Russian writer Ivan Goncharov said: "The whole life is thinking and working. Although labor is nameless and ordinary, it cannot be interrupted. "
Labor is the basic quality that everyone should have, and it is also the basic survival skill that every child should master.
In the process of raising children, parents should guide their children from simple to complex, and gradually master various labor skills with the different stages of their growth.
We should know that labor can not only improve children's skills and broaden their horizons, but also let children know how to love and cherish life.
The ability to work is related to the future of children.
There was a saying in the ancestors: "Four bodies are not diligent, and the grains are not divided." It means that people who don't take part in labor can't distinguish rice, millet, millet, wheat and glutinous rice.
Today, in modern society, the environment in which most children live, not to mention knowing whole grains, is seriously lacking in basic self-care ability.
Xiao Zhi has a cousin who lives in a first-tier city. My son Lele goes to junior high school and goes back to his hometown every New Year. He only puts his hand out of his cuff when eating, and the rest is arranged by his cousin's wife.
At first, we thought Lele didn't adapt to the environment in his hometown, but later we learned that Lele was also at home.
Moreover, Lele not only lacks working ability, but also has a declining academic performance. No matter what my cousin and sister-in-law say, Lele always turns a deaf ear, as if it were irrelevant, immersed in online games that never leave her hand.
Speaking of Lele's future, my wife's tears have been swirling in her eyes, saying that she regrets that Lele was not asked to pack her schoolbag and bed when she was a child, nor did she take him to learn housework such as washing dishes, sweeping the floor and mopping the floor.
Now I want to cultivate Lele's labor ability. Kororo is too lazy to look like it. He doesn't want to learn at all, and he is not good at scolding. He can only resign himself to fate.
Scholars at Harvard University made a 20-year survey and came to such a conclusion:
Compared with children who love to do housework, the employment rate of adults is 15: 1. Children who love housework have higher mental health index and family happiness index.
A survey of 20,000 primary school students' families by China Academy of Educational Sciences also shows that:
In families where children are responsible for one or two housework, the proportion of children with excellent grades is relatively high. In the family of "as long as you study hard, you can do housework or not", the proportion of children's excellent grades is only 3. 17%, while in the family of "children should do housework", the proportion of children's excellent grades is 86.92%, which is a far cry.
Parents should understand that cultivating children's working ability is not only the survival skills that children should master as independent individuals, but also affects their future life direction and development prospects.
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How to cultivate children's labor consciousness and ability?
Professor Ban Jianwu, deputy director of the Institute of Basic Theory of Education of Beijing Normal University, once said in a program:
"Cultivating children's labor ability is not only the cultivation of specific labor skills, but also the need for children to understand through labor that the basic premise for the world to maintain development and prosperity is labor."
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The development history of human society is a history of "labor creates the future", and every child should have a clear sense of labor and sufficient ability to work.
First of all, parents should understand the importance of labor to their children's growth.
Li Yongle, a teacher in high school affiliated to renmin university of china, said that every summer, his air-conditioning remote control doesn't work well. He didn't know what to do, so he had to call for repair.
As a result, the maintenance staff told him that the remote control was dead, so just change the battery. Teacher Li said that this example shows that his working ability is very poor.
After some analysis, Mr. Li believes that the responsibility for his poor working ability lies with his parents. When he was a child, he arranged everything and didn't give him the opportunity to cultivate his work ability.
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Many parents also believe that children should devote all their time and energy to their studies, and success will be achieved if they are admitted to a good university in the future. Actually, it's not. Parents should understand the importance of labor to their children's growth.
At different stages of children's life growth, parents have the responsibility to guide their children to start with basic labor such as dressing and eating, and gradually cultivate their working ability.
Secondly, according to the age of children, gradually cultivate the ability to work.
Smirnoff, an oil painter, said, "Genius cannot make people not work, nor can it replace it."
No genius is born in fantasy and empty talk. If you want to be an excellent person, you can't do without long-term study and high-intensity labor. The more talented people are, the more complicated the tasks they face.
Therefore, for children under three years old, parents should teach them simple labor tasks such as undressing, eating with a spoon, and throwing garbage into the trash can, so as to lay a foundation for cultivating children's self-care ability.
Children aged three to six should gradually master the labor skills of sorting out small bookcases and schoolbags, setting dishes and chopsticks, wiping tables and sweeping the floor, and parents must be patient with their children.
Children over the age of six, from the arrangement of school supplies to the operation of simple meals to washing their own shorts and socks, are constantly increasing their labor tasks to cultivate their more skilled labor ability.
Third, make use of the situation to guide children to fall in love with labor in various ways.
Going out in the morning, I saw a mother and son standing by the trash can in the community. It looks like a little boy about four years old. When he threw a big bag of garbage into the trash can, his mother applauded and said, "You are great!" "
The younger the child, the higher the enthusiasm for work. Parents should make full use of their children's enthusiasm, tap their enthusiasm for work, and form the habit of working at any time.
If the child is a teenager and lazy, parents should formulate appropriate incentives to encourage the child to start working according to the child's personality and usual schedule.
If the child really can't carry it, parents should not worry, but start from a little bit of housework. If the child does a little, he will praise it hard and let the child feel the pleasure brought by labor.
As American statesman Benjamin Franklin said, "Labor is the father of happiness."
? Integrate labor into children's daily life. My son in the sixth grade came home to me the other day and said, "Mom, the school has assigned us a task."
I asked him what his task was. He said happily, "The teacher asked each of us to make a special dish, so I decided to make tomatoes? Scrambled eggs! "
My son has been cooking this dish for a long time, from cutting tomatoes to beating eggs, pouring oil from the pot to putting chopped green onion and salt, and from stir-frying to stir-frying. A dish with all colors and flavors can be served in 20 minutes at most.
In fact, when I took my son to learn to cook, he was ambivalent and said to me weakly, "Mom, why should I learn to cook?" Just cook it for me! "
I told him that he couldn't think like this. Either mom can cook or you can cook. The sense of gain and accomplishment you get from your work is beyond others' reach.
In this way, I began to teach how to make a fire, and took my son to learn fried eggs, stir-fry and other home cooking, which not only made the children fall in love with the kitchen, but also improved their hands-on ability.
In fact, labor is something that is integrated into children's daily life. Parents don't have to do it together.
Li Dazhao once said: "I think the best way to seek happiness in life is to respect labor." All happiness can be obtained through labor; All sufferings can be freed from labor. "
Indeed, from now on, parents should take their children to work, which is the ladder for their children to live a happy life.