I read this book three times over and over again, and for my own convenience, I drew the key points and took notes. Now I want to share it with parents in need. I hope it helps you.
1. Chat, sing and tell stories with children every day.
2. Have your own hobbies.
3. Set an example for children. Husband and wife share housework with each other and live in harmony.
4. Support and encourage children to discover their own advantages. Point out how he successfully dealt with difficulties in the past and tell him that he can continue to do so in the future. "I know you will do better next time."
5. Love sports and be an interesting person. Keep your word, and keep your word.
6. Publicly express your thoughts and encourage your child not to hide anything from you, pay attention to your child's mood and behavior changes, understand his feelings and ask, listen and give suggestions.
7. Encourage him to ask questions and express his ideas.
8. Don't impulsively say some mean words and thoughtless comments.
9. Let children participate in family activities such as cooking and exchange what happened that day and what they care about.
10, formulate rules suitable for each development stage.
1 1. Let the child face moderate challenges, but within his ability, he needs to work hard to succeed, so that he can succeed and cultivate self-esteem.
12. Don't put pressure on children to study.
13. When children do good deeds, they must be praised for their achievements in school.
14. Watch TV in two hours. Tell him some values and morality, help children distinguish right from wrong and care about others.
15. Don't eat anything alcoholic during pregnancy, eat more fish and shellfish, and don't eat raw meat and fish. Cat droppings carry parasites. Wash your hands with soapy water when touching raw meat.
16. Bright colors can turn music to music. The first color a baby knows is red. Musical toys can make children feel comfortable and fall asleep easily. Nightlight helps you check your child's condition and help him reduce the fear of waking up.
17. Before children can walk, shoes are unnecessary. Wearing shoes too early affects the development of feet, as do socks and jumpsuits.
18. A baby is a combination of a small part of the mother and a small part of the father.
19. The baby opened his eyes for the first time and was very sensitive to his mother's voice and temperature. He should seize the opportunity to caress the baby and observe it carefully. This special reaction will only last for the first few hours.
20. About one hour after delivery is the golden age to start breastfeeding. At this time, the baby is alert and wants to eat milk very much. 2-5 days after the baby is born, the mother will secrete colostrum (light yellow, containing protein and antibodies to protect the baby from infection).
2 1. Just a few months after birth, the baby should respond immediately when it cries. Such a small baby won't be spoiled.
22. The baby is not cold or hungry, and the diaper is dry: shake, pat the back, swaddle, sing and talk, play light music, hug and push, burp and take a shower. If all this fails, the best way to deal with it is to leave the baby alone for a while. If you can't be quiet, you may be ill. Take his temperature.
23. No matter how impatient and angry you are, never shake the baby hard. Strong shaking can lead to blindness, brain damage and even infant death.
24. Keep quiet when feeding at night, don't turn on the light, change diapers less, and put them back to sleep immediately after feeding. If it is more than three or four hours before going to bed at night, wake him up in advance and play with him for a while to cultivate his habit of sleeping less during the day and more at night. At the same time, we should cultivate fixed bedtime rituals: bathing, relaxing, telling stories and singing, and eating milk.
25. Babies under one year old should lie on their backs as much as possible. The mattress should be hard. Wear a jumpsuit and sleep in a sleeping bag. Practicing prone when awake is helpful to the development of shoulder muscles and head control ability, and avoids sleeping with the back of the head lying flat.
26.？ More than 90% babies can sleep all night (6-8 hours) when they are three months old. A golden baby who weighs 10- 12 has been eating for so long.
27. Diapers should be wiped clean with warm water and coated with buttock cream or vaseline.
28. The sudden increase in defecation times exceeds the number of breastfeeding, indicating diarrhea. If you have a fever at the same time, you should go to the hospital immediately. The main threat of diarrhea is dehydration.
29. It is enough to take a bath three times a week in a year. Bathing often leads to dry skin. Take a bath, dry it and apply moisturizing cream to prevent eczema. After birth 1-2 weeks, the umbilical cord didn't fall off, only rubbing. Pay attention to cleaning armpits, behind ears, around neck and genitals. You can use your wrist or elbow to measure the water temperature and feel warm.
Buy a towel with a cap to prevent your head from catching cold. Bathing is a good way to relax and help babies fall asleep.
3 1. In the first few months of life, babies' belongings should be washed separately from their families. Babies don't need any baby oil or talcum powder. Massage with lotion or cream will make them feel comfortable.
Newborns should wear several layers of clothes unless the temperature is above 24 degrees. At the same temperature, the baby's clothes are thicker than those that adults feel comfortable wearing. Put the baby on the leg by wearing the upper body clothes, put the baby on the bed by wearing the lower body, put on the legs first, then put on the sleeves, and put on the pullover first. While dressing, ask the child "where is the baby's little hand?" The baby's little hand is here. When you are in infancy, let your baby's hips and legs move freely, only exposing the head and neck.
33. The front fontanel is usually closed before the age of 2.
34. Feed 8- 12 times every 24 hours. Urine 4-8 times, defecate 3-4 times (you will pull a little after eating).
35. Before and after feeding, let the family burp, change diapers, take a bath and take a walk.
36. In the first few days after birth, the most comfortable way to feed is to let the mother lie on her side and make sure that the whole body of the child is facing you. Sit with your arms propped up on a pillow and feed. Eat one breast completely before eating the other.
37. Try not to use bottles and pacifiers in the first few weeks of life.
38. Ibuprofen is a safe and effective drug for treating breast pain.
39. The baby usually eats one breast first 10- 15 minutes. After that, you can burp your baby and continue feeding on the other side. It is best to start breastfeeding before the baby cries, because crying is a sign of overeating. In the first few weeks of life, you should breastfeed every 3-4 hours and wake up when you fall asleep.
40. The extruded breast milk can be stored for 3-4 hours at room temperature, 3 days in the refrigerator and 6 months in the freezer. Put a date label on each storage container to ensure that the milk that has been stored for the longest time is eaten first. 90- 120 ml is the baby's disposable consumption, and 30-60 ml is one. Heat it to at least 20-22 degrees before eating. Eat within 24 hours after thawing and cannot be frozen again. The unfinished milk should be drunk or dumped within 1-2 hours.
After 4 1.4 weeks, intestinal spasm (or hernia) began to appear, and it was very painful for at least a period of time every day (between 6 pm and midnight): legs stood upright, crying loudly, face turned red, writhing at the beginning of breastfeeding, and refused to feed.
42. Don't feed pure milk to babies under one year old. At the age of one, it is recommended to add vitamin D to whole milk. High-speed rail formula for infants under one year old. Meat, egg yolk and high-iron rice flour all contain iron. DHA。 ARA is two kinds of fatty acids, which are very important for the development of baby's brain and eyes.
43. Breastfed babies don't need to be supplemented with water and juice for six months. It is not recommended for babies under one year old to drink juice. Eating some fruits and drinking water is healthier than drinking fruit juice. Accustoming babies to drinking white water is a healthy habit that is beneficial to their life.
44. Let the baby stand upright for 20-30 minutes after each feeding to prevent spitting.
45. Peeling is a normal process for newborns and does not require treatment.
46. Newborns' vision range is 20-30 cm, and they can see their faces clearly when feeding. Show the baby a black and white pattern, and he will be interested in staring.
47. A baby's stomach should feel soft. If your stomach swells hard, you haven't defecated for a day or two, or vomiting may be flatulence and constipation, as well as intestinal diseases, you should see a doctor immediately.
48. Diapers should be lower than umbilical cord to prevent umbilical cord from getting wet.
49. The baby's weight will decrease 10% within five days after birth, and then it will recover within five days, so the weight will return to the level at birth on the tenth day. Then it grew rapidly, and there were two growth bursts, one in 7- 10 day and the other in 3-6 weeks.
50. From infancy, talking face to face with children and reading to them are helpful to language development. Children need colorful environment, including language, games, exploration, books, music and suitable toys.