I don't know when this phrase "protecting adults or children" has become the most feared "warning" for domestic expectant mothers before giving birth. Although this situation is rare in real life, it may be the most worrying thing for women of childbearing age in the old society. As the saying goes, "people are scared to death when they are born", and giving birth to children is a terrible thing. It was heartbreaking to see my mother screaming in pain in bed.
In some costume TV dramas, we can often see such a scene: women who are about to give birth are quickly pushed into the delivery room by "midwives" and some midwives. However, in a short time, the midwife or midwife ran out nervously and asked the anxious family members a question that made their legs weak: "Who will decide whether to protect the adults or the children?"
At this time, families often panic and cry, and it is difficult to make a decision, but some people will be very excited and make a decisive choice on the issue of "protecting adults or protecting children". It is reported that a friend's relatives have encountered such a thing:
A friend said that her relatives and friends are very beautiful, so she married a good family and expected a happy life after marriage. At first, I was really happy. Since I was pregnant, my husband has been very fond of her, and my in-laws are also very concerned about her. I always have everything I like to eat and use. It can be said that I am very excited about her pregnancy.
However, when she worked hard to get pregnant in October, and the baby in her belly was about to give birth, she didn't expect to encounter dystocia and sometimes massive bleeding-what should I do? So the doctor who delivered the baby quickly asked the accompanying family whether to protect the adults or the children. Unexpectedly, at this time, the man and his in-laws who have always loved each other said with one voice, "We should protect our children." Fortunately, although the medical conditions in previous years were not as good as they are now, they were much more advanced than in the old society, so this friend and my friend's relatives finally missed this call. Although they experienced an unforgettable death, both adults and children were lucky to escape.
However, from the time she was discharged from the hospital and returned to her mother after confinement, her relatives and friends were always depressed, so when she returned to her mother's house, she resolutely asked her husband for a divorce! She said that when dystocia happened in the hospital, her husband's words of "protecting the children" made her sad. She must not spend her life with this person who doesn't care if she lives or dies. Although at first, her husband didn't agree to divorce, he finally divorced.
Yes, "divorce" is the most correct choice, because "to protect an adult or a child" itself is an inhuman bastard. You know, a man giving up his wife's life to protect a child he has never met is tantamount to murdering his wife, which is simply unforgivable. Therefore, no matter how superior the man is, when he has this idea, he can't continue to live with him anyway.
A young couple, no matter how they get married, must have the same life and emotional foundation, because now is the time when the child is born. If a child is born, he can ignore your feelings about life and death and even sacrifice you to protect a baby he has never met before. Such a man is definitely not worth nostalgia. Therefore, for women of childbearing age, giving up such a marriage is the wisest choice!
However, nowadays, the situation of "protecting adults or children" in today's life can be described as rare or even impossible.
It can be said that as far as modern delivery room equipment is concerned, although women may still have certain risks in the process of delivery, the problem of "only one can be guaranteed" has almost disappeared. Moreover, according to the basic norms of medical record writing implemented by the Ministry of Health, the hospital will require pregnant women to sign informed consent in advance, and the issue of "protecting adults or children" has been clearly explained to their families before labor. According to the basic principles of midwifery in China, almost all hospitals will choose to "protect adults", especially in the case of delivery complications, the physiological system of pregnant women is also the most important thing to maintain their own lives.
So the phrase "protect adults or children" is for women in the old society. At that time, women had no social status and could only rely on their husbands or sons to live, so women often chose to "protect their children." But this situation has long since ceased to exist. Therefore, in the event of an accident, the doctor will do his best to treat the mother and the fetus, and will not give up on either side easily. Therefore, there is no problem of "keeping the big and keeping the small" in modern life.