Guimei Melon, Green Melon, Igua Melon, Dugua Melon
Guimeigua 54. Guimei reveals in the Book of Changes that heaven and earth are in harmony, but only by keeping the right path can everything flourish.
The divination of returning to sisters inspires us not only the relationship between men and women, but also family ethics, the relationship between superiors and subordinates, the relationship between people, and how to treat the contrast between what we have learned and social needs. If these things are based on temporary emotions rather than eternal morality, they may be bad in the end. "The friendship between gentlemen is indifferent, and the friendship between villains is happy" is both a description and a profound warning.
The enlightenment to education is that educators should coexist rationality and sensibility. Macroscopically speaking, education should be loyal to morality, not temporary emotions, which is always the ultimate truth that school education needs to master. Under China's educational tradition and system, education based solely on students' personality, interests and needs is untenable. Although the purpose and process are beautiful, and under this educational thinking mode, some students will make breakthrough development and get unexpected achievements, but as far as most children are concerned, they have not accumulated for the future society. The theoretical hypothesis, ultimate goal and process goal of school education are always insurmountable responsibilities. Educators should be able to listen to students' needs emotionally and guide them to understand and abide by the rules rationally.
From the microscopic point of view, we should be alert to the excessive intimacy and alienation between educators and educatees. The arbitrary interference and restriction of educators on the educated regards the non-primitive identity relationship of the educated as the original identity relationship between the hand and the brain, and regards the educated as an inseparable and disposable part of themselves. It is not a successful educational strategy that educators lack the consciousness of differentiation among me, you and me. As a new teacher, sometimes I am confused about the distance from my students and can't grasp the distance from bad education. The advantage of no distance is that teachers and students get along day and night and have close interpersonal relationships. However, this often limits the development space of students. Many times, language is a convenient tool, rather than exploration. It refuses the bumps on the road of growth and prefers to fill students with indirect experience accumulated by human beings or summarized by themselves. How much they can understand is unknown. Intimate distance will eventually omit the growth of students. Without growth, what is the significance of education? I think it is great wisdom to be a teacher to keep emotional care and rational guidance.
Travel hexagrams 56. Tourism divination is to express various situations in a person's life journey through the scene of a person traveling abroad. It tells us that in the whole journey of life, you should be feminine, humble, cautious, quiet and peaceful, and bright and fair in appearance. This also tells us from the opposite side that even if you are in a high position, you should not forget your hometown, otherwise you will lose everything if you are not careful, and no relatives know your situation yet. This is a "trip", but also to understand the truth and laws of travel. When you travel to a place, you must abide by the local rules, understand and respect the local culture.
Isn't our life just a trip? From ignorance to maturity, from weakness to strength, every stage of life is like traveling to a place for us. We should abide by the rules of this stage, do well what we should do at this stage and create value for this stage, so that our life will be more meaningful. For example, children and adolescents mainly study hard to lay the foundation for future development; Young and middle-aged people mainly work, protect their families and honor their parents; Old age is mainly about self-cultivation, which adds luster to life. During this trip, you will meet and know many people. They may be passers-by in a hurry, or they may be people who accompany and influence you along the way. Everyone will bring you some influence to some extent, whether it is good or bad, it will bring different gains.
For education, on the one hand, the development of education itself is like a journey, always on the road. From the emergence and development of education to its evolution and maturity, we have gradually defined the purpose, significance, ideas and methods of education. For example, the fundamental task is to train people, and the basic goal is to train "socialist builders and successors with all-round development in morality, intelligence, beauty and labor." On this basis, guide students to "learn to seek knowledge, learn to do things, learn to be a man, and learn to get along." Let them apply what they have learned, combine knowledge with practice, be good at learning and thinking, and enjoy the fruits of learning, thus forming a good habit of lifelong learning, which is actually gradually explored and discussed by educators in the education process. On this long-distance education train, the students are passengers and the teacher is the conductor. Students may get off at every stop, and of course there will be students who get on the bus. Teachers play the role of guidance, reminder, supervision and supervision. On this train, there are teachers and students laughing with the scenery outside the window, and there are also regrets and guilt brought by students missing or getting off the wrong station. Of course, there are also students who get off from time to time and play the role of conductor.
On the other hand, every child's life is also a journey. For them, they will have different goals and ideals for the future, and they will also have different thinking and choices. As parents and teachers, we should discover children's potential and their thoughts and plans for the future, respect children's choices, encourage children to work hard and be down-to-earth, no matter how difficult it is, we must go on, not give up halfway, and strive to overcome difficulties and keep moving forward. At the same time, create more situations for them to feel and experience, and let them have a further understanding of their choices. Teachers and parents should not try to change their children's choices, because children should gradually learn to be responsible for themselves, and the future depends on them to explore. Since you have made a choice, you should have no regrets. What parents and teachers should do is to silently pay attention to and support their children, let them become their own masters, not "puppets", and let them experience more, which is more beneficial to their future development.
The fifty-seventh hexagram. Xun is a metaphor of "modesty" in the Book of Changes, which reveals the laws of mutual modesty between Yin and Yang, respect for inferiority and submission to the Lord, and has the significance of convincing people with reason and correcting people with ethos. Take the implementation of government decrees as an example. If the contents of government decrees are in the interests of most people, they may be unimpeded. However, if they are only in the interests of a few people and are not good for most people, it will be very difficult to implement them. There is a premise that the content of the law itself conforms to the public interest and follows the principle of justice, so that the content is convincing and more convincing.
The hexagrams tell us that to enter a new environment, we should not only be justified, but also be modest, and do things like the wind, soft and pervasive. The best education is spring breeze and rain, which moistens things silently, but the seemingly "inaction" way is the real education. Now, when communicating with parents, there are gradually problems that did not exist last semester. Adolescent children gradually have their own secrets. During the epidemic, parents want to supervise their children's study and life. Children will close the door and not allow anyone to go near private property. How to treat children's private world correctly is a difficult problem that parents and teachers are very cautious about. What do we do? When we enter a child's private space, we must know the child's hobbies and his living space in advance, which is similar to "melon melon". If the occurrence of divination began on the "A" day, you should deduce the situation three days before the "A" day and pay attention to the results three days after the "A" day.
From the teacher's point of view, whether taking over freshmen or dealing with students' thorny problems, we must investigate the previous situation clearly in order to deal with the problems effectively, and at the same time, we must track the students' follow-up situation and always pay attention to whether this matter has an impact on students in order to handle this matter in place.
From the perspective of parents, discussing his times and stories with children can drive him to open his heart and consciously share his personal growth and emotional experience. For example, idolized children, children who play games, and children who are puppy love will enter his "star world", "game world" and "puppy love world" and discuss his problems from his perspective. As an adult, it may be difficult to enter this world. I also met parents who told me that their children's games were too horrible to accept, but the children questioned them. In short, parents are speechless, so Haigua also tells us that we should be polite on the moral level, don't beat and scold children, belittle children, respect and understand children, especially children in rebellious period, who have their own ideas and goals. If we force them to change, it may have negative effects, so we can try to enter their world, understand and appreciate their situation, and think about coping strategies on this basis.
Reverse fifty gossip. The right in the Book of Changes reveals the harmonious and joyful scene when things develop to a certain stage and are in a specific state, and how to deal with the "Yue". So what is harmony and joy? My understanding is a happy and beautiful state. As far as life is concerned, there will be happy and beautiful times in one's life, and of course there will be painful and disappointing times. So, how to maintain this harmonious state? This requires individuals to be generous and frank when doing things and treating others, and always leave the positive side to each other, so that they will feel happy and satisfied in their hearts. But at the same time, we should also pay attention to calmness, and we should not lose the bottom line and principles of being a man in a moment of excitement, thus hurting others or being hurt by others.
Harmony is more instructive to education. First of all, wandering in the sea of knowledge is itself a kind of harmony, absorbing knowledge, enlightening wisdom and applying what you have learned. In this process, people will feel satisfied and excited, that is, the noblest cause in the world is education, and the longest harmony in the world lies in learning.
Secondly, cooperation with people, progress is also a kind of harmony. For children, they need an environment conducive to healthy growth, study partners and an inspiring learning atmosphere. By cooperating with others, we can not only accomplish one thing efficiently and get satisfaction, but also find the gap with others in it, thus making up for our own shortcomings.
At the same time, in the cooperative learning environment, we can encourage each other, urge each other and make progress together, so as to enhance our self-confidence and improve our comprehensive quality. Thirdly, harmonious education can make children learn more efficiently and grow up healthily. The growth of children from childhood needs the enlightenment of parents and the cultivation of teachers. So, how to enlighten them? How to cultivate? We need a harmonious education, that is, to let children study in a happy and pleasant atmosphere. How to create this situation? Parents and teachers need to follow the law of children's psychological growth, respect children, encourage more companionship, give more hope to children, grow up with children, and let children feel warm and happy, so that they can be "harmonious" and develop towards the goals we want. ?
Finally, harmonious education can not only change a child's life, but also affect parents and teachers. Parents and teachers will be infected while conveying warmth, hope and joy to their children, and they will also face their children and education with a more positive and optimistic attitude, thus affecting their children, promoting their more efficient study and practice, and developing towards our expected goals. This also satisfies our own wishes and makes us feel satisfied and happy. This is the value of harmonious education, that is, parents, teachers and children can influence and promote each other.