When you are hurt, I believe many people have heard this saying: Thank those who have hurt you, because they make you stronger.
We deeply believe this, so we strive to grow together and regard the past injuries as the price of growth.
But in the face of hurt, Angela Chang gave the opposite answer at the recent "Tucao Conference". She said:
Hurt is hurt
Without these injuries
I will become stronger
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This is the first time Angela Chang has responded directly to the rumors from the outside world, with such a tough attitude , directly breaking through the false politeness used by adults.
This speech not only reminded people of her poor family of origin, but also made netizens speculate that it was related to the former "good sister" Weiqi Fan.
So after the show was broadcast, some netizens went to Fan Weiqi’s Weibo to question her betrayal of friendship.
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Although Fan Weiqi personally denied it, it is still inevitable for the people to discuss this pair of "discordant sisters" again.
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Speaking of the acquaintance of the two, we have to mention Foremost Records.
At that time, Angela Chang and Weiqi Fan were both artists under Foremost Records. Weiqi Fan joined the company early, and Angela Chang respectfully called her senior sister.
In order to make them popular, Fu Mao created a good sister persona for them. The two sang songs together, became regular guests at each other's concerts, and were inseparable in public.
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In those years, in this complicated circle of fame and fortune, two girls who were both on the rise did indeed treat each other with sincere sisterhood.
It was only later that Angela Chang achieved outstanding results in both singing and acting, and she was soon promoted to the rank of Little Queen.
The relationship between the two people has naturally and inevitably changed.
In 2008, Angela Chang went to Canada for treatment due to a heart disease. When she came back, she was surprised to find that all her savings had been taken away by her mother.
Not only that, her parents and uncle also accused her in front of the media of abandoning her family, and even used photos of her without makeup when she was sick to frame her as a drug addict.
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In a short time, she changed from an "inspirational goddess" to an "unfilial and drug-addicted girl". The huge pressure of public opinion caused her prosperous life to begin to decline rapidly.
At the critical moment, Fan Weiqi, a good sister, instead of speaking up for her, took over the endorsement that originally belonged to her, and even called Angela Chang an "irrelevant person."
Weiqi Fan’s husband, a black man, also poached Angela Chang’s assistant, who even instigated fans to insult Angela Chang.
A popular actress who was unparalleled in the limelight could not withstand the triple siege of family drama, plastic friendship and pressure from public opinion, and gradually disappeared in that massive catastrophe.
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This disappearance lasted ten years.
Ten years are enough for the rising stars of the year to grow into idols of a generation, for seniors to fall off the altar and disappear, and for the entertainment industry to complete several iterations.
No one knows how she survived.
I only heard later that her new album, which she paid for with her own money, was once questioned as to whether it was genuine. When walking on the road, she felt warmed by a stranger's "Come on".
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Ten years later, she participated in "I Am a Singer".
The song "A Diao" allowed her to once again prove her strength and return to the public eye.
People exclaimed, "It turns out that Angela Chang is still so stubborn and has not smoothed her edges", but if you look closely, it is not the case.
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She still has a sweet baby face, a small body with a lot of energy, and the same Angela Chang who reminds people of her entire youth when she opens her mouth.
But her voice and her eyes showed a bit more relief and compassion after going through ups and downs.
She said that she is willing to be ordinary but not willing to suffer ordinary defeat. After so many years, I gradually understand what letting go means. I used to feel that many people owed me an apology, but now I can let myself try to let go.
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In his words, there was no exaggeration of the tragic experience he had experienced, and he always had the inspirational look of never bowing to fate.
But we outside the camera can clearly see her sadness after experiencing the yellow sand, rolling stones, strong winds and waves.
Angel is finally back, but she has also matured with all the injuries we inadvertently suffered.
I remember there is a word in Buddhism called "non-regression", which means that after practicing to a certain state, you will never return to the original stage.
The same is true in life. A heart that has been wrongly paid and a soul that has been hit hard can never return to the undefended state of innocence.
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Instead of forcing yourself to forgive the hurt, it is better to completely tear up the hypocritical tolerance and dignity and leave yourself with a clear conscience.
So, even if she fell suddenly from the highest place and was framed by the people closest to her, she still dared to respond loudly after experiencing the warmth and coldness of the world at the bottom of her life:
I don’t Be grateful to those who hurt me
They just reminded me
Don’t be that person
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Almost in the abyss of pain Even if a person who drowns can struggle to stand up in the future, he will never care.
But what is commendable is that she chose not to use the same means to retaliate: I would rather go upstream than go with the flow. Kindness is a choice.
She has always adhered to the bottom line of kindness, rarely saying a word about retirement to the outside world, and never hesitated to do charity in private.
At the Harper's Bazaar Charity Night, people questioned her lack of qualifications because she was pushed to the C position for a photo, but in fact Angela Chang donated 700,000 at that time.
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Whether it is her debut qualifications or the amount of donations, she is qualified to stand there, but after being ridiculed by the group, she still did not defend herself.
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She knows that when the crowd is overwhelmed by emotions, no one may care about the truth.
So I simply kept silent and allowed time to digest the harsh sound.
Having experienced a roller-coaster life, Angela Chang has long understood that she will forgive what she needs to forgive and not force herself to forgive what she cannot.
So she showed off her spear happily: I am born to be inspirational, born to be strong, and I have wings.
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Put through the mask of hypocrisy, and truly face yourself who chooses to go on alone and strong even if you are let down.
In the hearts of Chinese people, they naturally like happy endings.
Even Mr. Wang Guowei said, "The spirit of our people is worldly and optimistic. Therefore, the operas and novels that represent their spirit always have this optimistic color, starting from the sad ones." Joy finally comes, what begins with separation ends with reunion, what begins with hardship ends with prosperity.”
Every time we encounter the situation of "the brothers are here after all the calamities, and the grudges are gone with a smile", it always makes people burst into tears and is very satisfying.
But it takes courage to shake hands and make peace. Before you forgive others, you must swallow your grievances and unwillingness, and you must put your mood into order and greet them with a smile.
If you can't do it, you can't do it. There is no need to be harsh on yourself and deal with the consequences of others' mistakes decently.
Ma Dong once said in "Qi Pa Shuo": As time goes by, we will eventually forgive those who have hurt us.
Tsai Kangyong changed the topic and said, "That's not called forgiveness, it's called forgetting it."
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The sentence "Forget it" contains the helpless voice of adults. It's not that they don't mind, but that there is no need to bother with it anymore.
No matter how long it has passed, the pain that has grown on my body cannot be ended with a word of forgiveness.
But life has to go on, so I have to cover the incompletely healed wound with a string of ellipses, and never see him again.
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The world is so big that the past can be quickly turned over. People who act as if nothing has happened are very cool; people who are unwilling to forgive the hurt and never interact with each other until death are also very handsome.
Because they have already seen clearly: in the face of the past, only letting yourself go is the greatest kindness in the world!