So I asked my mother's aunt to take care of my second child and my grandmother to take care of Dabao wholeheartedly (more than eight months a year)! My sister-in-law takes care of Bao Xiao and me, does housework and cooks for my family! Can do anything! But my grandmother has been whispering in her ear that people nowadays are too melodramatic and always hire nannies!
Because I gave birth to Bauer, Dabao often cried for a hug. Dabao wanted to sleep with me at night, so he asked me to hug him. If I didn't hug him, I cried. But I have a wound after giving birth, so I can't take care of Dabao and Bao Xiao alone. Husband's paternity leave 15 days, my husband coaxed me a few days ago, but because my husband 15 days had to go back to work, he worked overtime until 65438 in the evening. Just resigned at the end of the year and jumped ship, pregnant with two treasures. It was three months when I found out!
Usually I take care of the baby with my grandmother, and I cook (until the baby is hospitalized). Usually let grandma take care of Dabao in advance and let her sleep Dabao during the day. But grandma refused to sleep, and my stomach was too big to hold, so I had to carry the sleeping baby on my back with braces!
Dabao has been crying these nights. I told my husband that you can help your mother, because you still have to be held by your mother when you go to work. Now you have to give Dabao and her an adaptation period!
But my grandmother still won't bring it, and I'm particularly angry. I said that you basically don't have a baby during the day, and you don't have any housework. You don't bring it at night! You're coming to confinement!
Husband (8: 00-20: 00) does odd jobs and helps the children cry at night. My husband has been taking care of the baby during the day and has something to deal with at night! My grandmother is still sleeping. Last night, I couldn't help it. I'll scold my husband. I said, are you going to kill your father? He worked so hard during the day and went to sleep at night (1 1: 40 later, the baby fell asleep holding me and suddenly cried). Do you think your father's life is too long and you want him to die early? I said it's not my real father anyway. If you don't mind, I won't talk about it in the future! But my husband can only let his father go to bed with his baby in his arms, and my grandmother is still sleeping!
Tell your husband when you get up in the morning that you will go to work in the future. What should Dabao do? You and your dad work so hard that they can't sleep well at night. I said you were exhausted, and I immediately remarried with two babies! My husband said it's not like I won't do it. Why do you always scold me? I said you were the father of the child, but I didn't scold you. Will you scold your mother?
I have no ability to ask her for help. I said I was pregnant with Bauer for nine months. I asked her to give Dabao a hug. He fell asleep crying (Dabao wanted to sleep but couldn't, so he had to cry and hug him). Your mother said her feet hurt and she refused to help. I used to have a back! Your mother often complains about her hard work. She gets up early and goes to bed late! I get up at seven, boil a pot of boiling water, put a dress in the washing machine, and then cook a pot of rice porridge. I haven't brushed my teeth and washed my face at nine o'clock. I started to sleep at noon 1: 00 and sent these videos to me at 5: 00 to 7: 00 in the afternoon 12: 00, telling me how my daughter-in-law can be the queen mother and how to be filial to the elderly!
I said that if she refuses to put Dabao to sleep at night, then you should work harder. I can't help it I can only take Bao Xiao. Now I think your mother is more like a parturient. She basically doesn't bring a baby during the day and night (she doesn't feed the child and throws it to my sister-in-law when taking a shower). Your mother is confinement, not me!
You can't vomit, you will be full of air when you vomit. I found a new moon ahead of time. I was born on February 28th this year, and the epidemic is not over yet. Mother-in-law didn't stretch a finger, and her husband told her to make buns. As a result, the mother-in-law followed her son, who made dough. This noodle is really hard. I put it on the balcony while heating it, and it was not made in warm water at last. When steaming, I saw 10 thousand alpacas passing by, but the dough was thicker. My mother-in-law means that her son didn't send it to her. The question is what you were asked to do. I don't know what other people's homes are like. In my family, my mother usually doesn't need my brother. They have to be there, and then they wrap a lot of dead bread. My daughter is over six months old. I was worried when my mother-in-law came. I had to wait on her without any help. In her eyes, it is normal for children to cry, so there is a scene where she looks at children with her eyes, while I cook and the children cry. The next month I cooked chicken soup, and my mother-in-law ran to the kitchen and told people that she liked fried food rather than stew. The point is that she ate a lot of stew. My sister-in-law came with her mother-in-law yesterday. When my mother-in-law came, she shouted at my daughter. The daughter fell asleep and woke up. Luckily, she didn't cry twice. My mother-in-law had to let my daughter eat a chestnut she bought the day before yesterday. We all said no, but she wouldn't give up. She gave it several times in a row, and my sister-in-law refused to eat it with her child in her arms. It's sad to meet such an ignorant person.
Fortunately, my family is a daughter, otherwise I would be rejected by my daughter-in-law! When I was a mother, I knew nothing. My children were brought up by my parents. I didn't dress my daughter six months ago, and I didn't bathe her before I was one year old (adults are worried that I can't do it well), so I will definitely not have grandchildren, because this skill doesn't come with age. I have already told my daughter that if I take it, I can't make irresponsible remarks. After all, I am a beginner. Women should be kind!
After giving birth to a child, my mother-in-law who gets up early every day chats with the next door on the first floor, announces the name of the dish, and then gossips that my daughter has a lot of hair and I don't have milk or something. It's really hard to listen to her nagging! ! ! ~ ~ ~ ... As usual, confinement doesn't allow you to go out! Four generations live under one roof, so you can't go out to eat and drink in confinement! There will be no takeout then, ......................................................................................................................................................................! ! I'm starving ... I'm starving when I wait for her to cook during the day. At night, she slept in my room, and the snoring shook the earth ~ ~ ... In the middle of the night, I got up to give the baby a bath ... I was really crazy at that time, so I got up in the middle of the night to write a business plan ... Now I still have the manuscript. Grandma cooks delicious food for me at home. There is enough milk.
I almost starved to death when I was locked up in my mother-in-law's house. Now that the child is big, I am relieved.
Nothing else, my mother-in-law is in poor health and her brain is not good. Whether it is true or not, it doesn't matter whether she is unfaithful or not. Because I don't have time to study who is better and who is worse. It is enough for me to be polite to others. Besides, she is in poor health, so it is difficult for her to take care of the children. Sister-in-law's child is one year older than ours, and her mother-in-law takes good care of it at home! But the child is hospitalized once a month. Therefore, it is more reliable for me to take care of my own children. It's terrible that her own daughter's children have developed like that! She can always tell exactly which are her daughter's children and which are my daughter's things ... food, drinks and clothes. I always think that such a small child is a small life. Is it necessary to divide it so clearly?
Later, my child was very healthy. Now that I am older, I feel more at ease.
Alas, actually I regret letting my mother-in-law take care of the baby. First, my mother and I have a problem. Second, she can't stay any longer. She goes shopping every day. I don't like it. As a result, a big war ended. If I asked an aunt, there would be no contradiction!
The second-born mother-in-law has something to do and the family is harmonious.
In fact, my mother-in-law is still very kind to me, but her own living habits are not very good. In the second month, I was more turtle hair. If I'm not satisfied at all, I'll just insist and make it a shame.
In fact, people's life span is not long. If you must get along, you must be tolerant and generous. If it can be solved with money, it is best to produce the beauty of distance.
Are you grounded for 30 days? My grandmother insisted that I sit for 33 days. She said she wouldn't get sick if she was confined for a long time. During confinement, she gave me half a chicken, a pig's trotters, six green eggs, a bowl of crucian carp soup and pigeon soup every day. Because my son doesn't drink milk powder, I have to keep up with nutrition to have breast milk. Now I think confinement is really happy.
Speaking of this topic, my grandmother is quite good. Let me talk about my postpartum situation!
First, be fed
Just after giving birth, the baby was pushed back to the ward. At that time, my hungry chest was against my back, and my grandmother fed me after they cared about me. At this time, I am more embarrassed.
Because no one has fed me since I can remember, even if I was fed when I was in love, I refused to be fed because I personally couldn't stand such behavior.
But I really don't have the strength after giving birth. I wanted to eat straight, but obviously I couldn't get up, and my whole body was limp. At that time, I felt like meat on the chopping block, and I was slaughtered by others.
Later, I accepted being fed by my mother-in-law for almost a week. My husband also said that his mother had never treated him like this.
Second, privacy protection.
The morning after giving birth to the baby, I have been wandering in ignorance. Needless to say, I was lying in bed, and I didn't use a pad to leak into the hospital bed.
After all, there was lochia at that time, and I hated it myself, but my mother-in-law had been treating and nursing it, even after I came home.
Third, the nursing of newborns.
My baby was born more than nine months ago. It's a natural birth, or a natural contraction without amniotic fluid and redness. But because the baby was born prematurely, he stayed in the incubator for a week before going home.
After the baby came home, I didn't care about anything, and I didn't intend to care about it, because I couldn't do anything. I just fed the baby and put the baby to sleep, and the rest was just eating my own food and sleeping.
Later, after the baby was born, I took over the care. My mother-in-law did a good job. At least there was no contradiction during that time, except that I was not allowed to post warm-up stickers, which restricted many infeasible behaviors and made me dissatisfied.
My mother-in-law is conscientious, but she will take care of people/babies, because she has learned to be a new moon. Anyway, my mother-in-law is straightforward and kind.
However, it is normal for mother-in-law and daughter-in-law to be at odds, because no matter how hard they try, how can they expect two people with different personalities and different ideas to live in harmony all the time?
Speaking of confinement, in fact, I am happier than many friends around me, because confinement is to take care of it, so there is not much contradiction with my wife (of course, there are also minor contradictions). There are differences in feeding children and other things. Generally, Lunar New Year comes forward to communicate with parents.
In fact, my wife is very dissatisfied with my confinement, because she thinks I look down on her if I don't let her take care of her, and asking for confinement is also a waste of money. She thinks she can take good care of me and my children.
However, my mother-in-law is not unreasonable. I told her that I invited Yue Yue not because I was worried that she couldn't take good care of me, but because I didn't want her to work too hard, because I had a lot of things to do when I was confined, and I had to take care of my mother, take care of my baby, and greet my relatives and friends who came to see the baby. I was worried that she was too busy, so I asked Yue Yue to help me. When the time is right, I need her to cooperate with Yue Yue. Yue Yue mainly takes care of my children and me, but she usually buys vegetables, cooks ginger vinegar and receives relatives and friends.
After listening to my explanation, my mother-in-law's heart was untied. Throughout the month, she and Yue Yue cooperated quite well.
However, my mother-in-law is always worried about money. When I am confined, Yue Yue will cook me a moon meal, because the food is bought by my mother-in-law, so my husband will give her money to buy food.
Sometimes my mother-in-law will be unhappy and come back to complain to me when the new moon makes the things she bought expensive. To tell the truth, I am speechless and feel very uncomfortable. After all, I didn't spend my mother-in-law's money, but bought it for me to eat. She came to me to complain, and I don't know what she thinks. So although I can't say anything directly, I will complain to my husband, so the hardest thing to do during confinement is my husband. ...
On the whole, my grandmother is a good person, although there will be some minor problems. I'm in confinement, and she helps me buy food, cook pig's feet and ginger, and greet my relatives and friends. Although there are some minor contradictions, it's no big deal. Let bygones be bygones. Isn't life like this?
My mother-in-law is the youngest in her family, and she is also spoiled. She gave birth to my husband and my sister-in-law by herself, both brought up by her mother-in-law. So I have no experience.
She was 52 when I gave birth to Dabao. Because it is a natural delivery, you can eat after two hours of observation in the delivery room. At that time, my husband went to cook for me (my husband was a doctor and I was a nurse in obstetrics and gynecology). Our hospital has a special rice production, and the baby has already pooped. She, a fledgling grandmother, thought she was going to take a bath after hearing from the people next door that she had to wash her baby's ass. I saw that she called a basin of warm water, stripped off the baby and prepared to go into the water! Maybe it's because I have a sixth sense Although I was very tired and rested in bed, in fact, I turned around at this time and quickly said to her, "Mom! Baby can't go into the water! " Then I quickly got out of bed and prepared to wash the baby myself. She was a little confused and just stood there watching. At this time, the director just brought a large group of people to make rounds. He saw me and said, "How long have you been born?" There are still wounds. Go to sleep quickly! "Then she taught her mother-in-law to wipe her child's ass. After that, leave me alone until the end of this month.
There is another thing that moved me in the month. As long as I fall asleep, she will cover my shoulders with two bath towels, and she will make me put on a cotton-padded jacket when I stay up for dinner (it was already February of the lunar calendar, not too cold). I'm getting tired of it. She always says, "Dai Ya, be careful with your shoulder. You'll be in trouble if you drop your frozen shoulder." I knew she was doing it for my own good, and then I didn't refuse. Later, when I went to work, I saw a colleague catch a cold the next month. When I changed the liquid for the patient, I raised my hand many times and it hurt badly. I realized how lucky I was to meet a good mother-in-law.
There are also times when there is a fly in the ointment. When I gave birth to Bauer, she gave me such good food that I gained 20 Jin! It hasn't been reduced yet. But I have confidence!
Now we get along well. Husband and father-in-law also say that we are more like mother and daughter, haha. ...
My mother-in-law is fine.
During pregnancy, my husband and I discussed and decided to take a month off. Now is the wisest decision, because I was born in the early hours of the morning and the new moon has not arrived. My mother-in-law took care of the children on the first night when I was in a hurry.
The next day, Yue Yue came. The child drank milk for half an hour, but Yue Yue stayed up all night. She is sleepy from drinking strong coffee. When the child woke up, so did she, so that our whole family could have a rest.
My mother-in-law helped me find medicine everywhere and took it for a week.
After leaving the hospital, my family will obey Yue Yue's command, and my mother-in-law will occasionally help here. My family is in an orderly way, and my moon meal is scientific and nutritious, and it's not very bad. My mother-in-law said that if he was allowed to cook, he would only cook eggs with millet porridge.
In fact, the most important thing in the month is comfort. Whether you are comfortable or not depends on your husband's attitude. Your husband loves you dearly, and your mother-in-law will love you dearly. If your husband is nothing, can you still count on your mother-in-law?