problems, children always hope that their parents can help him. In general, I only tell him what to do, such as looking up the dictionary and looking for information. If he still asks for help, I will tell him, "This is your own business, and I believe you can solve it." Slowly, the child learned his own way to solve the problem, without inertia, relying on adults to help him solve the problem. But I'm not saying let it go. We have a habit now. Every day, after the trusteeship class finishes its homework, we go home and take out our homework books and tell me the homework from the beginning. At the same time, he will review today's content again, and I can also find out the problems existing in the children's study, and then I will sign the homework notebook. There will be a small reward for writing well, and a big reward for accumulating more. At the same time, he also understands that if you want to get what you want, you must rely on your own labor and efforts to get it. The enthusiasm for learning has naturally improved.
No matter how small a child is, it is also an individual. Growth and independence are the only way in his life. Step by step, we hope that he will become independent and have the ability to adapt to this society as soon as possible. In the process of accompanying children to grow up, we also need to keep learning, improve our own quality and grow up with children.
The definition of unloving behavior may be known literally. No one wants to have this kind of behavior, but it is really difficult to really avoid this kind of behavior in family education, especially for parents now.
When children go to kindergarten, when parents come to see their children off every morning, what they say most to teachers is to ask teachers to pay more attention to their children's literacy, learn pinyin, practice addition and subtraction, and so on. Or some parents euphemistically told the teacher: "My neighbor's children can add and subtract within 50 or 100 when they attend a large class." "My relatives' children can read stories with pinyin." "I heard in the street yesterday that a child can read many Chinese characters. Didn't you say that teachers should teach children what they should learn in primary school? Isn't the child's health more worthy of your account? Don't you need to pay more attention to children's happiness? Do you want a healthy child or a child with high IQ and low ability? Kindergarten children learn the content of primary schools, so what should primary school children do?
Parents nowadays feel that social competition is too great. If children don't stand out from the crowd, it will be difficult for them to gain a foothold in society. If you want to stand out, you have to start education at an early age, so they all hold the mentality that they can't let their children lose at the starting line, and have been pushing their children to learn, learn, learn, and urge teachers to keep teaching, teaching and teaching. Some parents also think that children must develop in an all-round way or keep up with the competition. In order to earn face for themselves, kindergarten children are allowed to participate in various remedial classes, interest classes and extra-long classes.
Parents, what do you think is the essence of this behavior of love? This is an unloving act, that is, forcing one's own children and destroying one's own children. Others can understand your love for children, and others can't stop your love for children, but please pay attention to whether your love is reasonable and appropriate. How many childhoods did you have? Do you want your child's childhood to be full of helplessness and sadness? Besides, what did you get from these persecutions? Maybe there will be a moment when you can show off your children's piano playing ability in front of others, and they will get 300 Tang poems and many Chinese characters. However, have you noticed the complicated expressions of children every day? Have you noticed the changes since the children entered primary school? Have you noticed the socialization development of children? Have you noticed how the children feel about you? Do you feel the change of parent-child relationship?
Dear parents, your heart can understand, but you can never accept this unloving behavior. Please follow the law of children's growth and development, educate them step by step, guide them in life and games, let them do it themselves, use their brains, actively explore, study happily, grow healthily and develop in an all-round and balanced way!
I am a parent of Class 1, Grade 1, and I am very grateful to the school for giving me this opportunity to communicate with you. Here are some of my superficial methods of educating children:
1, pay attention to the consistency of family education.
Suhomlinski, an educator in the former Soviet Union, once said: "The two educators, the school and the family, should not only act in unison and put forward the same requirements for their children, but also have the same interests and beliefs, always proceed from the same principles, and there must be no differences in the purpose, process or means of education." Therefore, we must pay attention to the consistency of family education when educating children. For example, schools require children to wear school uniforms. When we come to school without snacks and toys, we must cooperate closely with the school to let the children know that parents support the school work, and the teacher's words are beyond doubt. If you don't know anything about school education, you must remember not to talk and complain in front of your children, so as not to cause them to distrust school education.
2. Pay attention to "diligence"
Always look through children's textbooks and check their homework; Communicate with children more (children are growing up, recommend more good things you see, tell them what happened around you, let them feel your wisdom and attitude towards life, and let them have no sense of distance from you); Always observe the changes of children's language and behavior (such as who has interacted most recently and who knows his friends); Keep in touch. Call the teacher regularly to learn about the children's study at school and give feedback on their performance at home.
3. Cultivate children's sense of responsibility
(1) Keep homework on time;
② Finish the homework on time;
(3) Remind parents to fulfill their obligations, dictation, reading and signing on time;
(4) Correcting mistakes in homework on time;
⑤ Prepare all kinds of stationery for study on time, such as exercise books, pens, erasers, and handmade materials, and check and organize school bags;
6. Bring a red scarf every day.
⑦ Do some housework within your power, such as putting dirty clothes on the washing machine, washing dishes and chopsticks, cleaning the table, taking out the garbage and taking newspapers;
When a child is in school, his parents should teach him to be a dutiful student and a conscientious class cadre.
Parents can refer to the text message sent by the teacher or call the teacher in person when the child is not fully prepared, and urge the child to do well, complete his task seriously and implement his homework. Children should be praised and encouraged in time when they do it. If necessary, use the child's pocket money to reward.
4. Emphasize persuasion education.
Usually guide children to read some books suitable for children, such as good habits, good quality, first aid, excellent fairy tales and so on. When encountering problems, think from the child's point of view, compare stories and truths, and let children understand why they can't do this and what should they do? Why are you doing this?
5. Pay attention to parents' words and deeds and set an example.
Whether parents are tall or not in children's minds is directly proportional to the educational effect. Because we love reading very much, our son likes the books we bought for him imperceptibly. He asks every word and studies it. At present, he knows many words. Now I am typing this article on the computer and he is reading it. If he doesn't understand, he will ask. This feeling is very good. For example, if you keep your word, correct it if you know it is wrong. Don't make a scene in front of the children and engage in confrontation. Qi Xin should work together to show their respective advantages and set an example for the children.
6. Pay attention to creating a learning atmosphere.
Children's books are concentrated on the bookshelf for children to browse; Homework should be done in the designated place, and parents should accompany them to study. On the one hand, we should help children explain some words, on the other hand, we should concentrate on demonstrating our study time and not interrupt casually. Study and play should not be mixed together. I don't usually watch TV. If I watch it, I also watch programs suitable for children, such as children's channels or scientific exploration. For work reasons, I sometimes prepare lessons and write lesson plans at home, or read an encyclopedia to learn about health care knowledge and apply it to relatives to create useful theories for children.
7. Pay attention to children's "education"
Children usually like to read hundreds of thousands of popular science books such as The Mystery of Life and The Mystery of the Universe, and often ask us some strange questions from time to time. When we know, we will answer them positively, and sometimes we will humbly ask him, can you tell us? Mom and dad also want to know why. At this time, the child will say "Haha, you don't know"? Then he will be happy to tell us what he just read in the book, and we will give a thumbs-up and praise the child for being great! The child's face will raise a very fulfilling smile. The child knows that you are really interested in his small achievements, and he will work harder to win your praise next time. When we accidentally run a red light and throw away the rubbish in our hands, the children will also educate us with the teacher's tone. We will take it seriously. Apologizing means that we must correct it. At this time, children are our parents' teachers. We attach importance to children's "education" and children will attach importance to our education.
The above is just a family opinion. If there is anything wrong, please criticize and correct it from teachers and parents. thank you
Qian Zhongshu once wrote a book Fortress Besieged. He warned us that marriage is like a besieged city. People in the city want to escape, and people outside the city want to rush in. Once you escape, you will find that the city is closed and no longer open to you! No, my friend almost ran away the other day. Only under the persuasion of three or five relatives did I make a rational decision-this saved the originally happy family!
The reason for the emotional crisis between us is that alcohol is at work, drinking too much to vent on the TV at home, the TV suffers, and the husband and wife turn against each other. Then there was the cold war, divorce. They took it out on them, and it was their relatives who suffered. I went all the way to talk, and my relatives were worried about not talking. Everyone is also involved in each other's negative energy, and it is inevitable to break up with each other on impulse. Being attacked by emotional garbage is as uncomfortable as encountering poop on the road. For a long time, the stench and ugliness always lingered. Confucius' evaluation of his student Yan Hui is "Never get angry and never fail". People who reach this state are saints, and it is never easy to really achieve it. They need to constantly improve their personality, restrain negative emotions and realize the harm of losing their temper! Lighter, damaged goods, broken marriage, difficult to protect the family! Many people divorce because they can't tolerate each other's temper. The famous cat-kicking effect warns everyone that the mood of the day, the performance of work and whether things go smoothly depend on the ability to manage emotions in the morning.
A person's ability to control emotions determines your social circle. (cultured people don't choose people who love to lose their temper and complain) decide your family happiness index and children's education (your cultivation is children's education), and decide the peak of your career (good character cultivation will bring you wealth and business opportunities). Take self-cultivation as a compulsory course in life! More rational, more calm; More tolerance will broaden your horizons!
Many people encounter unsatisfactory things, and pets, children, wives, husbands and even colleagues at home have become ta's punching bag. It leads to the intensification of family conflicts, children trembling with fear, feeling unstable, losing their sense of security and belonging to the family. There is such an article on the internet that "no matter who wins the quarrel, the children will lose in the end"! If you want to build a harmonious and warm family, you must start by controlling each other's emotions! Let the family be full of songs and laughter, turn the family into a castle of love, and let the children grow up surrounded by love!
Good afternoon, teachers and parents. I am very happy to share my experience with you here. My daughter Wu _ _ is 7 years old this year. She is conscious and has good study habits. In life, she is hard and simple, loves labor and is full of love. Since kindergarten, she is more sensible and often brings us warmth, emotion and surprise. After entering primary school, with the careful education and training of teachers, we feel that she has made great progress and quickly adapted to school life. I want to take this opportunity to thank the head teacher, especially Mr. Wang and all the other teachers. Thank you for your hard work and endless love for your children.
Children are the future of the motherland and the hope of the family. Today's seedlings are tomorrow's towering trees, so every parent will care and guide their children with love and responsibility during their growth. However, although every parent wants to have a successful child, not all parents can get it. Family education is actually a science, which needs us to experience constantly in practice and improve our education level. I have just listened to Professor Chen's class, and I feel that I have gained a lot. The teachers here are also experts in education. Your educational theory and practice are much richer and more vivid than mine. I know that I am also a pupil in children's education, but I would like to talk about my feelings about children's education in front of experts, hoping to get everyone's criticism and correction.
First, create a warm environment.
(1) Realizing the knowledge of education. Although her father and I are very busy at work, we both attach great importance to education. We bought or borrowed books about education together and exchanged ideas about education together. When there are differences in education, you can sit down and talk frankly until a consensus is reached, so that you can have a more consistent view of your child's words and deeds and have similar solutions to her shortcomings, instead of telling her this today and telling her tomorrow, leaving her at a loss.
(2) Create a learning atmosphere. It is a truth that knowledge changes fate. It's all mine until I learn. In my home, we can often see such a scene: parents and children are reading and studying under the lamp. When my daughter was very young, she used to hold a book when she saw us studying. When she was young, she pestered me to read to her. Later, I encouraged her to read by herself. Slowly, her reading habits formed and she knew more and more words. Because I often ask her to read some essays, she sometimes writes some small poems, which are full of childlike interest. Her father and I will carefully help her collect, and sometimes we will calm down and review her small articles with her, which is a pleasure for both of us. Now every day after lunch, she will sit there quietly and read books that interest her.
Second, cultivate good habits.
There is a saying: behavior cultivates habits, habits form character, and character determines fate. However, it is impossible to cultivate children's habits through simple criticism or reprimand. We must start with children's behavior and guide them to put their determination into action.
(1) Encourage less talk and more action. Always educate children to use fantasy and empty talk in practical matters, and tell her that one action is worth more than a dozen plans, and the value of one action is better than a hundred slogans and a thousand resolutions.
(2) Pay attention to step by step. For example, to cultivate children's habit of memorizing words, you can only ask for 2~3 words at first, and gradually increase the amount after the habit is formed. My daughter began to learn piano when she was four years old. I stayed with her for the first two years, but her work became more and more busy and she often couldn't stay with her, so she slowly relaxed her study. I think we must train her to learn the piano independently, otherwise she is likely to give up halfway. I communicated with her and the piano teacher the idea of reading music and practicing piano independently. At first, it was conceivable that the quality of the resumption of classes was very poor, either the rhythm was wrong or the music was wrong, but I didn't panic. She is willing to practice the piano by herself, which is a great progress. My piano teacher and I constantly encouraged her to consciously slow down the teaching speed and let her gradually adapt to her piano. After half a year, we raised the speed of education to the original level. Since then, she has made great progress. When she is upset, she will play the piano to relax and relieve her mood. I occasionally stand beside her and listen to her practice, but I have listened to the piano with appreciation, so don't worry about not having time to practice. Now I began to mobilize her to keep a diary. I don't ask her to write every day, but tell her to write down what she is interested in every day, no matter how long. She insists on this very much.
Third, be diligent in communication and encourage more.
(1) communicate on an equal footing. No parents don't love their children, and no children will refuse their parents' broad-minded and passionate love. When my daughter was in a big kindergarten class and was a little sensible, I said to her, "You are equal to your mother. I won't scold you, let alone hit you, but you must tell your mother everything you are happy or wronged. This is equivalent to your mother growing up with you again, and I will be very happy! " Indeed, I enjoyed talking to her. I will tell her what I think of things in a way that she can understand as much as possible. All-round communication with her has brought our feelings closer, and she is also very willing to listen to me and our views.
(2) Sincere encouragement. I am convinced that if you give your child more appreciation, be good at discovering her unique strengths and advantages, watch her make a little progress, encourage her, guide her patiently, and support her with words and practical actions, your child will develop her own advantages. Especially when children encounter difficulties, don't simply scold or dig, but patiently enlighten and actively provide solutions to problems. I remember one night, before I went home with her father, she called her father and revealed that she was depressed and seemed to have something on her mind. When we got home, we patiently asked what had happened. It turns out that she didn't do well in the math exam today, only got 92.5 points. She looked at me and tears were about to fall. She said that after Teacher Zhu handed it out, she couldn't believe it was her own achievement. On the one hand, I am glad that my daughter has a strong self-motivation. On the other hand, I have read the paper carefully and summed up the reasons for the low score with her, not only because of carelessness, but also because she didn't understand the meaning of the question. She agreed with me and then explained her misunderstanding. Finally, I told her that grades don't mean everything. The most important thing is to deeply understand the meaning of the problem and the method to solve it. An exam is a test. Problems are always exposed in advance. Only when problems are discovered and corrected can people make continuous progress. I brought her back to happiness and liveliness in a relaxed tone. Afterwards, she told me seriously that failure is the mother of success. I think if I criticized her severely with a frown at that time, it might make her more sad, and I would doubt myself for a while.