Today, I would like to recommend these eight books that have changed my life. I suggest collecting it first and double-clicking it to prevent it from being lost.
1, nonviolent communication
Sometimes, the mental pain caused by words is far deeper than the physical pain. When communicating, we often lack thinking about others and ourselves, which will lead to contradictions.
The book recommended by Temujin today once gave me spiritual encouragement when I was depressed because of communication problems.
As the book says, through nonviolent communication, we no longer try to analyze what is wrong with others or ourselves, but understand our own needs with our hearts, so that our hearts will be peaceful and we will not be harsh on ourselves.
Why do you recommend it to everyone?
(1) Non-violent communication talks about many common language skills in life, and shows us a series of communication charms from the aspects of observation, feelings, needs and requests.
(2) clear and easy to understand. Even if your comprehension ability is a little poor, you can understand the author's meaning from simple words.
After reading this book, you will sigh that saying the same meaning in different ways can produce different results.
For example, if you see a good article, you can praise it silently, treat others in a non-violent way and express your approval, and your popularity will be better.
2. Principles
The book "Principles" has been pushed countless times.
But today, I still can't help but share it with you.
Inspired by this book, I also answered many questions about my life, such as work, life and management. Just like when I just graduated, I didn't know how to start a business, and I couldn't see the distance if I earned more than 10 thousand.
Later, I saw a principle in the book: pain+reflection = progress. It turns out that when you think deeply and suffer, it is a kind of progress. Only by experiencing pain and reflection can you get rid of confusion.
When I started my business, I used the "Six Steps of Organizational Rise" in the book to successfully recruit talents and formulate management plans. It can be said that this book is very suitable for multi-level, multi-field and diversified people.
I think, no matter who you are or what your current situation is, reading these principles will benefit you a lot.
Step 3 control yourself
We have two things that are the most difficult to defeat, one is self-control and the other is fear from the outside world.
In "self-control", you can learn psychological and physical self-control. Simply put, you can combine psychological and physical skills to improve your self-control.
It is this feature that makes me want to read this book.
It has three things I need:
(1) can apply what they have learned, and there are many practical life strategies in the book.
For example, the book says, "concentration is the secret of self-control." When I first started working, I couldn't sleep every day, so I tried. I pushed all the mobile phones, lights, things and so on that affected my sleep away from the interference, and I slept really comfortably.
(2) Language expression is very free. Before reading this book, I thought I could only learn self-control. I didn't expect it to affect my writing after reading it, and I had a new understanding of expression logic.
(3) Rich life examples and vivid descriptions. Reading this book is not as thick as the golden pagoda principle, but it is equally rich.
In a word, self-control is a treasure book that teaches you how to manage yourself. Students must read it carefully after getting it. I believe you will benefit a lot.
4. The wisdom of life
I read another new book every year, and even if I read it many times, I won't feel bored.
When I first saw this book, I thought it was a useless chicken soup book.
After reading it, I found that this is a real philosophy book, and I felt a rare and valuable thinking ahead. As long as you indulge in it, you will have a sense of relaxation that seems to float from the ground to the air and enjoy it.
There is a sentence in the book that impressed me deeply: "sleeping is borrowing death." The more you sleep, the longer the repayment period. " This immediately made me understand that sleep can really have a great impact on our lives. Ensuring the quality of sleep and rejecting laziness are the eternal secrets.
There are many similar practical sentences in this good book, so I won't repeat them, leaving them for you to savor.
Step 5 learn to ask questions
It turns out that asking questions is also an art.
Learning to Ask Questions makes us think rationally with critical thinking and helps us find the right way to ask, answer and look at problems.
Speaking of asking questions, I used to ask others directly as soon as I found them. As a result, others not only failed to give me the answer I wanted, but also were rejected.
Later, I read in the book that "a good question is a question that can make the interviewee willing to answer without thinking and bring them new discoveries". I'm still a little confused. What is a good question?
It suddenly occurred to me that when I was in college, I often asked questions to the point where the other person didn't want to talk to you, such as "What should I do?" "The first step is like this. What's the second step?" I'm embarrassed to ask any more questions.
Only then did I guess and understand that sentence: high-quality questioning needs to bring discovery and good reflection.
Fortunately, when I was a sophomore, I began to screen questions, making the way of asking questions more witty, reducing the embarrassment in the process of asking questions and improving the goodwill of the other party, just like "What should I do", which can be changed to "Can I do this?" Doing so has XX benefits. "
The success of this book lies in:
(1) Rich cases and critical thinking.
(2) Be logical and cultivate your multi-angle thinking ability.
(3) Theory should be combined with examples, and practicality is its first label.
If you are not good at asking and answering questions, this book can just solve your puzzles and problems. You can look for it if you don't believe me.
A good book can only be understood after reading it. Students who like it remember Sanlian ~ ~)
6. Golden Pagoda Principle
This is a book that can change your thinking mode greatly, and it is a must-read book for a person's thinking growth.
This book is mainly about the logic of thinking, writing and solving problems. Since I read it, all the problems that I couldn't solve in my life have been solved.
Maybe some students think this book is too boring to read, which is normal. When our thinking logic is not systematic, understanding needs some adaptation. When you go through the process from thinking skills to thinking habits, you will find it very interesting.
When I first got the golden pagoda principle, I took a quick look. It is too rich to be described in one or two sentences, so I suggest you start with the table of contents and then choose what you need to read carefully.
If you want to improve your way of thinking quickly, it is definitely a good choice for you!
7. "You should fly to your mountain like a bird."
This book is the annual recommendation of Bill Gates. When I first saw this book in the bookstore, my eyes were attracted by it. The cover is: a pencil-shaped mountain peak, where a girl stands and watches a group of birds fly to the distant forest.
The title of the book "You should fly to your mountain like a bird" contains strength in the poem, but its original English name is as simple as "educated".
This is a word in the passive voice, which conveys both a result and a state. But in Chinese, it seems that no word can fully and properly express its original meaning.
Some birds are destined to be caged, and every feather of them shines with freedom. This episode seems to explain the title and the author's own situation well.
What kind of person a person can become and whether he can get real freedom comes from your heart, which can transcend the influence of family background.
As the author said, "You can love someone, but you still choose to say goodbye to him. You can miss someone every day, but still be glad that he is not in your life. "
If you feel uneasy and confused about your present life, I strongly recommend that you read this book first.
8. Influence
When I saw the title, I thought, what is influence?
As an entrepreneur, my every move will have an impact on the development of the company. After reading this book, I know: no influence, no follow-up power. This is a charm, an invisible and magical power.
Before I met him, the influence in my mind was "to influence others with myself". But when I use it in practice, I find that this is not the case, and my own advantages can't affect others well.
For example, as a boss, I can't just influence my employees with what I am good at, but I should stand in their perspective and try to understand their concerns and needs in order to be truly influential.
Thank you very much for this book, which gives me more practical methods to deal with the relationship with employees, and then promotes the development of the company.
However, in addition to influence, there is also a very important "principle of reciprocity": we should try our best to repay what others have done for us in the same way.