1. Being single for too long can lead to premature ejaculation.
● Living a "asexual" life requires a calm mind. Singles can use adult products reasonably.
● People in the "sexual vacancy period" and "sexual waiting period" should do a good job in sexual health care and have regular physical examinations to prevent reproductive system-related diseases.
A stable sexual relationship comes to an abrupt end, but you can't find the next partner for a long time. This is the so-called "sexual window period". Online rumors say that the "sexual window period" is too long, men are prone to premature ejaculation, women are prone to depression, and even become indifferent. Sexual medicine experts pointed out that although this statement exaggerates the impact on physical and mental health, it also has some truth. In fact, apart from the "empty window period", older single men and women who have never had sexual experience and have a long "waiting period" will also encounter similar difficulties. Experts suggest that a "sexless" life requires a calm mind, a strong heart and necessary sexual health care measures.
Text/Reporter Ren Shanshan Correspondent Jiang Lan, Li Wenmin
Medical Guidance/Chief Physician Zhang Bin, Deputy Chief Physician Tao Xin, Director of Infertility and Sexual Medicine Department of the Third Affiliated Hospital of Sun Yat-sen University.
1, story: single for too long, I feel nothing when I see the opposite sex.
"Being single for too long, I feel less and less about the opposite sex, and I suspect that I have no desire." Catherine, a 3 1 year-old company employee, recently posted about her inner entanglement, saying that she had not had sex for a year and a half. Five years ago, because her boyfriend "stole food", she resolutely broke off this college romance. With good conditions, she didn't expect the "sex window" to be so long at first. At the beginning of breaking up, she was also actively looking for new love, but she gradually lost confidence in love by meeting some unreliable men one after another.
"Now I don't think it's necessary to establish a spiritual or physical relationship with a man who doesn't like my eyes, because I can't get pleasure from my relationship with him, so I'm too lazy to release my desire." Catherine said that sometimes I really feel happy to travel, shop and enjoy life freely without a man. Sometimes I wake up in the middle of the night and cry on four walls for no reason.
What bothers her recently is that it is getting more and more annoying to see someone falling in love on Weibo, and her message has also been rudely replied "Go find a partner to relieve the fire". "Will I really become bitter because the' sex window' is too long?" Catherine said that she didn't want to affect her physical and mental health.
Many netizens commented that some people think that "women who have been single for too long will get depression." Some people are in the same boat, saying that men have long been "Sagittarius" and there are many problems, "which may lead to premature ejaculation during sex in the future."
2, female: it varies from person to person, and asexual love is not necessarily sad.
Can women really suffer from depression because of the "empty window period" and "waiting period" for too long? Tao Xin, deputy chief physician of the Department of Infertility and Sexual Medicine, the Third Affiliated Hospital of Sun Yat-sen University, thinks that it cannot be generalized. "This is related to women's attitude towards sexual experience." She said that in fact, women have different degrees of yearning for the opposite sex and sexual life since puberty, which is also a normal sexual psychological process. If a woman's previous sexual experience is not wonderful or even disgusting, then the "empty window period" will not make her feel uncomfortable and sad.
But if you have experienced orgasm before, you will have a strong desire for the opposite sex during the "empty window period". Some women who are sensitive to external pressure may have anxiety and depression, which will easily develop into depression in the long run.
For older women who have never had sex before, their attitude towards sex comes more from imagination, experience sharing of peers, and indirect impressions gained from books, film and television dramas, and they are unlikely to fall into depression because of lack of sex life. In recent years, studies have shown that starting sex and childbearing later may lead to an increase in the incidence of endometriosis and breast cancer. "Some older women worry that they will be easily recruited. In fact, they have a strong sense of substitution. " Tao Xin pointed out that even if 4% people get sick, why do you think you are not the lucky 96%? Don't worry about asexual experience because you are afraid of getting sick. What is more important is to accept yourself and accept the reality calmly and optimistically. If you want to bid farewell to this single life and take the initiative, you don't have to wait for a good couple to come to you
3. M: People who expect too much are more likely to be disappointed.
Chief physician Zhang Bin, director of the Department of Infertility and Sexual Medicine of the Third Affiliated Hospital of Sun Yat-sen University, pointed out that the sexual window period is too long, and the greater blow to men is psychological. "Adult men who have not had sex for a long time will become depressed, anxious, irritable and inattentive." He said that some men who have never had sex with the opposite sex may become short-tempered, frivolous, go to extremes and even embark on the evil path of sexual violence. In recent years, in many cases of sexual abuse of young children and exhibitionism disclosed by the media, the parties often have long-term depression and asexual experience.
"In the past, affected by the social environment, people who were in the' waiting period' and' empty window period' were relatively depressed about sexual impulses, and most of them suffered silently. The current social environment is full of various sexual stimuli, and people dare to talk about their true feelings. " Zhang Bin pointed out that frankly facing these problems is the first step to solve them.
The more excited you are during sex, the easier it is to have premature ejaculation. "Just like the hungrier you are, the faster you eat." Zhang Bin used to treat older young men, but he was very weak when he saw his sexual partner too excited to take off his clothes. In addition, men who have not had sex for a long time often have high expectations for the same room and want to behave better in front of their sexual partners. Once premature ejaculation happens, it will often be hit harder and very disappointed with the result. Some people will also think about it and worry about premature ejaculation at such a young age. What should I do in the future? " This phenomenon is especially easy to appear in older "roommates".
Zhang Bin suggested that men in the "empty window period" and "waiting period" should have a rational understanding of gender relations and sexual life after completing this career, and should not blindly equate gender relations with simple sensory stimulation. "The beauty of sharing a room is that it is accompanied by emotional integration between the two sexes." He said that if you realize this, you won't have too high expectations for sexual life, you will also eliminate your fears, and you can naturally face your desires, which will also help avoid embarrassing phenomena such as premature ejaculation.
4. Expert advice: Singles can use adult products.
Experts suggest that people in the "empty window period" and "waiting period" should do a good job in sexual health care and have regular physical examinations to prevent reproductive system-related diseases.
Zhang Bin pointed out that if you plan to stay single, you should release your sexual needs regularly. "We suggest that single people masturbate, and moderate masturbation is good for the body and mind." Zhang Bin said, to avoid a misunderstanding, is to use other people's standards, because some people masturbate once a day, and some people will shout tired once every three days. The criterion to judge whether masturbation is moderate is whether you feel tired, which will affect your work and life the next day.
Both sexual medicine experts believe that singles should use adult products reasonably. "Women can also boldly try adult products without being ashamed." Tao Xin pointed out that some surveys show that at least 40% of unmarried women masturbate, which is normal.
Some single people prefer to take a distraction method. Zhang Bin suggested that for men with obvious desires, they might as well take exercise, cold water bath and other methods to divert their attention, but this is only a stopgap measure.
5. Both sexes recommend eating walnut sperm.
A new study published in the journal Reproductive Biology of the American Society for Reproductive Biology found that men can improve sperm quality by eating a handful of walnuts every day.
Researchers at the University of California, Los Angeles, Fielding School of Public Health divided the subjects into two groups, one with a normal diet and the other with an extra 75 grams of walnuts per day. Before and after the experiment, the researchers extracted sperm samples from all participants, and made a comparative analysis of sperm concentration, vitality, shape and size, chromosome abnormalities and so on. The results showed that only the "walnut group" men's sperm quality was significantly improved.
The person in charge of this new study said that the content of omega-3 fatty acids in walnuts is considerable, and many male infertility studies have found that omega-3 fatty acids can improve sperm quality. This fatty acid and other polyunsaturated fatty acids play an important role in improving sperm maturity and sperm membrane function.
2. Dietotherapy for premature ejaculation
1, maca
Maca is a kind of health care product, which helps to strengthen physical fitness and improve sexual function, and has a certain conditioning effect on impotence and premature ejaculation.
2, loach
Misgurnus anguillicaudatus contains high-quality protein, fat, vitamin B 1, vitamin A, nicotinic acid, calcium, phosphorus and iron. Sweet in taste and flat in nature, it has the effects of invigorating the middle energizer, nourishing the kidney and producing sperm.
Step 3: eggs
Eggs are the nutritional carrier of human sexual function and the "reducing agent" to restore vitality after sexual life. Couples should drink more rice porridge boiled with eggs, milk and honey before having sex.
4.donkey meat
Donkey meat is sweet and cool, and has the functions of nourishing yin and strengthening yang, invigorating qi and nourishing blood, so I am worried about being tired of eating it. Donkey kidney, sweet and warm, benefits kidney yang, tendons and bones. Can be used for treating impotence, soreness of waist and knees, etc.
5. mussels
Mussels, called sea red in the north, contain crude protein, iodine, B vitamins, zinc, iron, calcium and phosphorus. It is salty in taste and warm in nature, and has the functions of warming kidney, solidifying essence, benefiting qi and tonifying deficiency.
These foods have the function of tonifying kidney and strengthening yang, and male friends can eat more even without impotence symptoms, which has the function of strengthening the body.