1. Affect children's mental health
2. Children constantly make "probing", which causes deep anxiety.
3. Unsafe
4. Causing serious harm to the parent-child relationship.
1. Parents don't have to pretend to accept unconditionally.
Don't pretend to accept if you don't accept it.
3. Parents send clear, true and consistent messages.
1. Find out "who is in the problem area now"-"problem" means that whoever's internal needs are not met will have a problem.
2. Let children have their own problems and find ways to solve them themselves.
1. The most effective way is to "not help"
2. Master effective communication skills to reduce the number of children's problems.
3. Reduce children's problem areas.
Parents have completely different skills.
2. Reduce the number of parents' problems and narrow the problem area of parents.
1. Accept yourself as a person and have positive or negative emotions when facing children.
There is no need to show that you are a competent parent all the time.
When you can't pretend to feel accepted and loved for your children, you don't have to do it yourself.
There is no need to show acceptance and love to every child equally.
You don't have to stand on the same side with your spouse when educating your children.
6. Need to know your true feelings