However, nowadays, the word "frigidity" can also refer to lack of sexual desire, which is generally called "low sexual desire", meaning that people are completely uninterested in sex life. Low libido can occur at any age and gender. If some healthy men get married around the age of 30 (begin to bid farewell to "virginity"), but haven't been married for a few years, they often complain that their sexual desire has disappeared or declined, or they are not interested in sex at all; At the same time, it is accompanied by a series of secondary symptoms, such as situational erectile dysfunction, emotional problems and even physical symptoms.
Count the number of times you have sex.
Someone asked, "What is the frequency of sexual life or desire? Is it normal?" Or "how many times of sexual life or sexual desire is called' low sexual desire'?" "At my age, how many times a month is appropriate?" ……
Indeed, due to the changes in modern life, people not only pay attention to the quality of sexual life, but also pay close attention to the frequency of sexual life.
We often encounter such a situation:
Couples or lovers accuse each other of low sexual desire, while the other accuses each other of high sexual desire. Leading to conflicts between the two sides in sexual requirements or sexual desire. In fact, it is uncertain how many times a couple should have sex.
formula
However, some people recommend such a formula, that is, multiply the ten digits of age by 9, take the ten digits of the product as time, and the single digits as the number of sexual intercourse that should occur during this period.
For example, for people in their thirties, ten digits 3 times 9 equals 27.
That is, having sex seven times in 20 days, about once every three days;
People in their forties are 4×9=36.
That is to say, you have sex 6 times in 30 days, about 5 days 1 time, and so on.
However, this is only an artificial formula. And sex life is often a thing that will happen at any time, influenced by passion. Therefore, you don't have to be bound by this; The only premise is that both husband and wife can afford such physical activities if their physical conditions permit.
It doesn't matter how many times, the key is satisfaction.
If after marriage, the sexual demand of one spouse is not only far lower than the calculation of the above formula. And I'm not interested in sex at all, which probably reflects the problem of low sexual desire. Of course, it also depends on personal psychological satisfaction.
Simply put, even if the number of sexual intercourse is very small, both husband and wife feel very satisfied. Without depression, there is no problem. It's just a personal choice. However, the study found that the frequency of sexual intercourse in early marriage is closely related to the frequency of sexual activity in middle-aged and elderly people. In other words, people who have strong sexual desire or good sexual function when they are young will have more sexual activities when they are old.
Less masturbation in youth is not necessarily low sexual desire.
A man once asked:
Many people can only masturbate to satisfy their sexual desire because they have no sexual partner when they are young.
But the problem is, I don't even have the interest to masturbate, and the number of times is very small. Is this low libido?
In fact, whether masturbation times can be used as a reference standard to predict sexual apathy can only be said that there is a certain relationship between the two, but it is not clear. In other words, less masturbation does not necessarily mean that sexual desire will be low in the future.
The reason is that the frequency of masturbation is less, which may reflect some physical or psychological problems of men themselves, or it may be a problem of personal living habits.
For example, I don't have much imagination or fantasy about sex, and the number of natural masturbation will decrease; In other words, some men feel that masturbation is not as good as real sex life, and as a result, they have not chosen it as a way to vent their sexual desire. Of course, if a man has congenital hypogonadism, then he naturally will not have sexual desire; But these people are often accompanied by other symptoms, such as underdeveloped sexual organs and secondary sexual characteristics, or slow growth and development. However, if a man suffers from erectile dysfunction or the duration of sexual intercourse is too short, both husband and wife are often unsatisfied, which may eventually lead to low sexual desire.
In addition, we should also realize that almost all men will lose their libido after 40-50 years old. Some people may not care about this change, while others are very nervous. In fact, sexual desire is an instinct, which generally does not disappear completely, but is easily disturbed by fear and emotional fluctuations.
Therefore, it is very important to remove the inhibitory factors and keep sexual desire as long as possible.
When sexual desire suddenly disappears or decreases, the following factors should be considered:
① anxiety
A comprehensive and intense emotional response and fear aroused by various situations.
Such as fear of pregnancy, insecurity, fear of being discovered by others, work pressure, tension and other non-sexual factors.
② Depression
Depression, self-devaluation, self-abandonment, being hit by unfortunate events, and hidden inner conflicts lead to depression.
③ Hostility
Open or hidden hostility, such as anger when a partner is found to be having an affair or cheating in the past.
Frustration caused by lack of enthusiasm or neglect, hostility or hostility caused by jealousy, etc.