I always see the news that some teenagers commit suicide because of depression. In fact, this is only a small part. People don't know more, not only depression, but also other mental diseases, such as anxiety, obsessive-compulsive disorder, schizophrenia and so on. The high incidence of adolescent mental illness will become a serious social problem, which will not only delay children, affect families, but also bring great trouble to society.
Family education, social factors and school factors are the causes of adolescent mental illness, but the root cause is family, so the key to prevention is to improve or even change family education, improve the family education level of parents, prospective parents and couples, and let them know how to cultivate children who are responsible, grateful, not afraid of difficulties, not afraid of failure and strong inside.
Because there are many problems in family education, there have been many problems, such as lack of responsibility and skills, and many children are gnawing at the old. Some of them are no longer children, and they are still eating their money in their late forties. Children have poor self-control, can't control themselves, eat irregularly, and have chronic diseases such as diabetes, gout and high blood pressure at a young age. Sensitive and suspicious personality, lack of security, weak anti-strike ability, many children suffer from anxiety, obsessive-compulsive disorder, depression and so on. Many children are afraid to go to school because of their poor will and flinching from difficulties.
To cultivate children with physical and mental health, we need to start from the family, and schools, communities and institutions should unite to cultivate families, so that parents can be qualified first.
How to solve the mental health problems of teenagers from the root? To tell the truth, every teenager's psychological problems are not formed overnight. It is difficult to solve them from the root, and it takes a long time and energy to communicate and accompany them. Many mental health problems of teenagers originate from family. Especially left-behind children, will have this problem.
In order to change this situation, parents and teachers should start to improve this situation from the following aspects.
(1) sample guide
The power of example is infinite. A good example can change a person's life. If there is no such example around, then find such an example for your child from the book. In the face of difficulties, tribulations and hardships, how have these role models done and what kind of success have they achieved? Facts have proved that many successful people find role models at the most appropriate time when they are in the most difficult time.
(2) Family companionship
Many children have psychological problems, inferiority and autism because of lack of family care and companionship. Many children are obsessed with mobile phones, online games and idolization. They live in illusory time to escape the anxiety and hardship of reality. Without the company of their relatives, it is easy to take things seriously when they encounter difficulties in life.
(3) Life education
This is the life education advocated by Mr Tao Xingzhi. I don't think any child can lack this kind of education. If parents only pay attention to their children's grades and study every day, children will easily get tired of learning, because learning is a long-term process. If you don't experience a sense of accomplishment in the short term, children will easily feel tired. After learning, let children feel life, including three meals a day, housework, social practice and even parents' work.
Children's problems are all family relations, such as bad family ecological environment, bad relationship between parents, insufficient emotional links in the early days, insufficient effective companionship of parents and so on. , causing problems for children.
My advice is,
First, before children go to kindergarten, parents should be given family education and training to understand that the relationship between husband and wife is higher than all relationships, even higher than parent-child relationship.
Second, set up a female or family psychological counseling volunteer in each community to help husband and wife in time when there are problems in their relationship.
Third, in every school, especially junior high school and senior high school, a psychologist is set up in every grade (this is particularly important) to regularly evaluate children's psychology and give timely feedback to their families, so that children can get timely assistance when they have adolescent problems.
Fourth, the class teacher must make home visits, and must not always focus on learning, and do not always talk to parents about learning problems. Family problems are solved, children go to school, and learning is not a problem. Let children like you better than learning. The class teacher found family problems, and the children's problems promptly reminded the family to solve them.
I believe that there are no bad parents in the world, only parents who can't be parents. If everyone knows the correct answer, who doesn't want their children to be healthy?