Whether a family is happy or not is closely related to personal health. Modern people are in poor health, on the one hand, because of great pressure, on the other hand, it has a lot to do with family disharmony. In a family, men are the center and women are the core. A good family relationship should be that the center (man) protects the core (woman) and the core (woman) serves the center (man). The key to the four cornerstones of health lies in the core of women.
Health can be divided into three levels according to social units-personal health, family health and social health. If the family is not healthy and harmonious, the society will not be harmonious, so the family is a very important social unit and a decisive factor in the three health levels. Now many families also have sub-health status, which seems calm on the surface, but there are many family conflicts, that is, not many people are really happy. What kind of family is a happy family? If you ask me, there must be a division of labor and cooperation in the family, with men as the center and women as the core. The center should protect the core and the core should support the center. The center is noumenon, and the core is soul. These two hearts must be soul mates, caring for each other, and can't be separated because of strange strange bedfellows and looks.
So which is more important, two hearts? I said all this is very important. One yin and one yang are harmonious and complementary. The center is form, and the core is interior. Both should have their own emphasis, regardless of competition, but both inside and outside. We should correctly understand and treat this family relationship. In some families, two people like to occupy the central position and I have the final say in everything, so of course there will be trouble. In fact, in the family, no one should care who, who should help who, who should forgive who.
In addition, family happiness is closely related to personal health. Middle-aged people are in poor health, on the one hand, because of great pressure, on the other hand, it has a lot to do with family disharmony. Some people humorously divide the family situation into six categories-the best is Peach Blossom Garden, the second is Xinghua Village, the third is Li Pingan, the fourth is Danube, the fifth is Arctic Ocean, and the sixth is powder magazine.
Let's talk about the first kind of Peach Blossom Spring. Peach Blossom Garden is an ideal realm, which means that the atmosphere at home is full of beautiful spring, birds and flowers, and the husband and wife are soul mates, loving each other and very happy. The second kind of "Xinghua Village" is not as idealistic as Peach Blossom Garden, but it is also full of spring, which makes people feel very at home. The third kind of "be prepared for danger in times of peace" is not affectionate and flashy, but at least it is a peaceful and harmonious home. The fourth is the Danube. There are many such family problems, such as children's education and economic expenses. It's nothing serious, but they always quarrel over trifles. If family conflicts can be handled and solved well, they will certainly become "peace"; But if the problem is not solved well, it will become the fifth "Arctic Ocean", which means the beginning of the Cold War. The performance of Arctic Ocean is that when the husband and wife come home from work, they love to talk to each other, keep silent and have no communication with each other. In the long run, the cracks will get bigger and bigger. Of course, if we can make up for it in time and deal with the problems well at this time, we can still go back to the Danube, but if it doesn't work out, it will be the sixth powder magazine. That means that couples get bored as soon as they get home, and they quarrel and fight with each other when they meet, and they don't budge. At this stage, I'm afraid it's difficult to get a divorce.
After studying the relationship between husband and wife, we found that the most fundamental problem of divorced couples is the lack of communication and exchange. In fact, communication is very important. Many people can't communicate, thinking that communication means talking with their mouths, but it's not. Not only communicate with your mouth, but also feel with your heart.
The effect of spiritual communication is completely different from the simple use of language. For example, when you go to a restaurant for dinner, there are three beautiful waiters standing on both sides of the restaurant door, saying "welcome, welcome", but they don't look at the customers at all, just repeat mechanically. This kind of welcome is a professional language communication, and the heartfelt welcome should be to look at the customer with eyes and smiles. The same is true at home. It is useless to communicate with each other only in a perfunctory way. Husband and wife haven't seen each other for a day. After entering the door, they held hands and talked about the day's work and mood. That is the real spiritual communication, so that each other can feel the warmth of the family.
In family relations, women are the core and men should take support as the center. Women are famous for their thoughtfulness, so in terms of health, women should know how to take care of and support their husbands. The key to the four cornerstones of health lies in the core of women. We advocate "reasonable diet", but you can't make it reasonable until your wife fixes it for you. Women should be able to carefully arrange trivial matters such as buying food and cooking according to the personal health needs of family members. We emphasize "moderate exercise" and the best exercise is walking. After dinner, husband and wife walk hand in hand, which is not only exercise, but also convenient for communication. We need "psychological balance" If the core of the female host does not get along well with her husband, it will be difficult for both sides to balance. Another of the four cornerstones is "quitting smoking and limiting alcohol", which also needs the supervision of the hostess. In short, if husband and wife understand each other, support each other and cooperate with each other, then it is easy to achieve these four points. If the relationship between husband and wife is not good, then the lifestyle is unlikely to be healthy.
On the other hand, as the center of the family, men should protect the core of women and have a sense of responsibility for the family. Since men are the center of the family, they have to bear some responsibilities. Some men are irresponsible to their families, eating, drinking and having fun with friends all day, playing outside and staying at home. Some men with poor economic conditions at home give up on themselves and are not motivated. Such a man does not play the role of "center". I think men are big trees. Now that you are married and married, you should provide a shade for your family and take care of them. In a word, the relationship between center and core is also dialectical. The center (man) protects the core (woman), and the core (woman) serves the center (man). In this way, the family is harmonious and the family members are healthy.
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A loving heart, a kind heart, two inches, three points of benevolence, tolerance and four money, filial piety, honesty, dedication, and no return.
Relax these eight kinds of "medicines" in the heart pot and stir-fry them slowly with slow fire. Don't worry; Put it in a fair bowl, grind it carefully, think it over and over again, treat it calmly, make it as big as bodhi, send it with warm soup, and share it in the morning and evening, which can purify the soul, cultivate sentiment, eliminate disasters, prolong life, adjust psychology and avoid humiliation.
On the other hand, as the center of the family, men should protect the core of women and have a sense of responsibility for the family. Since men are the center of the family, they have to bear some responsibilities. Some men are irresponsible to their families, eating, drinking and having fun with friends all day, playing outside and staying at home. Some men with poor economic conditions at home give up on themselves and are not motivated. Such a man does not play the role of "center". I think men are big trees. Now that you are married and married, you should provide a shade for your family and take care of them. In a word, the relationship between center and core is also dialectical. The center (man) protects the core (woman), and the core (woman) serves the center (man). In this way, the family is harmonious and the family members are healthy.
Comrade Soong Ching Ling once quoted an Arabic proverb at a meeting: "Educating a good man is just educating a good man, and educating a good woman is educating a good family." As the old saying goes, "When a wife and son are separated, everything is happy at home." It means the same thing.
For example, a reasonable diet is the foundation of health. How to make a reasonable diet? Wife is the key. Of course, we should pay attention to nutrition, but we don't need to deliberately pursue how many grams and kilocalories. We should carefully calculate them every day. In a family, it is often the housewife who holds the power of the table, so whether the food is reasonable or not depends on the hostess. Men often get sick early because of their potbellies. Then, who can control men's stomachs and make them eat less sweet, salty, greasy, fried, roasted and smoked food? Of course, it is the hostess who eats every day.
Healthy families should be smoke-free families, because the air in smokers' homes is dirty, and second-hand smoke is passive smoking, which is particularly harmful. Research shows that the incidence of respiratory tract infection and asthma among children in smokers' families is high. At school, their mathematical calculation ability, memory and thinking ability are not as good as other children. More importantly, the prevalence of lung cancer in smokers' wives is 1 times higher, and the number of people suffering from breast cancer is also increasing.
Long before Clinton entered the White House, former first lady Hillary Clinton banned smoking in the Arkansas governor's residence. After Clinton entered the White House, he announced: "Health is the most important thing for everyone. I forbid anyone to smoke in the White House. " Since then, the White House has ended its 200-year history of smoking. A woman, with her courage and wisdom, made the White House smoke-free and defended the health of herself, her children and her family, which also showed the key role of women in family health.
It has been said in "Rhapsody in July with flying daggers" that from the genetic point of view, there is little difference between men and women, and 99.9% of the genes are the same; From a medical point of view, the most critical "period of rapid disease growth" in the life of centenarians is 30-50 years old for men, and the turning point is 40 years old; Women are 40 to 60 years old, and the turning point is 50 years old, because menopause has a great impact on women's health; The biggest difference between men and women is not biology, but sociology, that is, cultural factors Human culture has created the myth that "men are strong and women are weak". Men wearing a "strong" aura are forced to put pressure on themselves and torture themselves, which is extremely harmful to their health. Under the shackles of the "weak", women are hesitant and confused, unable to find feelings and enjoy a healthy life. Men and women are born equal, and their ideas should be liberated and updated. Personal health, family health and social health are three levels of health, among which family health plays a connecting role, and the core of family health is women's health. Educating a good person is just educating a good person; Educating a woman means educating a family, family and everything!