12 and 13 students have entered early adolescence. Their self-care ability is stronger, they like to do things according to their own subjective wishes, and they begin to want to get rid of their parents' influence and are no longer willing to talk more about themselves with their parents. In daily life, elders like to teach their younger generation with their own life experiences. If the same content is repeated too much, it will turn into chatter and affect the relationship between the two generations. This course first lets the students know under what circumstances the elders will nag, then knows whether the content of nagging is beneficial to them, and finally discusses how to treat the nagging of the elders without hurting their parents' feelings.
Purpose of consultation
1, understand the situation of parents.
2. Understand that parents' nagging is a special manifestation of caring and caring for children.
3. Explore a good way to treat nagging.
Consulting mode
1, panel discussion
2. Sketch performance
3. Social survey
Preparation before consultation
1, do a social survey before class.
2. Rehearse the sketch "Xiao Liang at home once or twice".
3. Prepare an idyllic oil painting.
Consultation time and place
Counseling time: one class hour.
Consultation place: group consultation room.
Consultation steps
First, introduce a conversation
Good morning, class! It's time for our rainbow chat again. The topic we are talking about today is: how to deal with the nagging of the elders?
Second, tell me about yourself.
1. Tell me how old you are today. (I this year ...)
Now, which one of you can show your homework to your parents?
Teacher's evaluation: these performances of everyone are understandable, because when they grow up, they all want to do their own things independently. )
Third, talk.
1. Do your parents or other elders like to talk? Discuss (let the students talk for one minute)
2. Under what circumstances do elders usually speak? (Name)
3. Watch the sketch performance "Liang Xiao at Home".
Xiao Liang came home from school, put down his schoolbag, turned on the TV and watched his favorite cartoons with relish. Soon mom came back. "Bright, doing? Have you finished your homework? "Mother asked while changing slippers. "Write it later." "Go do your homework, go!" Mom's voice just fell and dad came back. Dad didn't put away his schoolbag and asked, "Liang Liang, how did you behave today?" And ... "Dad hasn't finished asking. Liangliang was impatient and said grumpily, "Not so good, not the same. "Then I watched his TV. At this moment, my father froze. ...
4. Discussion: Why is Xiao Liang unhappy?
5. Tell me about your parents' situation. What do they often like to say? (Raise your hand to speak)
The discussion of this issue can also be divided into two steps: ① individual speech; ② Group communication. Teachers' comments can be said as follows: "It's really interesting", "quite special", "I sympathize with you" and "it's understandable that they say so".
6. Tell the truth: How do you react when you hear your elders nagging you in your daily life?
Teacher's conclusion: It's normal and understandable to hear parents say the same sentence over and over again, and everyone has one idea or another.
Four, mom and dad's words
1, Teacher: In class, the teacher made a social survey and recorded the conversation record of this survey. Next, let's listen to what mom and dad say.
2. Play the live recording of social survey.
Q: Hello, XXX. Now, I'd like to invite you to talk about the topic of chatter. ...
Q: Hello, your child is going to be 12 years old. When you want to tell him something, he sometimes shows impatience. What are you thinking at this time? )
This social survey must be done two weeks in advance, and it should be detailed. The questions asked should be targeted, and every parent interviewed should say what they want to tell their children most. Parents' names should be kept as secret as possible. )
3. Summary: We listened to our parents' heartfelt words just now, and I believe everyone must be very shocked. Chatting is a special way for parents to care and love their children in the world.
Fifth, eliminate troubles.
1, Discussion: Chatting is inevitable in our daily life. What will you do when your thoughts and practices are inconsistent with the wishes of your parents and elders?
Let the students raise their hands and speak fully, and the teacher will prompt the summary method in time. )
(1) quiet listening method;
(2) Distraction method;
(3) self-satire;
(4) description.
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2. Watch the sketch performance "Bright at Home II"
Liangliang came home from school, put down her schoolbag, turned on the TV and watched her favorite cartoons with relish. Soon, my mother came back. When she came in, she asked, "Liangliang, have you finished your homework?" "Mom, watch TV for a while before writing, don't worry!" Help mom put on slippers with a big smile. Mother smiled and went to cook. Liangliang was about to sit down. At this time, his father came back. As soon as he entered the door, he asked, "Liang Liang, how did you behave today?" Liang Liang smiled mischievously: "It's okay, Dad, my son won't embarrass you." Say that finish and continue to watch TV. "Liangliang, what are you going to write in today's diary ..." Dad asked many more questions, but Liangliang was not angry, just listened quietly ... Discussion: How does Liangliang talk to his elders? Ask the students to answer the questions as shown above. )
Six, help you.
Do you have any problems that need help in your daily life? ※? Let's write the problem on a piece of paper and solve it through discussion. )
Seven. abstract
Parents talk about their children because of love and gratitude, and we can understand their good intentions. Let's build a Hongqiao together, let people have more understanding and make the world a better place.
Supplementary activities
After two weeks of counseling, do another social survey to let parents talk about their children's performance and changes during this period, so as to accumulate first-hand information for future counseling.
suggestion
This course is suitable for students from grade five and six to junior high school. We should fully respect students, give full play to their initiative, and avoid using rational evaluation methods in the whole counseling process. Let the students sit in the seats that they think are satisfactory in the counseling room easily, without asking students how to sit, as long as they are decent and generous, so that the counseling activities can be carried out in a relaxed and happy atmosphere.