I feel that eight-year-old children have psychological problems and try to help them solve their growing troubles. At the same time, many parents believe that the more outstanding the child's ability, the better. The present efforts will lay a solid foundation for future development. Here are several ways to feel that an eight-year-old child has psychological problems.
I feel that eight-year-old children have psychological problems 1 Eight-year-old children also have psychological problems, especially anxiety, depression and fear, especially in clinic. If they are afraid of something, they will have symptoms of physical discomfort and avoid certain scenes.
This may be a phobia in clinic, but some children will feel depressed, lack motivation to learn, lack interest and fun, have no interest in entertainment and study, have low self-evaluation, or lack expectations for the future, and have serious suicidal thoughts and behaviors. This is clinically depression.
Anxiety patients often show fear and worry about all kinds of things in the future. Symptoms of fidgeting, upset or physical discomfort are clinically generalized anxiety disorder.
Eight-year-old children generally enter the second grade. At this time, children have changed significantly compared with those who just entered the first grade. Like becoming more lively and confident, less psychologically dependent on adults, wider range of activities, more partners, enhanced learning ability, and so on. However, there are more problems, such as the increasing frequency of emotional problems, the prominent phenomenon of talking back, unwillingness to be bound by discipline, more emphasis on playing, lack of organization in doing things, obvious distraction and so on.
Why is the phenomenon of children's two-level differentiation so prominent? This stems from the fact that children's psychological development has entered a new stage, and there has been a leap-forward development in cognition, thinking and action. Let me analyze it from several aspects.
With the enhancement of activity ability, children's psychological dependence on adults gradually decreases.
(1) Growth and change: First-grade children are often seen holding hands with adults on the way to and from school. This shows that children's independent ability is not very strong, but after a year of growth, adaptation and exercise, most children will gradually let go of adults' hands after entering the second grade. Children have a strong psychological dependence on adults in the first grade, mainly because they are unfamiliar with unfamiliar environments, and are often closely accompanied by guardians out of subconscious self-protection psychology. After entering the second grade, this dependence on adults has changed a lot, because children are already familiar with the primary school campus, the path to and from school, and the things they have to do every day, which creates conditions for them to gradually get rid of excessive psychological dependence on adults.
(2) Outstanding problems: In real life, many young parents, including the elderly, mostly ignore the growth and changes of their children, still dare not relax their children, and often restrict their activities to avoid traffic accidents or other accidents. This kind of overprotection, on the contrary, will limit children's exploration activities and make children's self-confidence not much improved, especially for girls. Whether boys or girls enter the playmate period after the age of eight, they generally have a great desire to play. If adults are too protective and can't let go, it will inevitably make children reluctant or disgusted, which will have a new impact on establishing a good parent-child relationship.
(3) Key work: How parents face the reality of children's enhanced activity ability and do a good job in children's safety education should become a key work. Otherwise, you will be more and more reluctant to let go of your child's free activities. Many families often neglect to educate their children about safety. First, they lack a strong sense of family education; Second, they don't know the key points of safety education; Third, they have no time for continuous training; Fourth, the first person responsible for education cannot be clearly positioned. These problems directly lead to no specific person in charge of children's safety education. Safety education is related to the healthy growth of life and whether children can be truly independent in the future. As long as you attach importance to children's education, you should solve the above four common problems.
I feel that the eight-year-old child has psychological problems. 2 I feel that my child has psychological problems. What should I do?
First of all, your own identity
Clear identity, we are the parents of the child. What is the first and most precious thing that parents give their children-love, care and love? No matter what the child is, he is our child first, and we need to accept him from the heart. We all understand the expectation of your son's success and your daughter's success, but have we laid the foundation?
My daughter is three years old and has a particularly bad temper. Whenever something goes wrong, she will cry hysterically and then lie down and roll. Family and relatives will say that this girl is terrible and has a big temper when they see her. But as a father, the first thing I can give is that she is my own and I love her. The first thing to do when you come home from work is to give her a big hug and accompany her to read when you have nothing to do.
Second, let children accept their identity.
Obviously, the child didn't grow up with his parents. We don't know how the child grew up before he was seven years old, what he experienced, what kind of state he was in front of his classmates and so on. Next, should we calm down, spend more time with our children, make friends with them, and let them accept you as parents from the heart, instead of suddenly parachuting a CEO and directly carrying out drastic reforms in the company?
Third, find reasons and methods.
After finishing the first two steps, you will reach the third step. Through observation and communication with teachers and children, we will find out the reasons why children have such problems and habits. For example, eating slowly and doing homework slowly, this bad habit is subjective and intentional by children, or is it cultivated from childhood; Whether it is impolite to lose your temper is related to the education and doting of generations;
Find the root of the problem and then find the solution.
It takes three generations to make a gentleman. 202 1 At the beginning of the Spring Festival, as parents, we must bend down, calm down and grow up with our children, instead of doing magic. Give the child a hug and bid farewell to the past. In the new year, we will start from the heart.
I feel that eight-year-old children have psychological problems. Psychological characteristics of children aged seven or eight
1 and 7-year-old's theme is loneliness and retreat, although he also has happy and lively moments. He doesn't talk back to you as he did when he was 6 years old, but he doesn't like people that much, and prefers to be alone.
He often has a bad memory, is easily distracted, and dawdles at work. Not interested in helping with housework. What others ask him to do, he often doesn't answer or act for a long time. He lives in his secret garden. Even if he stares at you, he won't notice what you are saying. He can turn a deaf ear to the outside world.
His life is full of sentimental tones. He will think that others don't like him, deliberately play tricks on him, and even fantasize that he is not his parents' own child, so his family will abuse him. In addition to expressing understanding, parents don't have to complain that the 7-year-old baby was abused by his family.
2. Have the ability to evaluate affairs. Like to go out, quick-moving, with transaction evaluation ability. In other words, the establishment of moral consciousness begins now. I can finish what you told me quickly, and even like to finish it quickly to win your praise. He can also sum up and evaluate his achievements, find out his own shortcomings and make self-criticism.
He has a close relationship with his mother. 6-year-old babies talk back to their mothers, 7-year-old babies complain about their mothers, and 8-year-old babies like to cling to their mothers, observe their mothers' words, please their mothers, and may even do something they don't like to please their mothers. Therefore, he was deeply influenced by his mother at this time.
Second, the symbol of children's mental health
1, the mood is basically happy and stable. Don't get angry often, don't break toys and other things for no reason; Normal daily life, able to sleep on time, stable sleep, less nightmares, no habit of sucking fingers or biting to sleep; Basically, I can listen to the reasonable instructions of adults, I am not picky about food, and I don't often make trouble without reason.
2. Strong thirst for knowledge. Like to ask questions and actively seek answers; When studying or completing any task within one's power, he is focused and has a normal memory; Love to talk, language expression ability is consistent with age, no stuttering; In life, I am willing to do what I can, but I don't rely too much on the help of others, and I can seriously accomplish what others entrust me with.
3, can be gregarious. Love to associate with small companions, have compassion and friendly behavior towards people, don't casually hit people and swear, and don't envy companions; Can live a happy life in the group, under the guidance of adults, willing to do good things for the group.
4. Be honest and don't lie. Rarely say unrealistic words; Don't take other people's things or damage other people's things without permission; Don't hide your mistakes, but admit them.
5. Have self-esteem and some self-confidence. I enjoy praise, I am ashamed of criticism and accusation, and I want to do something popular instead of being scolded; Not too afraid of difficulties, timidity, etc.
Third, the taboo of children's mental health
1. Children can easily imitate their fathers and become dishonest.
2. Avoid irony. It is counterproductive to be cynical about children and think that they can "stimulate" their progress.
3. Avoid protection and connivance. In daily life, children do something wrong in public, but parents know it is wrong, but they shelter and cover it up for various reasons, which will inevitably make children unable to treat shortcomings and mistakes correctly.
4. Don't get used to it. Never leave the word "good", eat whatever you want and wear whatever you want, which will develop your child's wayward character. Father's "love-drowning-mistake" is often a trilogy in which some teenagers go astray in real life.
5. Avoid demanding. Parents "hate iron and not produce steel" for their children, demanding perfection in everything, and a little reprimanding, the children will be at a loss and depressed. After a long time, children may go to the opposite side and go their own way.
6. Avoid letting things drift. If you don't guide and educate your children, let yourself go, do whatever you want, and fail to fulfill your parental responsibilities, the consequences will be unimaginable. Seventh, do not beat and scold corporal punishment. In real life, some parents rely on the creed of "don't beat the abrasive", but beat and scold and punish others. In this way, they not only fail to achieve the purpose of education, but also hurt their children's self-esteem and often put them in emotional opposition with their parents.
7. Avoid inattention. Children should be allowed to choose suitable sports, cultivate their ability to concentrate and concentrate on completing a task, and cultivate their perseverance. Don't repeatedly ask your child to change the content of the activity.
8. Avoid insufficient adaptability. Cultivating children's ability to adapt to the environment is conducive to their development.
9. Avoid being out of control. Children should be trained to control their emotions, including their unreasonable demands and wishes.
10, avoid melancholy silence. It is necessary to cultivate children's optimistic and humorous personality.
1 1 to avoid dependence. Let children experience certain difficulties, let children learn to overcome difficulties and temper their body and mind (character and physique). Cultivating children's independent ability from childhood is the key to children's mental health.
In short, parents must pay attention to the psychological characteristics of their children at each stage.