In our class group, the relationship between classmates is mostly pure. However, in the communication with others, because everyone's attitude towards life, interests, hobbies and so on are different. Students' lifestyles and ways of thinking in judging problems are often different. Therefore, we will face many difficulties in life, and the communication between classmates is also prone to contradictions and conflicts, which will bring troubles to our body and mind, thus affecting our study and life. Some time ago, I encountered such a problem:
Xiaoli and I are deskmates and good friends. One weekend afternoon, I was doing my homework at home and Xiaoli came to play with me. I said no, I have a lot of homework to do. But Xiaoli keeps urging me. I didn't want to go, but I had to go because of my feelings. As a result, we came home late and couldn't write our homework. I have been complaining about Xiaoli. Xiaoli said, "I'm not afraid. When the teacher asks you tomorrow, you can say that you forgot your home. If you study so well, he won't doubt it, and then take time to take someone else's share. " As a result, I passed the test that time.
Many times in the future, homework is to deal with. I didn't write my homework well, and I was no longer so attentive in class. Maybe it's because I got good grades. The teacher didn't find my problem once. While I am thankful again and again, my psychological anxiety and fear are increasing day by day, my temper is getting worse day by day, and there are more and more contradictions with Xiaoli. ...
This situation didn't last long and was finally exposed. In that math exam, there were more than 20 students in the whole class 100, and I, a top math student, only got 86 points. Faced with this score, I am depressed, annoyed and want to go crazy. The eyes of several classmates looking at me are obviously full of schadenfreude, and I want to go crazy even more. Xiaoli saw me and advised me to say, "What is this? Go, let's go down and have a look. " "It's all your fault!" I couldn't help but burst out, and then we kept arguing until the teacher came.
Through the criticism and education of the class teacher, I understood the problem: Xiaoli asked me to go out to play, and I should tell her to finish her homework first, so as not to delay her homework because of her feelings; It's wrong not to do homework, but I lied and copied other people's homework in order to tell lies, which caused serious consequences, formed a bad habit of copying homework, a series of vicious cycles, which not only made my grades decline, but also made my temper worse, so that I was unusually calm in the end, putting the blame on Xiaoli and quarreling with Xiaoli, which not only affected my image in the eyes of my classmates, but also harmed the interests of the class.
Through this incident, I realized that I must think twice before acting, learn to choose and be independent. I must pay attention to the following points:
1, faced with many choices, we should be able to distinguish right from wrong.
We will encounter many problems in our study and life. We should learn to choose and be responsible. When there is a conflict between study and play, and when friendship collides with your own interests, you should learn to make a wise choice: study first and then play, instead of blindly following for friendship's sake. When we decide to copy other people's homework, when we decide to lie … we should be able to make the right choice, realize our mistakes in time and correct them. Although it is tempting to play and copy sometimes, it is necessary to have tenacious perseverance and overcome difficulties in order to grow up healthily. Only by making choices independently can a person be truly responsible for his actions; At the same time, because he is responsible for his actions, he will be more cautious and rational when choosing.
When you have conflicts with your classmates, you should learn to adjust yourself.
Friction between classmates is inevitable, as is the conflict of some things. To solve it in the right way, you must never lose your mind, shout or fight at the beginning. When two people have an argument, they can calm down first, think about the fuse of this friction, and learn to tolerate at the same time, then maybe a war will disappear. As the saying goes: Take a step back, let alone treat classmates and friends.
3. Learn to communicate and be a man in life.
In the face of friends' difficulties, we should not only choose the right one, but also pay attention to being sincere to others. We should accept things or people that are beneficial to our life and growth with an open mind, but we should not refuse or mercilessly satirize those that are harmful. We should explain patiently and treat it sincerely, and don't offend our friends or embarrass ourselves.
A setback won't ruin your life, just look at your attitude towards it. Students, we should be able to choose correctly and learn to be human. In the face of failure, we must persevere and have a correct understanding. Only in this way can we turn every setback into a new starting point in life.